OS Singlies - We Do It Our Way!

pollyanna24

LavenderBees wrote: »

On a totally different subject....has anyone ever ridden/driven a moped?

...I'm day dreaming how I could possibly retire early, OR if I didn't have my current job and company car for any other reason.

The nearest town is 7 miles away up and down hills...does a moped seem like something that could replace a car for wee shopping trips....? Could it be parked/locked safely in a car park so longer trips could be done by bus?

Am I day dreaming too much?? Obviously, the aim would be to reduce costs for travel as much as possible but still retain a little bit of independence.

I used to have a moped and loved it. This was before I drove a car. Now I love my car. But then I do have mini mes to carry around and they come with a lot of stuff.



I used to ride my moped into London to work, cheap to run and park. And great for getting you around the place. Only thing I didn't like was that I had to carry my helmet around with me as it wouldn't fit in the space under the seat.

Byatt

Ok...I have done more socialising in this past week, than I have done in the past 7 years, :eek:, and I'm flippin' knac...uuhhmm exhausted. :cool:

I have said yes to everything and actually turned up, almost a first for me . I now have several events over the next month, and compared to the others in the group, my diary is still lacking! :cool: I find it really, really hard to be in a group, and although I can talk to the person sitting next to me, I find having a multiple audience daunting. Can I keep this up? I'm not sure, but I will give it a damn good try. Even though I am so far from my comfort zone I need a passport!

Peaceful night in...:rotfl:

moneyistooshorttomention

Byatt

Just comfort yourself with one of my private mottos (of which I am getting a bit of a list these days....) and that is to regard going out of Comfort Zone as a learning experience.

My own Comfort Zones are "tighter" than many peoples (long story I aint gonna go into....) but that is what I tell myself and it sure is often a learning experience one way or another....

Don't forget a Singlie Motto = Slap a smile on face and get on in there.

EDIT: and for a second thought about Group Songs. How about googling YouTube for the Destiny's Child "I'm a survivor" song?. Motto = Have Guts will Go.

Byatt

Thanks MTSTM, yes, definitely a learning experience, I am also trying not to jump to conclusions about people based on one meeting! :eek: I am shy by nature, although I can blag it more now than I used to, but being introduced into an established group, no matter how welcoming, is difficult as you learn their social norms.

I've really catapulted myself into being social this year but low self esteem does gnaw away at me and inside I feel a bit like that character out of Dickens :rotfl:, the one who's smarmy and obsequious (sp), wringing my hands and thinking, please accept me. On the outside, I am chatty and friendly.

Plus lots of people overwhelm me emotionally.

calicocat

Byatt wrote: »

Ok...I have done more socialising in this past week, than I have done in the past 7 years, :eek:, and I'm flippin' knac...uuhhmm exhausted. :cool:

I have said yes to everything and actually turned up, almost a first for me . I now have several events over the next month, and compared to the others in the group, my diary is still lacking! :cool: I find it really, really hard to be in a group, and although I can talk to the person sitting next to me, I find having a multiple audience daunting. Can I keep this up? I'm not sure, but I will give it a damn good try. Even though I am so far from my comfort zone I need a passport!

Peaceful night in...:rotfl:

I'm a bit like this too, much better with smaller groups and 1:1. I just don't have a massive 'small talk ' brain I don't think. Yet on the other hand I don't really like doing things on my own as i'm rubbish at getting to know people (again due to lack of small talk).

Good for you though getting out and about and doing it, the more you do it the easier it will get i'm sure.

lostinrates

Byatt wrote: »

I am also trying not to jump to conclusions about people based on one meeting! :eek: .

Really important.

A balance between but 'safe person' or 'not safe person' shouldn't be ignored, but 'nice or not' perhaps give a few chances IMO.

A few examples? Most of the time I have a pretty good gut instinct I think, But there are really notable exceptions to the rule.

My best female friend? I thought she was dim and dull, and she thought I was rude. Her call was right, mine wasn't. . She's kind, sweet and well read and really proactive.

Another female friend who I met when she became a client. She turned up prospectively. I wasn't thrilled but she seemed quiet, like she'd be we'll behaved and keep herself to herself and cause me no problem. In fact, I thought she was reserved . I was wrong again. She's a bit of a party animal too, far from quiet and reserved once you know her. But still no trouble thankfully.

My husband. . Couldn't have been less interested when we first met, and agreed to meet him for a drink really because he seemed sweet and I didn't want to 'knock his confidence' :rotfl:. :rotfl:.


People often are nervous and put on a bit of a front when they first meet, either holding back and appearing cool, or putting too much out there. But over time we find an equilibrium with a variety of people given a chance.

BookWorm

Evening all

Feeling a bit sorry for myself tonight as got swollen glands and swallowing hurts I have gargled with some antiseptic stuff so just waiting for the blah feelings to pass

Hugs

BookWorm

lostinrates wrote: »

People often are nervous and put on a bit of a front when they first meet, either holding back and appearing cool, or putting too much out there. But over time we find an equilibrium with a variety of people given a chance.

That is so true. Well summed up LIR

lostinrates

BookWorm wrote: »

Evening all

Feeling a bit sorry for myself tonight as got swollen glands and swallowing hurts I have gargled with some antiseptic stuff so just waiting for the blah feelings to pass

Hugs

This is not medical advice, but......

Dairy milk chocolate is brilliant for a nasty throat for temporary relief.

You need a big bar and to have a good amount, say, four squares, till relief gained, then to keep nibbling.

The oil/fat, lubricates.

Best tip a GP ever gave me in an SOS situation. .

BookWorm

lostinrates wrote: »

This is not medical advice, but......

Dairy milk chocolate is brilliant for a nasty throat for temporary relief.

You need a big bar and to have a good amount, say, four squares, till relief gained, then to keep nibbling.

The oil/fat, lubricates.

Best tip a GP ever gave me in an SOS situation. .

love this
heads off to the cupboard to see what's in.... :rotfl: