The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

piggles1

maman wrote: »

Could the studying be an idea for distraction piggles?


I wonder if it would work for you if you planned in advance when to have a drink rather than feeling you've slipped up and something to feel guilty about? Sort of giving yourself permission. Maybe if you said something like I'm having a beer on Saturday night. Then if you didn't really enjoy it you'd not be keen to repeat the exercise.


Do you enjoy it when you have a drink?

Apologies this took me so long to reply maman! I suppose I say slipped up because I don't really want to drink at all. I do enjoy it when I drink because it's like sitting back in my old comfy chair again. But that's part the trouble, I'm hovering between wanting to be/feel the way I used to, and wondering if I should be different and not drink. A lack of firm identity if you like, although that might not be putting it the right way.

If wine/beer was free, had no ill effects and I didn't pay for the enjoyment it would be fine, but it's not like that is it!

I already study so the counsellor was maybe latching onto something easy rather than dealing with the difficult things. She was making suggestions that weren't really necessary.

My sleep has gone a bit patchy for ages now. I keep waking every 2 hours overnight, and even though I go to bed just after 10pm I'm still awake at 1am. I think I'm doing what I did as a kid though and resisting sleep

I'm doing well on the AFDs though,
7/17AFDs please shaggy

debjay

8/18 for tonight please.

satchmo1

8/20 AFDs. I've been sleeping badly recently, and at 2am this morning woke up from a nightmare that my mum had gone out by herself for the day and still wasn't back. I can see where it was based, but the place I was waiting for her was my childhood home where she lived for over 60 years until 18 months ago. I was still awake 2 hours later, so it was a struggle to get up at 8am... took me half an hour to get up, which meant I then had to rush round like a baf, sigh.

Honey_Bear

11/31 please, Shaggy.

shaggydoo

Afternoon :santa2:

3 more ALDs for Tuesday, Wednesday & Yesterday.



Shaggyx

shaggydoo

December:

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF
= 28 days AF

= 31 days AF

= target achieved


Alcohol Free Days

AvoGeek /15

Barny1979 6/15
CountingPenniesClaire 9/23
DebJay 8/18

Doshwaster 6/18
Honey Bear 11/31

Maman 6/10
Piggles 7/17

Pricey 2/20
Satchmo 8/20

SandyPan 2 /15
SmallHoldingSister 10/21

Alcohol Low Days
DizzyImp 7/19
Shaggy 7/16




Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!

satchmo1

9/20 AFDs today. The urge was strong to have a sod it drink, but I resisted because I consciously thought about the consequences of opening a bottle of wine.... I'd drink the lot... and it'll interfere with parkrun. Quite proud of myself for not overruling the sensible head (for a change). The power of parkrun is strong!

CountingPenniesClaire

Yesterday was a night out so some drinks involved. And we saw krampus at the movies (can thoroughly recommend if you like comedy horror with a Christmas theme - bit gremlins-y). Today is an AFD and I am declaring early so 10/25 please shaggy!

Honey_Bear

Good choice there, Satchmo. I hope Parkrun went well.

Just been to my first Christmas do which was excellent, watched the group I was with get thoroughly pickled, had three B**ks B**es and came home sober to walk the dog, leaving them to soak up the rest of the wine. I have no doubt there will be more over the bar before they've finished.

I love being sober. I passed Day 500 a few days ago, celebrated it with a big bar of wholenut chocolate and an enormous feeling of relief. This is, without doubt, even better than having stopped smoking about nine years ago and I was pretty chuffed about that, too.

12/31 please, Shaggy.

smallholdingsister

HB its funny that relief.
Its very different to the previously felt relief of having enough wine in.

11/21 please Shaggy.

DH has bought some nice red to keep to himself. Er...no.
Hoping for an ALD today.