The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 13

satchmo1

Stay safe and dry, Dizzy

Chardonnay

Hope everything's ok there Dizzy - must be a big worry for you!

7/17 please Shaggy.

shaggydoo

November:

= 7 Days AF

= 14 days AF

= 21 days AF
= 28 days AF

= 30 days AF

= target achieved


Alcohol Free Days

Alex 15/28
Barny1979 11/20
Chardonnay 7/17

Charmed 2/22

Dansmam 2/30
DebJay 12/22
Doshwaster 13/24

Gien 5/15
Honey Bear 12/30
Maman 7/10

Milky 4/10

MissingMum /10
Piggles 9/15
Pricey 10/20

RolandTheRoadie /27
Satchmo 11/20
SandyPan 11/28
SmallHoldingSister 14/29

Tee /15

WBF 3/10

Alcohol Low Days
DizzyImp 9/23
Shaggy 11/22




Everyone Welcome! It's never too late to join....

Please highlight your AFDs in Red

Don't hesitate to let me know if I've made a mistake!

maman

satchmo1 wrote: »

Stay safe and dry, Dizzy

Yes, hope all OK now dizzy.:)


Definitely AF today.


8 AFDs please Shaggy.


Have a good week everyone.

Honey_Bear

I hope you're still dry Dizzy.

16/30 please, Shaggy.

piggles1

maman wrote: »

Fell free to ramble on all you want piggles. Everyone on here has a story to tell, that's why we're here. Sharing them can often help others as well as yourself.


I'm glad chardonnay who can properly empathise with the OCD. I know very little about OCD personally but I'd have thought being in control of your drinking should help rather than fearing that it was getting out of control. Being in control for me doesn't mean giving up but choosing when I want a drink and when I don't. I hope you really enjoy the units that you do drink.

Chardonnay wrote: »

Thanks maman. Getting in control of drinking is definitely a really positive step with dealing with OCD for sure. Not easy to do when you've used it as coping method for so long (talking about myself here) but I found confidence came with learning that I can deal with my anxiety without alcohol and a lot of the time it was making it worse.

Hope you can find something that helps you Piggles - don't give up, they are making bigger and better strides in helping people to live better lives with OCD.

Thanks maman and chardonnay Yes I often wonder if what I say does help others reading it as well. The simplest explanation for OCD is having obsessions and compulsions. So for me, apart from the checking for safety thing, it was drawing lines on the bottle to not go over when I was drinking, having to have a certain glass, filled to a certain level, at a certain time, in a certain chair, like rituals with everything. But it's when the rituals take over it becomes bothersome.

To stop drinking with OCD for me means relinquishing all the clock watching and measuring but also the relaxation that comes from drinking. It's more difficult because I've ended up with loose hours that were previously about obsessing with the bottle, pouring out loads of little measures until I was relaxed after I'd drunk a lot.

It was almost as if wishing I wasn't such a slave to drink became another obsession that I held on to. Thinking 'I wish I didn't have to keep doing this drinking' and I used to trick myself and draw ambitious lines on the bottle that I'd then forget were at a level far less than I could have had. That worked to an extent.

But all the measuring and drawing lines probably clouded the actual issue which was knowing I needed to cut down. That's the thing with obesssional thinking, it's a way of avoiding the real issue which is right in front of you.

Since not drinking my OCD has got much worse in some ways because I'm not relaxed, but better in others because I have a clear head.

The trick with me seems to be to go to bed at 10pm which is early enough that the house doesn't feel like it's the scary middle of the night and make my checking really bad, but late enough to feel sleepy.

I've had two more AFDs weehee. So last week I only had 2.5 units. That's a big difference getting down to that from being a daily heavy drinker

11/15 AFD please shaggy

piggles1

Dizzy_Imp wrote: »

9/23 please Shaggy. River is still rising this evening and the fields behind our neighbours have already flooded :eek:

I will not be drinking until the water levels are back to safe readings. I suspect after that, I'll be having a glass or two...or five...

I hope it dies down soon dizzy. Things like that can be really anxious-making. Fingers crossed for you.

satchmo1

12/20 AFDs today. Feeling bleugh, linked to IBS after a stressful week last week, so an early night for me tonight.


Hope everyone is safe, well and dry.

Barny1979

12/20 AFDs today, currently on holiday in Gdansk, lovely place, but feeling in a low place, not sure why though, may be the dark early nights.

debjay

Sorry to hear that you're not feeling great Barny.

13/22 for tonight please.