Help with access to see my little boy

Bublin1

Is she demading anything?
What would appeal to her better nature? Anything that would soften her?
Just trying to think of something so you avoid the courts though if it came to that you can just walk into your local County Court, fill in forms and request a Contact Order court hearing. All for about £200. Solicitors aren't necessary for simple cases.

leftinamess

Bublin1 wrote: »

Is she demading anything?
What would appeal to her better nature? Anything that would soften her?
Just trying to think of something so you avoid the courts though if it came to that you can just walk into your local County Court, fill in forms and request a Contact Order court hearing. All for about £200. Solicitors aren't necessary for simple cases.

She is a very controlling and that is why she is using my son as a weapon now. I think all these reply's just add up to what I thought. Men have little if no rights and she can mess me about without any real consequence's

krok

Bublin1 wrote: »

Is she demading anything?
What would appeal to her better nature? Anything that would soften her?
Just trying to think of something so you avoid the courts though if it came to that you can just walk into your local County Court, fill in forms and request a Contact Order court hearing. All for about £200. Solicitors aren't necessary for simple cases.

He would have to go through the mediation services first before any court action to try to solve it that way.
If that failed he would get a letter from them to take to court saying that he has attended mediation.
He could then proceed to get a contact order through the courts.
Its a long process and doesnt help all parties but sometimes this is the only way for parents to get their rightful cotact with their children when one parent is using the child just in spite.

Mojisola

It's really important to make sure you have parental responsibility.

If your son is at school, make sure the school is keeping you informed and sending you a copy of everything that gets sent home to his Mum.

Also, in case things do get nasty, keep all her texts and, if necessary, record phone conversations.

Bublin1

leftinamess wrote: »

She is a very controlling and that is why she is using my son as a weapon now. I think all these reply's just add up to what I thought. Men have little if no rights and she can mess me about without any real consequence's

Don't be defeatist. Its not that you don't have rights, you do, you're just in a situation right now that will eventually be sorted. I have given advice re doing it cheaply and quickly through the courts. 3 years ago I was in your shoes where my ex boyfriend took me to court to get access - he was already seeing our dd regularly but literally thought it would be 'fun' to take it court. He's a sick SOB. Neither of us legal rep and after he made an !!!! of himself in front of the Judge he was granted the same access he was already getting. I look back on it now and laugh....the Judge had to warn him twice, threatening to hold in contemot of court. He showed his true colours in public!

At the end of the day you walked away and left her as the main carer. There is always consequences and this is still fresh with feelings involved. Just do whatever to see your child.

Bublin1

krok wrote: »

He would have to go through the mediation services first before any court action to try to solve it that way.
If that failed he would get a letter from them to take to court saying that he has attended mediation.
He could then proceed to get a contact order through the courts.
Its a long process and doesnt help all parties but sometimes this is the only way for parents to get their rightful cotact with their children when one parent is using the child just in spite.

Well 3 years ago my ex and I just walked into court - I had 10 days notice. No mediation. Maybe things have changed now. Oh yeah, he lied and said I had left the country so maybe thats why ours was sorted out so quickly. Judge looked at him and said, 'well clearly she is in the country!' Lol.

Any way....I don't want to derail this thread.

dandelionclock30

Best thing is to let her calm down and then appeal to her better nature and then try to resolve things between the two of you.
Even if you take her to court and end up with a contact order and she ignores it then often nothing is done anyway. You need to be aware of that as in reality they cant force her.

krok

If you cant get any contact with your child i have sent a link which explains everything you would need to do to go down the legal road.

http://www.familylaw.co.uk/system/uploads/attachments/0000/2078/CB1_1108.pdf

spacey2012

You will always catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
Rule number 1.

krok

spacey2012 wrote: »

You will always catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
Rule number 1.

The only problem is that some flies are carnivorous.