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rising_from_the_ashes

[QUOTE=AlexLK;64262510]If this situation was the other way round (the woman not working), nobody would be saying she needs to move out until she can support herself. There are a lot of double standards going on here.

Women seem all too happy to take advantage of equality legislation and changing attitudes until they may be losing out.[/QUOTE]


My advice would be exactly the same - every adult in a household needs to contribute financially

The OP wants her partner to stay even though its costing her dearly so I don't know where you're getting your second statement from!

AlexLK

rising: The statement was for nobody in particular and whilst I can appreciate your views all too many women seem to think despite this being the 21st century that they (and their peers) do not have to contribute to the household financially if they don't want to.

ViolaLass

When my husband was out of work, I never considered packing him off to his parents. We're adults and we're together, it's for us to work out. I find this idea of kicking the boyfriend out just because he's not in work quite horrible, provided he is doing his best to find something, anything with which to support his family.

rising_from_the_ashes

ViolaLass wrote: »

When my husband was out of work, I never considered packing him off to his parents. We're adults and we're together, it's for us to work out. I find this idea of kicking the boyfriend out just because he's not in work quite horrible, provided he is doing his best to find something, anything with which to support his family.

Personally I think it's different if someone loses their job as that sadly happens all too often these days

In this case, we're looking at a situation where the BF moving in has made things significantly worse for BOTH of them (the BF has lost the benefits he was getting previously & the OP is now having to support him) - that's an entirely different situation IMHO

The_Moo

AlexLK wrote: »

rising: The statement was for nobody in particular and whilst I can appreciate your views all too many women seem to think despite this being the 21st century that they (and their peers) do not have to contribute to the household financially if they don't want to.

Well having made that point, what is your advice to the OP?

Stuckinarut

I can appreciate what everyone is saying, it's not that i'm naive and don't know that we are struggling. Asking him to leave is not an option that I want to consider. He gets offered work with his dad from time to time but that's when others are off, therefore isn't regular or guaranteed however he takes every shift offered.

I want my child to be brought up in the same house as their mum and dad, my maternity allowance will drop at some point in the future but we're still a bit away from that yet.

We are both over 25 it just shows on the inland revenue website that we are nil entitled. I received a tax credit decision which states the same, although there were some incorrect information which I updated them on and waiting to hear whether it has made any difference.

I don't qualify for Housing Benefit as my earned income is enough to cover 2 people.