registry office wedding - help and thoughts :)

Brighton_belle

InsideInsurance wrote: »

Remember everything has to be non-regligious; whilst the rules have been relaxed, Robby Williams' Angels used to be banned, its worth clearing anything with the registrar that they are happy with it.

You don't have any choice in this - you legally have to clear every song/choice of reading with the registrar before your wedding.
You fill in a form with all the details pre wedding.

AnnieO1234

There are several hotels in Blackpool that do wedding packages, not sure how good they are or anything like that but you get fixed rates for x number of guests, make up, food etc etc.

ska_lover

We had a registry office wedding last year, followed by a reception and buffet at a local venue. Our registry office is inside the town hall and it is a beautiful building in lovely grounds, we were so happy we wed there

The staff at the registry office were unbelievably kind and welcoming and really made us feel special. The ceremony itself was around 20 minutes long, and I wore a 1950's tea length wedding dress. The only personalisation we did was a piece of music as I walked in on my Dads arm. Was the most wonderful day

It really suited us down to the ground

meritaten

youngest son got married in our local registry office - which is in a very modern building. The room itself was beautiful and very tastefully decorated. Bride wore the big white dress and had 6 Bridesmaids and there was an aisle she walked down. The ceremony itself was lovely. took about half an hour. it was a lovely happy event. the grounds were lovely too and the staff were happy to let us stay as long as we wanted for photgraphs.

ellay864

Brighton_belle wrote: »

You don't have any choice in this - you legally have to clear every song/choice of reading with the registrar before your wedding.
You fill in a form with all the details pre wedding.

Not necessarily - ours were fine without knowing anything, we were amazed at how relaxed they were. They didn't ask to see readings which was just as well because one was personally written and a surprise to us. And one of our songs was written by my hubby so they couldn't hear that. They actually told us they weren't bothered as long as it wasn't actual hymns, but even then she said she had allowed one bride to have Ave Maria! Ours wasn't registry office but it's still registrars that make the decisions. Go to Chester if you want to get away with anything

EllieJ-x

haha thank you!
ive been worried about it feeling like a conveyor belt kind of thing but alot of people have said try and get the last of the day or an unusual day and they usually aren't so busy so fingers crossed won't be to bad.
in terms of songs and readings neither one of us are particularly religious so that shouldn't really be a problem for us luckily!!
ive been to a wedding in Blackpool they did the package part but you still have to pay for alot of room decorations etc so I'm not to sure yet, I'm looking about now at prices incase it works out cheaper. We hadn't told our families till last night what we where thinking of doing but they have been lovely about it, we have had offers to pay for a room, a dj, a cake and decs if we decide we want to do a full reception, ive even been offered a wedding dress haha! All as wedding prezzies from the family So we feel really lucky right now! We are booking in next week to look at our local registry office and finally see the room and look at dates, we've decided hopefully around september would be a nice time to do it and gives us longer to sort things then doing it April, we want to properly discus things over the weekend though you know with family offering us so much we still want to keep it our special day! So we want to sit and properly talk about what WE want for the day!
so excited though and hopefully wont be too stressful (fingers crossed)

Threebabes

EllieJ-x wrote: »

hi everyone, ill just get straight to it ...

me and oh have been together for 7 years we have 2 kids, a mortgage and a car, we've been engaged for 5 years. I always wanted to get married and have my grandpa walk me down the isle but he sadly died last year so now i just want to get married so that my nan and my oh's nan and grandad can see us do it so we are thinking a registry office wedding.

my questions though are ....
has anyone had a registry office wedding? What are they like? Ivee never been to one so have no idea what to expect

what should i wear? I thinks big wedding dress might be to much but don't really no what else i could wear

can you make any personal touches to the room with flowers or anything?

and ideas really for what to do after?

my oh is really bad at speeches and stuff like that so we where only going to have our parents and grandparents there and our kids obvs. He has alot of brothers and sisters though.

any help, thoughts and ideas will be greatly appreciated!!

thanks guys xx

I was married in a registry office, it was short and to the point, perfect for us.

Not sure about decoration of the room.

You can wear anything you want, wedding dress, or even your jeans. . Whatever you are comfortable in.

We booked a small room in Lumley castle for about 10 people (us and immediate family and DS), and had a meal. Thinking back now I wish we had just gone for a nice meal in a restaurant. We did not have speeches, it was very informal. For some reason I wanted a 2 tier wedding cake, now I wouldn't bother.

You could go back to your home and do a buffet.

Enjoy your planning.

InsideInsurance

Brighton_belle wrote: »

You don't have any choice in this - you legally have to clear every song/choice of reading with the registrar before your wedding.
You fill in a form with all the details pre wedding.

Dont recall filling in a form for ours but we had no readings and the music was from their list of music that they had on CD (and was never played anyway due to the broken CD player)

Not sure what they'd do if you deviated from what had been planned. Certainly some "characters" in families/ friends may want to be more ad lib/ prone to going off on tangents etc and dont recall a registrar ever interjecting

EllieJ-x

I think its the after part im unsure of now, whether to go for a meal or do a reception type thing, obviously with all the offers from family to pay for things a reception i would hope awouldn't cost us to much extra and loads of people that wouldn't see the wedding could still come and celebrate with us which would be nice for us and them, bit then i just worry that as soon as we decide that's what were doing it would be so easy to add extra little bits and then before you know it its costing a fortune where as just keeping it to a small family meal afterwards would eliminate that worry
i think I'm still unsure on how i want that part of the day to go! For me i will be so happy just to be married!

EllieJ-x

When we go for the meeting im just going to have to ask everything, just check all the small thibgs so i know 100% what we can and cant do. it must be different in every place with how they do things! hopefully fleetwood wont be too fussy!