*Stop The Cavalry* It's The 2014 Christmas Chatter Thread

Arthien

Own_My_Own wrote: »

I'm fed up. It's cold and wet and I've had enough.
I'm fed up of working with people who have money and spend it on silly things. Yesterday I commented that I was buying a new saucepan for £15 from Argos, and someone else commented how cheap that was as her saucepan set cost £180. :mad:
After paying for the car and Dds glasses this week £15 is not cheap to me. It is £15 I could have done without spending.

Moan over, back to work .:mad:

Some people don't have a clue how the other half live do they

I don't know if you've got a TK Maxx or Homesense near you, but the saucepans they sell there are great quality and a great price. I got a really nice large non-stick Tefal for £12, and they had other smaller and cheaper ones too. I'd definitely recommend it. Homesense (aka the housey section of TK Maxx in one shop) is my all time favourite bargain place to shop

Hope you find a suitable person soon Feisty, I can't believe people are so willing to let others down, especially considering how hard it can be to find a decent job these days!

nicki_2

I've bought some more Easter chocs for the kids. Not doing too many for my nephew as he'll only be 1 so white choc buttons for him to go with the coins. So far the other 4 have coins, chicks, solid little eggs and I've just bought DD some creme eggs to go in her bag as well. So I think Easter is nearly done, Feb I'll start on the birthdays after I've spoken to my sister, as its my nephew & nieces birthdays as well as my DD's in April:eek:

For DD I was thinking of getting her these : http://www.royalmint.com/our-coins/ranges/collector-albums Since I'm an Av0n rep I handle a lot of cash so DD has been pulling out all the 'special' coins and keeping them so has quite a collection. There is just the Olympic book I'd need to buy from 3bay

Own_My_Own

Arthien wrote: »

Some people don't have a clue how the other half live do they

I don't know if you've got a TK Maxx or Homesense near you, but the saucepans they sell there are great quality and a great price. I got a really nice large non-stick Tefal for £12, and they had other smaller and cheaper ones too. I'd definitely recommend it. Homesense (aka the housey section of TK Maxx in one shop) is my all time favourite bargain place to shop

I love TKMaxx but it's in the next town. 30 minute drive and then parking. So I don't go very often.

What really winds me up is when they comment about what I spend. When I went to London for the weekend some of them commented about how much weekends up there cost.
But unlike them I don't get a take away every Friday or go out for dinner or the cinema.
And I save every month to go away for that weekend. And I stayed in a £40 Travelodge. They would all stay in a £200 hotel.
They think because they spend over £100 a week on food that I must be spending the same. Then when I say I spent £50 they comment that we can't be eating proper food if that's all I spend.
I just can't win.

Arthien

Own_My_Own wrote: »

What really winds me up is when they comment about what I spend. When I went to London for the weekend some of them commented about how much weekends up there cost.
But unlike them I don't get a take away every Friday or go out for dinner or the cinema.
And I save every month to go away for that weekend. And I stayed in a £40 Travelodge. They would all stay in a £200 hotel.
They think because they spend over £100 a week on food that I must be spending the same. Then when I say I spent £50 they comment that we can't be eating proper food if that's all I spend.
I just can't win.

You could point out that you're a better shopper than they are, preferring to spend your money wisely, rather than frittering it all away at the takeaways and supermarkets like they must be doing if they're spending that much! Be proud of managing to live a good life without wasting as much money and food as they must do, it's a much better way to be

My DH is doing a review thing as part of a select team at work at the moment, because the boss wants to find out what motivates the employees, so they'll work harder. The problem was, they started discussing it and then the boss said 'well we won't count money as a factor because that's not much of a motivator really' (:eek:)
This is a man who is a multimillionaire with a successful business and lots of family money, which means he has NO idea what he's talking about when it comes to money and the difference between having some and none! He used to take the mickey out of people who shop at Lidl/Aldi, so DH stopped mentioning it. DH used to be so proud of the fact that we save over £40 a week compared to shopping in Tesco, but his boss will never understand because £40 is like loose change to him!

mandco

amey its not silly migraines are a nightmare and sleep is often the biggest help hope your feeling better today

omo people like that wind me up sometimes it took me a while but I realised that half the time they are just jealous that I have the sense to use my money where I want too rather than having to have the biggest/newest/most expensive things.

nicki well done on getting easter sorted already.I find if I buy now it rarely makes it to easter :eek: so not very mse but did get some creme eggs 6 for £1.50 in co op just gotta stash em before the kids find them

