OS Daily Thread for Friday 31st January

LameWolf

I'm beginning to feel very guilty about planning a holiday; I'm on disability, and am only able to go away because Mr LW pays for it.:( He's thankfully still fit and well, and works full time; (the down-side of which is that I'm pretty much "confined to barracks" while he's at work) and his take on it is that he wouldn't go away on his own, so he is happy to pay for me to go with him, even though he has to push the wheelchair the whole time, and flying is not a practical option. I'll be honest, we're hoping to visit Belgium again this year - the idea being to go again, before I get too sick to travel at all.

I spend a lot of my time fretting that I am "sponging" off Mr LW (he says not, but I'm not convinced) - I certainly can't pay 50% of all the household expenses as I should, and it worries me to death.:(

Hard_Up_Hester

Afternoon all
I don't mind BIL or anyone else having a holiday, but he's scamming something somewhere, to be going abroad 3 times in 6 months. I reported my ex repeatedly when he was fiddling benefit but nothing was ever done.
Home from work, off to get DGD soon & then launch in to the weekend, woohoo.
Hugs Hester

luxor4t

LW - please don't feel like that. If Mr LW says it, then he means it. Have a dodgy hug :grouphug:

Edit to add: HH, I agree - super-scamming comes to mind given the recent destination.

Essex-girl_2

Lamewolf - you are a genuine claimant and Mr LW works, the people I know who claim disability benefit manage to do lots of sports and things whilst at their expensive caravan and have no intention of working

peony40

LameWolf wrote: »

I'm beginning to feel very guilty about planning a holiday; I'm on disability, and am only able to go away because Mr LW pays for it.:( He's thankfully still fit and well, and works full time; (the down-side of which is that I'm pretty much "confined to barracks" while he's at work) and his take on it is that he wouldn't go away on his own, so he is happy to pay for me to go with him, even though he has to push the wheelchair the whole time, and flying is not a practical option. I'll be honest, we're hoping to visit Belgium again this year - the idea being to go again, before I get too sick to travel at all.

I spend a lot of my time fretting that I am "sponging" off Mr LW (he says not, but I'm not convinced) - I certainly can't pay 50% of all the household expenses as I should, and it worries me to death.:(

Please don't fret. I know a little of how you feel, i no longer work due to illness and have not had the energy to see if I qualify for any help so my income is zero. I can feel bad too, as I feel that I am putting a lot of pressure on my husband, but I know that if positions were reversed that I would help my husband willingly, so I try and keep the house running as smoothly as i can as my contribution. Sometimes this is loading the dishwasher only. Thinking of you.

Time_to_face_the_music

LameWolf wrote: »

I'm beginning to feel very guilty about planning a holiday; I'm on disability, and am only able to go away because Mr LW pays for it.:( He's thankfully still fit and well, and works full time; (the down-side of which is that I'm pretty much "confined to barracks" while he's at work) and his take on it is that he wouldn't go away on his own, so he is happy to pay for me to go with him, even though he has to push the wheelchair the whole time, and flying is not a practical option. I'll be honest, we're hoping to visit Belgium again this year - the idea being to go again, before I get too sick to travel at all.

I spend a lot of my time fretting that I am "sponging" off Mr LW (he says not, but I'm not convinced) - I certainly can't pay 50% of all the household expenses as I should, and it worries me to death.:(

LW - shush! Mr LW and you are a team and he would be totally lost without you. You are the least likely candidate for the title sponger that I have ever heard of!

peony40 wrote: »

Please don't fret. I know a little of how you feel, i no longer work due to illness and have not had the energy to see if I qualify for any help so my income is zero. I can feel bad too, as I feel that I am putting a lot of pressure on my husband, but I know that if positions were reversed that I would help my husband willingly, so I try and keep the house running as smoothly as i can as my contribution. Sometimes this is loading the dishwasher only. Thinking of you.

peony - you should ask the CAB to help you with a check of your entitlement for help. I think there is an online tool to check too but I don't know the site, does anyone else know?

snoozer

Hi everyone,


Thanks for the continued good wishes. I am exhausted, the family (me and 3 of my brothers) have worked constantly to clean and try to clear the carp out of mum's house. I don't think that they threw anything away! They also bought duplicates of things, presumably because they couldn't find things like scissors amongst all the crap. Dad wouldn't allow anyone in to clean when he was here and although we have cleaned since it really needed a deep clean as well.


Anyway we have just about finished and it looks decent for the funeral and then we have to begin the sorting out of the finances, deep joy. There have been a few ructions already, mainly between in-laws rather than the actual family. I shall be glad to get away from it next week for a while.


LW, I'm another "sponger" off DH but as someone else said we are a partnership and I am so much healthier and happier since I stopped working outside the home that I know he is happy as I am sure Mr LW is as well.

camelot1001

Hugs to you snoozer, look after yourself.
LW - Don't be daft! I'm sure you do what you can and Mr LW loves you for it. You certainly do your bit dog-sitting, especially with your last boisterous visitor!

Very cold here with rain and sleet thrown in, trust me to wear a dress to work, I was convinced it would be raining all day and we wouldn't be going out into the playground, had to go out this morning and then half of lunch time and I was frozen!!

Had a good hoover round including the stairs so it looks a lot better, also collected 2 pictures from the framers and hung them, they were damaged in the move.

Hope you all have a good weekend. Take care. XX

LameWolf

camelot1001 wrote: »

LW - Don't be daft! I'm sure you do what you can and Mr LW loves you for it. You certainly do your bit dog-sitting, especially with your last boisterous visitor!

My next guest, my ol' mate Jessie, will be a doddle compared to Evie.:D I have to say though, Evie's going to grow up to be a super dog; she just needs to learn her obedience training, which I'm sure she will, and she'll be fine.

I couldn't do the dog-sitting without Mr LW's help; he takes over "walkies" if we have snow, as I can't take the mobility buggy out then or the snow would get into the workings and cause damage; and he always lets the dogs outside for their early-morning tiddle, and generally helps with looking after them (he did a lot of cleaning up after Mary).:A

Snoozer posi-vibes for you; it can't be an easy task getting everything sorted; and sadly, it's just the sort of time that family tensions can come to the fore.

Hard_Up_Hester

I hope you enjoy your holiday LW, its a completely different scenario from BIL. My hubby was out of work for the first 3 years of our relationship & I supported him willingly because I love him. He now earns more than me & he shoulders a larger share of the bills. He also never complains about my lack of energy since my illness & takes as good care of me as he can.
Hester