What would you do Next Year?

MrsAtobe

We had a bit of a falling out, between me, my OH and my sister and her husband earlier in the year, when my BIL tried to tell us where we should buy a house. They are a family of four, my sister, my BIL, and their two daughters. In our household, there is me, my OH and the dog.

We've since moved into our new home, my OH has had a significant birthday, no card or present was forthcoming from my sister/BIL (please bear in mind that my OH and BIL are distantly related). Fast forward to today, I have spent considerable time and effort to get them presents that they will like/appreciate or need, I ended up with an address book and some perfume, and my OH ended up with a mug. The mug was addressed to him from the two nieces only.

My elder niece has already been in touch to thank us for her presents, and we have thanked her for ours, which includes the dog's cracker.

To be honest, I am so fed up with my sister and the entire situation, that I feel like ignoring them next year, and just buying a present for my elder niece.

Does anyone have any advice?

Tiglath

Ignore them next year and just buy a present for the niece.

lostinrates

My advice? Are no decisions or judgements tonight. . Let them stew in their misery and be eased you acted with the spirit of giving.

See how you feel nearer the next birthday to arise. But try not to think about it before then, and hope they realise how silly they have been. These sort of squabbles are best ended as soon as possible, so good for you for trying this Christmas

Noctu

I didn't bother with family I normally bother with at Christmas due to their actions throughout the year just gone and it was great - a chilled out Christmas Day with no drama.

Next year we'll be doing the same, or even going out for dinner!

Carl31

How did the falling out occur? Did you tell the bil to do one?

Personally, I'd forgive, that's just me though, someone would have to do something pretty extreme for me to not talk to them. If they choose not to talk to me this a different matter

An argument over a house doesn't seem like something to fall out over imo

McKneff

Keep the presents that you got this year, rewrap them and give them them back for Christmas next year,

Dunroamin

Lots of things could happen in a year, why are you even thinking about it now?

GobbledyGook

I'd wait until next year before even thinking about it. Anything can happen in a year to change the situation.

brunettifan

Personally, I would resolve to try to sort the situation out.

duchy

Christmas is a stressful time....wait for the new year and see what happens with regards to the falling out.
No point in making a decision about presents for 12 months time now........wait and see how things go in the next eleven months .

spender

How much do you love them and how much do you want them to be part of your lives? Family feuds normally start over trivial things but you can decide the outcome. So your presents from them were carp but you made the effort so you can never be criticised. However wait and see how things pan out. Act in haste repent in leisure (regardless of fault)