Everything Leads Into The (new year) Elite thread

nictrinwyn

Evening guys
Have I missed much? How did your fast day go Tiny?
I have been a busy bee, so didn't eat a thing til about 5pm

Was trying to have a quick catch up. sorry to see what your wife did to you scamps, really horrid thing to do. I will let you all know about my car in a sec, just grabbing some water.

MKS

Tinyshoes wrote: »

I am not buying anymore cheese. :eek:

Will brie do maybe I could melt it a little. :rotfl:

By the look of your fridge, you won't have too.:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

No, it won't be the same.

silvercar

scamps1966 wrote: »

No worries on your thoughts. A little back ground.

My wife comes from a very small family, her twin sister, parents, 2 nieces and her son. Her mother is very controlling and if anybody disagrees with her she'll shun them. We had 6 years of total bliss from 2004 to 2010 when my wife didn't speak to her parents. Before we met, my wife was married to a very successful buildings designer and her mother was happy with this as she's very money orientated. I'm a normal worker and grafter to which she dissapproved highly!! (she refused to come to our wedding, in fact it was over a year until I met her parents!)
Since she got back to talking to her parents, I was 'tollerated' although they never gave my wife a moments peace about us, picking up on anything that was wrong like lack of money, not doing a car boot, just about anything she could think of just to have a go.
I'm not alone in this. Her sisters husband has had the same treatment and it was he who finally snapped 3 months ago and walked out after 15 yrs of marriage. My wife and her sister have been 'controlled' all their lives so it was just a matter of time.
I know she still loves me as I do her, but events have taken their toll. She's been told what and when to do it, so I feel no malice towards her, just pity.
I know she'll regret that things have happened this way, but I know that with the support I have on here and with friends, I'll be OK, I just hope she will!!

Sorry if this has turned into a 'war and peace' epic, and I know I didn't have to divulge this information. But it's good to get it out.

Long live the Elite. XXX

P.S. I have never had an affair in my life.

I totally understand this. We have family who try and control and manipulate. Luckily we are strong enough to realise that keeping our distance is best, but there have been times of extreme pressure.

I hope it all works out for you. I'm sure it helps you to know that she is "under the influence" rather than willingly be malicious.

PS ever tempted to sign her family up to dodgy magazines:D

fairclaire

Sunshinemummy wrote: »

2 of 4 and 1 of 4... makes sense to some x

any more than 3 and it's an orgy :cool: :eek: :rotfl:

davemorton

davemorton wrote: »

don't you mean 1 of 4 and why you quoting yourselves

No, 2 of the four, and I quoted myself because I can, im special :P

Tinyshoes

SFSB you and your DW's reasoning is not necessarily true.

When I split with my ex I probably had every reason under the sun to do what Scamp's wife has done to him.

Let's just say I am lucky to still be here to tell the tale and I don't tell it often.

But as Patty said I too would be ashamed of being a woman if I did those things. 2 wrongs don't make a right. Once I had the courage to leave, I did everything by the book, even freezing the joint bank account with my not long paid in wages. (my ex was paid cash so I never saw a penny of that.)

I was quite young when it all happened but I can hold my head high and not be ashamed of/regret anything I did. I don't think in a few years time Scamp's wife will be able to.

Sunshinemummy

fairclaire wrote: »

any more than 3 and it's an orgy :cool: :eek: :rotfl:

Flip, I did not know I had participated in a few of them!

:D:D:D:D:D

fairclaire

silvercar wrote: »

I totally understand this. We have family who try and control and manipulate. Luckily we are strong enough to realise that keeping our distance is best, but there have been times of extreme pressure.

I hope it all works out for you. I'm sure it helps you to know that she is "under the influence" rather than willingly be malicious.

PS ever tempted to sign her family up to dodgy magazines:D

This is exactly what I mean :T:T:T no matter what your problem is here.....someone will come along that knows the answer or has been through the same thing

vanilla_twist

Forgot to say I had nice little shop after hospital appointment yesterday.

Pack of 2 bras in sale £8.13 after the pre xmas debenhams voucher.
Also went int BS so mum amd I could have a birthday each.at the till was the new free gift with lyb card value £10 nice big tube of face mask. Girl let me buy a lyb card as my birthday gift so free large facemask and another birthday to use so cost nothing. Not often in other towns to use extra birthdays no needed to be done.

Scamps nice to see you got out. Bet you did a scout for 1p items.

V x

fairclaire

Sunshinemummy wrote: »

Flip, I did not know I had participated in a few of them!

:D:D:D:D:D

Well that's you Im fussy :rotfl::rotfl: