Step parent responsibility ?

opinions4u

I would ensure he knows the truth sooner rather than later.

Finding out as a teen has been known to create serious emotional issues.

Knowledge and love from a younger age are the key.

The answer to your main question is linked in one of the posts above. Fill a form in and spend £215. The form itself will say "take legal advice". So take legal advice.

*max*

Why are people fighting on this thread, when the subject matter has nothing to do with them? The OP clearly said her son's father died - which is completely different to just not caring/not being there/whatever else. Please stop making this about you when it's not, people! Seriously.

I hope you get more answers that are actually relevant to your question, OP.

debbieblueeyes

Hi, thank you all for your comments and suggestions, i have the forms n will be phoning the court to see what to do next, bigmomma051204 good luck with telling your son,do it when its right for you your oh could help break the news,plan a day,take him for a day out etc,sooner the better hun,my son has asked very few questions thankfully,(his father was a cheater and didnt believe he was about to become a father,didnt evan come to the birth,he didnt want to know),my son has seen the very few photos i have of his father,anyway ill let you all know the outcomexx

debbieblueeyes

Ok just phoned the court and if there is mutual agreement between all parties then it's free if there are disagreements then you pay £215 for a court order, you don't have to adopt, I have to take all relevant paper work with the pr form eg birth cert, change of name deeds, marriage cert, not sure about death cert as the "father" is not on the birth cert I'll find that out when I get the form signed :)xx

GwylimT

When my girlfriend and I went through this they would only allow us to go through the parental responsibility route if the other parent was involved, being that this wasn't the case for us our only option was for my partner to adopt him.

We didn't realise until we had done everything for parental responsibility, its case by case and so until all was submitted we wouldn't know if it would be approved, we still weren't charged. So then we had to do adoption, all we had to pay for was a £30 medical from my girlfriends GP. While the whole thing was going through, which took about three months social services gave my girlfriend a care order, so if anything were to happen to me during the process she would be fine to look after him.

tea_lover

minimoneysaver wrote: »

The point I was making is, he has be living a lie. Dad isn't dad and another man is his biological dad.

There's an awful lot more to being a Dad than having functioning sperm. To say the man that's always been there, raised you, loved you, put you first is Dad isn't a lie... no matter whether he was biologically involved at the start or not.

Kayalana99

tea_lover wrote: »

There's an awful lot more to being a Dad than having functioning sperm. To say the man that's always been there, raised you, loved you, put you first is Dad isn't a lie... no matter whether he was biologically involved at the start or not.

I can see what this thread is about to turn into... :eek:

But o well!

I agree personally I don't think 'blood' should matter. A realitve of mine adopted two kids and social services are always showing them pictures of their real parents and I'm just thinking why do they need to know that their 'real parents' didnt want them? Surely that can only negativly influence a child to feel unwanted no matter how much their actual mum and dad try.

If I was adopted I wouldn't care, I love MY mum and dad who brought me up and it wouldn't change a thing.

Ms_Chocaholic

GwylimT wrote: »

When my girlfriend and I went through this they would only allow us to go through the parental responsibility route if the other parent was involved, being that this wasn't the case for us our only option was for my partner to adopt him.

We didn't realise until we had done everything for parental responsibility, its case by case and so until all was submitted we wouldn't know if it would be approved, we still weren't charged. So then we had to do adoption, all we had to pay for was a £30 medical from my girlfriends GP. While the whole thing was going through, which took about three months social services gave my girlfriend a care order, so if anything were to happen to me during the process she would be fine to look after him.

I'm not sure what you were given by Social Services but I'm sure it wouldn't have been a Care Order (S31, CA 1989) as care proceedings have to be initiated and this can only be granted by the Court, and even then, a CO is not issued first, an ICO is.

GwylimT

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

I'm not sure what you were given by Social Services but I'm sure it wouldn't have been a Care Order (S31, CA 1989) as care proceedings have to be initiated and this can only be granted by the Court, and even then, a CO is not issued first, an ICO is.

As I have already said, there was a care order, so you clearly aren't very sure are you.

POPPYOSCAR

*max* wrote: »

Why are people fighting on this thread, when the subject matter has nothing to do with them? The OP clearly said her son's father died - which is completely different to just not caring/not being there/whatever else. Please stop making this about you when it's not, people! Seriously.

I hope you get more answers that are actually relevant to your question, OP.

This happens all the time on here.

I find it quite incredulous when some posters makes statements when the OP has said nothing of the sort.