Advice on eviction

The_Negotiator

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Hiya Rocky, I havn't read all these posts but keep your chin up - this fourm is full of people sitting behind a computer causing trouble.

I find you get so overwhelmed trying to proof the haters wrong - that the people trying to help get over looked.

Ignore them, and they have no fuel to reply - just focus on the lovely people helping, end day what does it really matter what a bunch of random people think.

Wish you luck and I hope things work out for you.

False hope is dangerous - this person needs proper legal advice not to amateurly issue S21 notices to try to cancel contracts. The first legal opinion received agreed with the so called "haters" in this thread.

RAS

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casperlarue

i have been following this thread but haven't commented up to now, Rocky99 I can understand exactly why you dont want to move in with your parents. I have 3 kids and would walk over hot coals for them, so I can understand you wanting to protect them frm your parents.

However, your financial situation is unsustainable and you have to reduce your outgoings drastically. Looking at your older posts I see tyou posted about this situation back in August 2012(?) is it really still not feasible to move back to your old house which is rented out and costing you £150 a month to top up. That would free up your current rent money plus that £150.

I know this doesnt address the issue of your parents living rent free but there are several complex issues here, and I think the mortgage comapnies have to come first in you dealing with this.

Good luck to you and your family

Rocky99

Kayalana, you are very right and I am incredibly grateful to all the people who have spent their time and effort replying, really I am!!
Silver car- thank you for your post it really helps when people understand where I'm coming from. I'm not a bad person, I loved my parents and would have done anything for them. I just need to put my babies first.

RAS

Rocky

Sympathy has not got you anywhere in the last 18 months two years that you have bene posting here.

You need proper professional debt advice.

For your kid's sake if nothing else.

It will not be nice or comfortable or possibly garnished with sympathy but until you get that you are wasting your time on here.

The_Negotiator

Rocky99 wrote: »

Kayalana, you are very right and I am incredibly grateful to all the people who have spent their time and effort replying, really I am!!
Silver car- thank you for your post it really helps when people understand where I'm coming from. I'm not a bad person, I loved my parents and would have done anything for them. I just need to put my babies first.

I assume based on your responses that you are grateful to the people that have been sympathetic and said your parents are unreasonable, and not to those who have made the reality of the contract situation clear. I hope it works out for you but I think you are in a very difficult position. Where did the £50,000 cash go, for example?

Rocky99

I'm done arguing with you negotiator. Funny name you chose...
And no not at all I value everyone opinion whether I like there opinion or not, but when it comes to you, correct me if I'm wrong it seems like your making me out to be a cold heartless money grabbing daughter who has done over her elderly 'victim' parents. I disagree with that.

I know I'm in a horrible situation and getting unbiased opinions helps straighten out my head.
I know what needs to be done and how to go about it.

And by the way I have not hidden what happened to the £50000, if you'd read properly you would have seen that we paid for both parties fees, the mortgage payments. And yes calculations show there should be some left over which we have spent on moving costs and other things that have happened to us as a result of this mortgage.

The_Negotiator

Rocky99 wrote: »

I'm done arguing with you negotiator. Funny name you chose...
And no not at all I value everyone opinion whether I like there opinion or not, but when it comes to you, correct me if I'm wrong it seems like your making me out to be a cold heartless money grabbing daughter who has done over her elderly 'victim' parents. I disagree with that.

I know I'm in a horrible situation and getting unbiased opinions helps straighten out my head.
I know what needs to be done and how to go about it.

And by the way I have not hidden what happened to the £50000, if you'd read properly you would have seen that we paid for both parties fees, the mortgage payments. And yes calculations show there should be some left over which we have spent on moving costs and other things that have happened to us as a result of this mortgage.

No, you have misunderstood. My point has been clear throughout - personal issues are irrelevant, it is a business transaction which according to your legal advice is binding. I don't know whether you tried to take advantage or they did, but it is irrelevant.

silvercar

I agree with that you need legal advise, but first you should formulate your thoughts into the specific advise you need.

I think you need legal advise as to what sort of tenancy your parents have and whether your contract with them is legal.

From that you can work out how best to get out of the obligation to provide their home rent free for life.

It may be that them signing a tenancy agreement supercedes the free for life contract, it may be that one or other is invalid.

The sad thing is that if they were behaving reasonably you could sit around a table and agree a way forward, while they are sticking their hand in the sand and not accepting it is unaffordable they won't be reasonable. At some point they will have to accept that you can't afford for them to stay there for free, whether they do that by working with you on a way forward or by you needing to get them evicted and/or the property repossessed is really down to their attitude and willingness to see things how they are. That they are your parents and emotionally bartering and have health issues of their own makes it even harder.

BigAunty

The_Negotiator wrote: »

Once again, you are turning a business transaction into a personal issue. .

But it is a personal issue - the landlord/tenant relationship is entertwined with the family relationship and that's a main and unavoidable issue. The business deal or contract has been poisoned because they mixed it with the personal.

The OPs mother has made a point in demonstrating that its personal by trying to shame and humiliate her and by withdrawing from being a grandmother to the young children. Even if the OP tried to minimise how personally she felt about it, her parents have chosen to make it into a family feud.

I believe she should just stop communicating with them and receiving any communication from them and confide in her in-laws.