Gobsmacked by RCVS reply

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth

Thank you YTO for coming on here and giving your advice. I was one that asked the posts be mnoved to this area, so answers would, in a way be more sympathetic of OP.

I doubt OP will heed your advice

Coming back, I note this thread has been clensed, and my orignal continuity posts below, is now on page 1.

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth wrote: »

Round and round the mulberry bush we go!

For those arriving late, a resume.

OP lost her pet dog, due to an unforeseen injury.

OP has not got over it.

Previous post

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4828494

I joined in, December 13. I understand the previous thread was closed.

Enjoy.

stir_crazy

lostinrates wrote: »

Mse could delete them if she asked I think.

YTO's posts are both constructive yet not harsh. Right on the money IMO.

OP seems to me to be in a place where harsh comments are simply not going to help but infact make her route to finding peace over these issues much more difficult. In a state of profound grief and anger comments that are overly harsh can only serve to make oP more angry and defensive and drive her further into actions surely driven by sadness. A sadness most animal lovers understand, even if reaction might have been different.

I agree with you up to a certain extent LIR, but this is not just sadness and grief. The OP is not able to rationally consider an outside POV if it doesnt match with hers. I'm sure there are a few of us on this board who have lost their pet in traumatic circumstances. Yes, part of the grieving process is looking for someone/thing to blame - I know I did when my last cat had to be PTS because he was in the last stages of heart failure, he had been suffering for months because the vet had made a mistake in diagnosis.

Clearly the OP is still in the grieving process, but she can't keep going round in circles with this - it's prolonging the sadness and not allowing her to get over the loss of her pet.

lostinrates

stir_crazy wrote: »

I agree with you up to a certain extent LIR, but this is not just sadness and grief. The OP is not able to rationally consider an outside POV if it doesnt match with hers. I'm sure there are a few of us on this board who have lost their pet in traumatic circumstances. Yes, part of the grieving process is looking for someone/thing to blame - I know I did when my last cat had to be PTS because he was in the last stages of heart failure, he had been suffering for months because the vet had made a mistake in diagnosis.

Clearly the OP is still in the grieving process, but she can't keep going round in circles with this - it's prolonging the sadness and not allowing her to get over the loss of her pet.

I'm not going to enter into a character assassination of this person. If its more than grief (and I agree, most do not react so) then I thi my point about harshness not being the way forward might stand even more so.


As i said on another thread By OP , I sincerely hope OP is able to break the circle and find peace after her sadnesses and move on. I agree with you that none of this will help that happen at this stage.

stir_crazy

lostinrates wrote: »

I'm not going to enter into a character assassination of this person. If its more than grief (and I agree, most do not react so) then I thi my point about harshness not being the way forward might stand even more so.


As i said on another thread By OP , I sincerely hope OP is able to break the circle and find peace after her sadnesses and move on. I agree with you that none of this will help that happen at this stage.

Please don't misunderstand me, I'm not aiming to abuse or mock the OP, or kick her while she's down. In fact I feel complete sympathy for her being in this position.

I just think that these actions are not a good outlet for pain and are in fact prolonging it. I was harsh on the other thread, but it is something that I would say to someone that I know personally if I felt they needed to hear it. I feel that it is better for OP to try and consider the advice given or step away and get over her grief properly.

yorkshire_terrier_owner

stir_crazy wrote: »

Clearly the OP is still in the grieving process, but she can't keep going round in circles with this - it's prolonging the sadness and not allowing her to get over the loss of her pet.

Losing a beloved pet, in whatever circumstances, is devastating. My vet has links with a counsellor who specialises in the grief from a pets death.

As a breeder with a multi dog house, I have learnt over the years how to deal with the death of my dogs. I always say 'you can't have the joy of owning a dog without the pain of losing them'.

I have a strong relationship with my vet (30+ years - I am on first name terms with him and joke that I have paid for his sparkly new Mercedes!) but I do understand that he is human and mistakes happen. Nevertheless, when my little ones have required treatment, I trust him implicitly. I breed Chihuahuas and it can be very easy for vets to make mistakes with such tiny dogs. Given their size, they are also more prone to problems with things like changes in diet, drugs and operations. This means that I am always completely vigilant with my dogs so that any problems are picked up early.

lostinrates

YTO, what a coincidence! My DH had a lecturer who bred chihuahuas! Different location though!

(Edit...now though I'm wondering if its too much of a coincidence and I have misremembered breed.....hmmm)

yorkshire_terrier_owner

I just thought I'd share this story:

15 years ago I re homed a little Yorkie who had been a breeding girl on a puppy farm. She had been examined by a vet prior to me taking her and was diagnosed with a hernia. I took her home and subsequently took her to my vet. The hernia was misdiagnosed - she was in fact riddled with cancer. Now had she been diagnosed earlier and properly, her cancer may well have been treatable. As it was, it wasn't worth pursuing, so, with my vet, focused on making her last weeks as comfortable as possible. I had her for 12 weeks. She had had a horrendous life before she came to me, but I take comfort from the fact that the last few weeks of her life were spent surrounded by love and in comfort. She died in my arms. My vets bills in those 12 weeks totalled over £2000 but it was worth it for what I was able to give her in her last days.

yorkshire_terrier_owner

lostinrates wrote: »

YTO, what a coincidence! My DH had a lecturer who bred chihuahuas! Different location though!

(Edit...now though I'm wondering if its too much of a coincidence and I have misremembered breed.....hmmm)

Couldn't have been me as I've only ever worked in the West Mids.

Cool coincidence though!

RuthnJasper

WTFH wrote: »

There are about 60 pages of threads by this lady about this situation. She has ignored 90% of the help and advice offered here and every time her threads get closed or moved! she just opens another one.
The first thread had several posts removed from it, so it no longer reads quite as clearly as it originally did. These threads have been going on for over 4 months now and any advice which does not tally 100% with what she wants to hear is given short shrift.

Even after two years I am still devastated by the loss of my beloved dog Jasper. But; whilst I am terribly sorry for Hachette's distress and the loss of her dog, the continuance of the campaign and complaints are not helping anyone. The RCVS seem to have satisfied themselves about the matter in full.

And what about the vet? Vets, after all, are in the field to help animals (whether pets or otherwise) recover from illness and stay well. I suspect it is distressing to the vets when they lose a patient. I know that if I was a vet, and I had been unable to save an animal for whatever reason, I would be very sorry - but to then have repeated complaints and appeals about me, as well as unpleasant comments about me personally being thrown around the internet, I would be devastated. This sort of thing can destroy people's lives.

yorkshire_terrier_owner

There is a saying that I love:

Every time I lose a dog it takes a piece of my heart with them. Every time a dog comes into my life it gifts me with a piece of its heart. If I live long enough all of the components of my heart will be dog, and I will become as generous and loving as they are.

Anonymous.