Own_My_Own

The problem is I work in quite a well to do area. They have no money worries.
And I think I'm finding it hard because I feel like I'm losing, if not lost my BFF. We have been friends for 16 and we were both single with 2 kids, so she was money saving like myself.
Only she now has a partner with a good job and has changed. I don't begrudge her having money, but she is not the same person. She now has real Uggs and comments all the time how they are so much better than the cheap ones. Her iPad is the newest one out, unlike the old ones I have. ( she has commented that mine are old) We used to go food shopping together once a month, on a Friday night to Asda to get the bargains. But she doesn't need to anymore, so we don't go.
I know it must be nice for her to have no money worries, but I'm getting sick of hearing about what she has spent. Where as we would window shopping waiting for the sales, she now just buys it full price.
She has started spending more time with her partners friends partners. They are all very clicky and I'm sure it makes her feel like she is better than me now.

Sorry to be such a misery, but I'm just feeling down and I have no-one that would understand how I feel.

his_missus

Hugs to you OMO, I understand how it can feel.

When I met Hubby all his circle of friends seemed to forever trying to outdo each other financially and materially. Well, they still do now though he's not really part of that circle anymore. Thing is they're all actually skint as they're all in debt to maintain that lifestyle.

Our holidays may not as been as flash as theirs and our home improvements may have only been a new pair of curtains instead of an extension but now we're debt free and can afford to live life that little bit better without credit. Always makes me feel secretly smug when I'm around them and they're moaning (never to each other though, just to me, they don't want each other to know about their financial straits)

Don't even get me started on my sister complaining I'm forever going on holiday:rotfl:

FeistyFidget

Own_My_Own wrote: »

The problem is I work in quite a well to do area. They have no money worries.
And I think I'm finding it hard because I feel like I'm losing, if not lost my BFF. We have been friends for 16 and we were both single with 2 kids, so she was money saving like myself.
Only she now has a partner with a good job and has changed. I don't begrudge her having money, but she is not the same person. She now has real Uggs and comments all the time how they are so much better than the cheap ones. Her iPad is the newest one out, unlike the old ones I have. ( she has commented that mine are old) We used to go food shopping together once a month, on a Friday night to Asda to get the bargains. But she doesn't need to anymore, so we don't go.
I know it must be nice for her to have no money worries, but I'm getting sick of hearing about what she has spent. Where as we would window shopping waiting for the sales, she now just buys it full price.
She has started spending more time with her partners friends partners. They are all very clicky and I'm sure it makes her feel like she is better than me now.

Sorry to be such a misery, but I'm just feeling down and I have no-one that would understand how I feel.

Sadly Omo I think you have hit the nail on the head with them feeling better than those that have to be MSE. They do think they are better, as they feel it reflects on them as a person, that they have somehow achieved something that makes them not have money worries. Take heart in the fact that when the tables are turned, they will be !!!!!!ed. They will have no idea how to save money, and the shops that they used to look down their nose at, will soon feel like a complete culture shock

kellyhghs

One of my friends is like that OMO, so much so she even asked me if I could get her some stocking fillers for her daughter at Christmas because she "wasn't sure were to get cheap things"

Was hoping you lovely ladies might be able to help me find some scrap booking goods, have got my dd an instant camera from Tesco half price for her bday and thought it would be a good idea to get her a scrap book and other items to go with it to put the pics in but am not actually very crafty myself so not sure of the best and cheapest places to go

freespirit66

Morning everyone,

OMO sending lots of hugs to you my lovely, you must be feeling so hurt and upset with your BFF actions, unfortunately people soon forget when they get a bit of money, what it is like to be careful and budget, when i was still with my ex a few years ago we went around with friends (all our kids got on too) going out for meals £100, having them over for dinner £100, (10 of us inc drinks, nibbles etc) us going to theirs, days out we were getting deeper and deeper into debt as ex used to just shove it all on a credit card without me knowing, he even bought an american truck on a credit card just because they did) until i said enough is enough and worked it out, it was ridiculous and i could not understand how our friends did this all the time not just with us but other friends too, she shopped at wait*ose every week everything organic :eek: until one day she admitted to me they were in debt for £50k and had nothing to show for it :eek::eek: but what did they do just remortgage!!!!! It started to fizzle out when we couldnt keep up with them and stopped going out to places, their son even asked me was it because we were poor??? So behind their £180 saucepans is probably a story you dont know about. xx