Stress

Scorpio33

Hi,

I am currently going through redundancy, and I am finding myself extremely stressed and depressed about the whole situation.

Whilst I am glad that at least I am recognising the signs, I find myself unable to cope at times with the effects of stress and depression and what impact it has on my life.

Does anyone have any coping techniques or any advice as to how to deal with redundancy related stress and depression?

Bit of background about me:

34, married with one child (18 months old). Been working here for 4 years and my main cause of concern is the effects of redundancy or any new job may have on my home life (ie: less work-life balance)

Bantex_2

Scorpio33 wrote: »

Hi,

I am currently going through redundancy, and I am finding myself extremely stressed and depressed about the whole situation.

Whilst I am glad that at least I am recognising the signs, I find myself unable to cope at times with the effects of stress and depression and what impact it has on my life.

Does anyone have any coping techniques or any advice as to how to deal with redundancy related stress and depression?

Bit of background about me:

34, married with one child (18 months old). Been working here for 4 years and my main cause of concern is the effects of redundancy or any new job may have on my home life (ie: less work-life balance)

Just accept that for most that is life.
As long as you can pay the bills things could be much worse.

Zazzles

Scorpio33 wrote: »

Hi,

I am currently going through redundancy, and I am finding myself extremely stressed and depressed about the whole situation.

Whilst I am glad that at least I am recognising the signs, I find myself unable to cope at times with the effects of stress and depression and what impact it has on my life.

Does anyone have any coping techniques or any advice as to how to deal with redundancy related stress and depression?

Bit of background about me:

34, married with one child (18 months old). Been working here for 4 years and my main cause of concern is the effects of redundancy or any new job may have on my home life (ie: less work-life balance)

I didn't want to just read your post and run, as my boyfriend and I have both gone through redundancy ourselves at the same time (we both worked together in the same place).


What you need to remember is, this thing that has happened to you was not your fault. Life is full of changes and its mostly things we don't want to happen! But sometimes we just don't have any control and have to learn to adapt, and be positive! Yes things will be different now. While you are looking for work it will be difficult and can be a strain on even a perfect relationship. Redundancy can leave people feeling depressed and worthless. But remember, this is just something that has happened to you, it doesn't define you. When you do get a job your work patterns will change, you will see eachother and your child at different times, sometimes less than before.


Just remember to make the most of the time you do get, and think that no matter how difficult it might be you are always trying to provide the best life for your family. Hopefully your family is supportive and will help you through.


The most important thing it to talk to your partner, about your concerns and things you are worried about. To get things out in the open and share what is bothering you can be the best coping technique ever.

terra_ferma

Scorpio33 wrote: »

Hi,

I am currently going through redundancy, and I am finding myself extremely stressed and depressed about the whole situation.

Whilst I am glad that at least I am recognising the signs, I find myself unable to cope at times with the effects of stress and depression and what impact it has on my life.

Does anyone have any coping techniques or any advice as to how to deal with redundancy related stress and depression?

Bit of background about me:

34, married with one child (18 months old). Been working here for 4 years and my main cause of concern is the effects of redundancy or any new job may have on my home life (ie: less work-life balance)

One rule that myself and my OH are trying to apply to our life is to stop worrying about what might happen, as more often then not it doesn't happen...

You don't know what the future holds, often people end up falling on their feet and getting a job that suits them better
It's more important to use your energy to shape your future in the right direction than worry about something that may happen.
Think about what you want, look at the opportunities available and take action to make it happen (also think about a plan b in case things don't go the way you'd like).

Another technique is 'what is the worst possible scenario?' 'what can I do if that happens'. And sometimes things are not as bad as they sound in my head, there is solution/mitigation.

I don't know if this helps you in any way, but it's made a big difference to my life, as I'm anxious by nature

76rosie

i have been diagnosed with work related stress.

I am taking medication and have been giving counselling.

But they don't just talk to you. There is actually practical stuff to help. Have already been told there are people that can help with employment.

i want to be ok and they are helping me get my confidence back, and learn to relax.

apparently you can even get prescribed exercise. All of which makes you have a better outlook to the situation you are struggling with

fed_up_and_stressed

Hubby is going through this too so you have my thoughts xx

Just remember it is THE JOB that is being made redundant and no reflection on YOU as a person or a worker.

[Deleted User]

Time is the greatest healer of them all, don't rush into anything Scorpio if it takes months to get back then on track then so be it, things might get tough but you'll cope, use all the help you can get x

marlot

I was made redundant about 15 months ago, and likely to be again this year. The job market is a lot better now than it was then. Hope you find something good soon.

marlot

Just to add, something I found useful was joining toastmasters (they are a speaking club - nothing to do with wedding speeches). The practice helped me to come across as much more confident at interview. They are very skilled at identifying the skills you have an encouraging you to build new skills.

But even if you don't do toastmasters, try to get out there and associate with positive people.

C_Mababejive

At least the state will almost always provide for a family with children. A single male on his own? He can die in the gutter and no one will save him..

jewelly

C_Mababejive wrote: »

At least the state will almost always provide for a family with children. A single male on his own? He can die in the gutter and no one will save him..

Erm ... The system is the same towards single females too you know!