Real-life MMD: Waitress takes leftovers to give to a retirement home. Should I report

Seakay

kronenbourg wrote: »

seriously these weekly MMD crack me up the majority of them seem made up , surely these people need to grow a pair and man up or in this case woman up
if they have taken the time and trouble to ask such stupid moral questions on here then they lead really sad and sheltered lives

there are no stupid questions on this site so this response should be removed

sandrawoo

Its criminal to throw good food away when so many are hungry. Although technically she is stealing morally she is not. It really is not your concern though so leave her to it.

oldtrout

happyinflorida wrote: »

From you reply I don't think you've been in any care homes or nursing homes or homes for EMI - dementia sufferers - because I have and the food served up in most is horrible. It's cheap, it's mushy, it's pretty tasteless and in some the residents are not getting enough to eat at all.


My mum has Alzheimer's and she's been in quite a few homes. Currently she's in one that charges £675 per week - yes per week and she has lost weight continuously. She looks like something out of a starvation camp. I have complained, it's got no where. Social services are monitoring her - as they do all the elderly in care homes and they think nothing of people losing weight - "it's to be expected" She is fed cheap, rubbish. Her food bill must cost them maximum £25 per week and I'm being very generous there. They give her cheap yogurts that contain no good quality ingredients - they're like Tesco value range.


This is what goes on in the homes of the UK unless you are very lucky. I haven't found a single home that is well run or that gives good food. They are just making £millions in profit from the elderly and the infirm.


When I complained at one home where the EMI residents were half starved, my mum was put on the "At risk" register by the manager of the home because I tried to move her! Social services were immediately alerted by this manager and I wasn't allowed to visit my mum for 3 weeks whilst the SS investigated and they did nothing about the care home. I was "interviewed" by 3 people - luckily I could prove the manager was a liar and finally I was allowed to move my mum but you have to know the whole system is diabolical and so wrong and so unjust. The majority of these care homes are run by people who only want profit, the care home that caused me all these problems was run by a husband and wife who were both doctors!! I tried complaining to them but they didn't want to know about their "wonderful manager" - the whole system is open to abuse.


All I can say for sure is I will never, ever go in a care home. I would kill myself before I ever allowed that to happen due to what I've seen.

But you're letting your dear old mum live in one!!

oldtrout

kronenbourg wrote: »

seriously these weekly MMD crack me up the majority of them seem made up , surely these people need to grow a pair and man up or in this case woman up
if they have taken the time and trouble to ask such stupid moral questions on here then they lead really sad and sheltered lives

I agree. Most of them are not MMDs, just little problems and usually seem made up...

Surely there are some genuine MMDs people would like opinions on. As I've said before, we never, ever get a response from the OP about what they did, or if they found a solution.

Now that would be helpful to us all.

bigpat

The issue of blame or possible litigation should be completely put aside if food has been CLEARLY marked for disposal. There should be no excuse for throwing perfectly edible food away when so many struggle to make ends meet.

oldtrout

Seakay wrote: »

there are no stupid questions on this forum - if you don't like it then find another site where personal abuse is welcomed.
Post reported

They must be made up problems, otherwise why don't we ever get a response from the OP?

I don't think the problems are particularly stupid, just doubt they are real as they seem quite petty most of the time ... hardly dilemmas.

Ebenezer_Screwj

Why were you going to report her in the first place? Are you part of the rule enforcement team, or did you just want to get her into trouble? I would turn a blind eye to this, at my last place of work plenty of people took home leftover food from buffets supplied to meetings, visitors etc.

sharon6264

Thank goodness most of the replies I saw are horrified at the idea of reporting her!! I think it is an utter disgrace that due to whatever stupid (in my opinion) reason (health & safety/liability) food goes to waste instead of going to homeless or needy people. Yes I'm afraid I agree it is rather sad you even considered reporting her!!!

cuba2008

I wouldn't report her but would have a strong word in her ear. If she's really passing leftovers on to a care home she should be ashamed of herself. This is nothing to do with health and safety but is a food hygiene issue. Even at my wedding reception, the owners of the venue made it quite clear that food would only be left out at room temperature for so long before it would be replaced with fresh. I work in a coffee shop and everything unwrapped (cakes etc) has a shelf life of 24 hours (in a fridge might I add) before it has to be disposed of, even though, until the food is put on a plate and the customer eats it, none of it has been handled without the use of tongs. Where the elderly are concerned, it is even more important to be very careful. As someone else mentioned, delegates will have been handling the food and may very well not have washed their hands. I certainly wouldn't appreciate anyone feeding "treats" to my elderly parents that had come into contact with anyone else or been left sitting around for hours.

babushkava

The OP asks, in essence -
"Is it right for me to cause trouble for a colleague who is bringing a little harmless pleasure to some elderly folk, who probably have limited treats?"
Why would you want to? If you can't do good, then (surely) at least, do not set out to do harm.