Thinking about selling wedding stuff

Stephb1986_2

Just a little update, he's come begging now as he's realises I'm being serious about leaving and not coming back. I've told him things have got to change so once this next week is out of the way we're going to get the house sorted and all the other bits that need to be done.

Doesn't mean I've forgiven him someone has to prove they are sorry now before I will forgive so he has to atleast make some effort.

Sorry to hear that Sazzarella I hope your ok massive hugs if you need to talk I'm just a pm away. Take care of yourself.

Steph xx

Sundaysgirl

Steph - just seen your post and so sorry to hear you're having problems; I hope you're able to reconcile, and the suggestion of counselling is a good one IMO as you clearly have some important issues to resolve. Do you think you'll be in a position to go ahead with marriage?

Sazzarella - devastating. Do try to look on the positive side, though I know that will be very hard right now: at least you found out now rather than wasting any more of your life on him or once married and having the legal complications of a breakup then.

Hugs to you both xxx

MrsMGtobe

Ladies, I didn't want to read and run. I feel for you both. If you need anyone to talk to, feel free to inbox me. It's sometimes easier to talk to a stranger.

Hope you both have a better new year. X

heartbreak_star

Hgs to you Steph and Sazza

HBS x

Jessycat

So very sorry to hear of your news Stephb1986 and Sazzarella.

tatabubbly

Big hugs to you two girls.. If you need anything, just PM

Sazzarella

So we have been talking - a lot - and now my head is pretty much all over the place. All I'll say is that the "cheating" wasn't in the flesh but that I still consider it so. I'm the first person to say "once a cheat, always a cheat" but now I'm so very confused about what to do

Jessycat

Sazzarella, what a very tough predicament you are in. I agree, the non flesh fact does soften the blow. I guess you just have to follow your heart. Could you postpone the wedding?

Sazzarella

We have talked about postponing. Tbh I just feel the whole wedding I was planning is a bit of a lie now and less special than it was meant to be - that might be all in my head. We spoke about maybe just doing it in a registry office if we manage to work through this but we will lose around 3k on deposits and all the extras that I wouldn't have bought for a registry office wedding. I do love him a lot but I'm reeling after finding out all this.

FBaby

Sazzarella, should you really be considering marriage at all at this stage? Your relationship might be worth saving and worked on, but doesn't going ahead with the wedding, even if postponed, is giving the message that it was ok to do what he did and can be all forgotten. What happens if he does it again after you are married?

I strongly believe that one should never enter marriage when there is even a tiny tiny little doubt about the future of the relationship. Even when 100%, things go wrong, let alone when there are reasons to believe that it might not last forever.

I don't want to put a spanner into things, you must be devastated and so confused and I understand the issue with the loss of money, but wouldn't be better than going ahead to be deceived again, and would it much so much better to go ahead and marry when he has proven to you that what it did will never happen again.