please help put my mind at rest wedding no family

bugbabe

could people who have had small weddings please put my mind at rest am worried am going to look like i have no friends at my wedding ,i dont really have a family and have only been living in thisarea for about a year so dont know alot of people but ve been with my partner 18 years and have booked to be married in aug but am so worried about a reception as i dont have lots of people to invite its really spoiling what should be a exciting time any ideas what i can do for a reception ?

Jarvisma

I would totally agree with gravy girl. I'm not married yet but it's in the planning stages. I do have family here, but I haven't spoken to them in years (for various reasons) and would feel fake inviting them to my wedding and I have very few really good friends that I have kept in touch with over the years as I've moved around so much, so there's probably less than 20 people I want to invite.

Because of this we are going to hire out a lovely little boutique hotel and have a reasonably small intimate reception in the restaurant and I'm looking forward to that much more than some huge great hall filled with people I probably wouldn't choose to mix with anyway!

Don't feel bad or let it ruin things. Small intimate weddings are very fashionable nowadays anyway and the fewer the people the more you can spend on things like food and drink ( think what luxury you'd get for being able to spend £50 per head on 10 people instaed of £5 per head on 100 people, you can afford fillet steak instead of kebabs!), and all your guests will feel more part of a special 'select' crowd too!

Have a lovely day, with just the people that matter x

(Who wants Great Aunt Maud turning up just for the free sausage rolls and making the place smell of wee anyway!)

bugbabe

many thanks feel better already i know its a silly thing to get myself worked up about ,good luck to you both on your wedding

Elljay_2

Please don't worry about this. I have been to 2 very small weddings and they were both sensational. On one occasion we went to a pub after the wedding - in a reg office, so just next door and had the celebratory drinks there and then went to a restaurant for a meal.......
The second was a bit different, in that we went to a Hotel restaurant and had a slap up posh dinner. All for 12 people. It was lovely.
As everyone has said...it is YOUR day and you should spend it how you like with the people that matter MOST to you. You can make it as inexpensive or as sumptuous as you like. Personally I think it is nice to be able to speak to and listen to your friends on your big day. So often, you make an effort to go toa wedding, spend a lot of money and don't even get a chance to talk to the bride and groom!
Hope it all goes really well for you.......and the other posters too.

fabwitch_2

At my wedding in Las Vegas there was my Hubby to be , my three kids , my parents and my two brothers. We had a great time. Small and sweet, we had a meal in Planet Hollywood down the Strip. Please enjoy your day at the end its about you and your partner. I am sure you will have a great time. Wishing you all the best. My Husband didnt feel left out at all not having anyone from his family there . It was suppose to be just Hubby, me and kids but my Mum and Dad who are divorced wanted to come and my Dad paid for my two brothers to come over for the wedding.

Bagpuss1973

I really wouldn't worry about it. The most important people will be there, ie you and OH!!

The people you do invite will just feel special. Like others have said I've been to big weddings and not really seen the bride and groom let alone speak to them!

I know of couples who just have big weddings to get lots of presents..hardly the right sentiment for marriage!

Book a lovely restaurant or something and enjoy it and just think you will be able to afford what you want to have rather than thinking I have got to multiply this meal (or whatever) by 150.

snails's_pace

come on mse'ers.....we got a wedding to go to!! everyone dust off your hats!

LoLo

I got married in Hawaii 2 years ago, there was only me, my now husband, my mum and son. We had a fantastic time and I don't regret one bit. We did however have a video made of our wedding for my family back home.

Katmc2k

hello,

congrats on getting married! :j

just wanted to say i'm sorry you're feeling worried about this, but the others are right, its your day and it'll be fab. my brother is having the opposite problem! he and his fiancee are inviting 50 people each and most of my brother's invites are going on family-we have ten sets of aunts and uncles with cousins and there are 5 kids in our family with partners...his wife-to-be has very few family members and is inviting all her friends, work colleagues etc...so it works both ways

hope you have a great day.

seven-day-weekend

My friend's daughter and her new husband took her mum and dad, his mum and dad and her brother and his girlfriend to a meal at the local carvery for £3.99 per head. (Because she is a sensible girl and wanted to spend her money on a deposit on a house:money: instead of a large expensive meal.)

They all had a lovely time!

You will too. Enjoy!

MrsTinks

We were looking at a BIIIG wedding and when the total came to about £10-15k... we looked at each other and said sod this for a game of chess... We're havign a TINY wedding for close family and friends (less than 30 if I can help it!) and then we're going to try and hire the local pub for a BBQ/party/pub games when we return from the honeymoon. MUCH cheaper and much more "us"... As for who we're inviting... well OHs guest list is a lot longer then mine!!! But it's ok... He's gonna be there and everyone else is just a bonus!