Brother Wants To Purchase Mum's Council House..........

Lord_Baltimore

duchy wrote: »

Nice try- doesn't work with me though-I cut my internet teeth on newsgroups.

What part of "Conversation over " did you not comprehend ?

Sorry, I hadn't realised you are a seasoned veteran of capitulation. Better luck next time. Gawd.

poppysarah

Lord_Baltimore wrote: »

I expected indignant responses.

Look, it is not my decision that people can buy their Council homes.

Not their kids, not their brothers, not their second-cousin-twice-removed... them.

Lord_Baltimore

poppysarah wrote: »

Not their kids, not their brothers, not their second-cousin-twice-removed... them.

I see; so it's not acceptable to you that a son can buy a house for his mother? Are you saying that he not entitled to spend his money on whatever he wishes?

For all the suspicions here, could this not be a son providing dignity for a mum who has yearned all her life to own her own home?

I just don't know; nor do you.

zappahey

Are you now suggesting it's undignified not to own the house you live in?

Lord_Baltimore

zappahey wrote: »

Are you now suggesting it's undignified not to own the house you live in?

I am no more suggesting that than you are suggesting that as a taxpayer you don't like paying subsidies.

zappahey wrote: »

I'm not sure that, as a taxpayer, I'm keen on selling assets cheap to subsidise someone's sense of nostalgia.

I imagine though that owning a home is an aspiration of many who, given the opportunity might choose to realise it.

new2allthis

Seriously, folks, dial it down a notch, please.

I'm all for reasoned debate but it seems to me that this is now getting a bit out of hand. Perhaps, no one means it that way but it's also important to remember that the Forum is limited to writeen communication only. Any non-verbal cues that might soften any perceived sarcasm, indignation etc etc don't translate.

Plus - and perhaps, more importantly - debating the motivations and morality of the situation is not the why the OP (I'm not familiar with this acronym, so would be grateful for an explanation please) has sought people's viewpoints and advice in the first place.

Clearly, you each have valuable insights to share and are passionate in your desire to ensure that the OP has all the relevant information and considers all possible scenarios - that is to be commended. Certainly, I appreciate you all taking the time and effort to respond and help to people's queries - thank you! But, perhaps it's better if things are less emotive?

tabby_cats_mum

OP - Original Poster

poppysarah

Lord_Baltimore wrote: »

I see; so it's not acceptable to you that a son can buy a house for his mother? Are you saying that he not entitled to spend his money on whatever he wishes?

For all the suspicions here, could this not be a son providing dignity for a mum who has yearned all her life to own her own home?

I just don't know; nor do you.

Nah not a chance ..

No I don't know but I can have a jolly good guess.

Buying a house is very stressful. I imagine the idea of having to phone a child in another country and tell them they need to fork out fr a new boiler is also stressful.

Give the parent money if you want them to be happy.

Pixie5740

Let's just say that the son is doing this with the best intensions in mind. His mother already has a secure tenancy so is she really any better off owning the property? Probably not. What about any repairs that need carried out or if the home has to be sold to pay for the mother's care in the future? It doesn't seem worth it.

shop-to-drop

My mum's in hospital and just been told she is not going to get well enough to move back to her house even with extra support. This means that whether she goes into a home or comes to live with me if we can make room her house is going to need to be sold, as far as I can tell because even if she lives with me additional carers would be needed and adaptations to the house etc. I'm already expecting fallout from my siblings who will be expecting to inherit and may blame me and think I am benefiting at their expense.

Imagine if mum comes to live with you in her last years and you are in the same position where 'her' house has to be sold and the monies used for her additional needs. How would brother accept this?