CSA and self employed fathers

TheWaltons_3

kelloggs36 wrote: »

Thanks guys! I am so used to people saying that all the money belongs to the child, but in the real world there are bills to pay and food to buy, all of which of course does benefit the children, but this case is slightly different as we have not received anything when we needed it and will all come at once! At least we can relax (once it comes of course) knowing that we can at least support my DD whilst she is at uni if she gets desperate as we won't have the credit card bill hanging over us any more!

DJdido - I would never give up but obviously if it is causing you stress you must come to your own decisions. I tried not to get stressed over it as I had nothing to lose so I could keep fighting. Of course each action (or lack of it) was stressful and frustrating, but it was never the end of the line. For every letter HE got from the CSA was a reminder that he does in fact have a daughter - as much as he would like to forget that fact!!!

In reality, had you been receiving this money monthly... it would have gone towards household bills/clothes and all the other blah we've got to do... and your Daughter wouldn't actually get the money in her palm, but she would reap the benefits....

.. this case IS different because you've been supporting your Daughter, along with your husband, when getting nothing in from your ex. If I had a new husband supporting my kids, well, it would only be bloody right that I helped pay our debts with that lump sum!

Giving it all over to your Daughter would cause more hardship in the long run. Get yourselves straight and put the rest in savings. Forget what anyone else thinks... they're clueless!