mum and son cats fighting :(

KxMx

I took in Lily when she was 6 months- spent a day with her and her Mum. Lily was asking Mum for attention and play but Mum was no longer interested and would snap.
Sounds like it's a combination of moving out of the kitten/baby stage and perhaps hormones so neutering is a good idea.

bouncydog1

Our boy and his two sisters were all done by our vet at 4 months after we caught the boy engaging in sexual activity with his sister!!! The mother cat had started spitting and hissing at him from about 3 months so we think it was because of his hormones kicking in.

antw23uk

iammumtoone wrote: »

Would you say that if someone posted about two children not getting on :eek: I understand what you are saying sometimes it might be the only way but the OP has only just started having problems - you try everything first and then some before you come to that conclusion.

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What a random and silly thing to say ... How can you possibly make the comparison you silly person!

southcoastrgi wrote: »

totally disagree, cats need company as much as we do, they are perfectly able to live together, although I do agree with others about getting him chopped

You obviously dont know much about cats with that sweeping statement! Again you have compared cats with humans, silly person!

seven-day-weekend

antw23uk wrote: »

iammumtoone wrote: »

Would you say that if someone posted about two children not getting on :eek: I understand what you are saying sometimes it might be the only way but the OP has only just started having problems - you try everything first and then some before you come to that conclusion.

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What a random and silly thing to say ... How can you possibly make the comparison you silly person!



You obviously dont know much about cats with that sweeping statement! Again you have compared cats with humans, silly person!

I don't think the insults were necessary in this post, but I agree the poster does not appear to know much about cats.

iammumtoone

antw23uk wrote: »

What a random and silly thing to say ... How can you possibly make the comparison you silly person!

It was kind of meant in a tongue in cheek way! not to be taken seriously, you can't say anything on here without someone taking offence! Of course I am not comparing the two situations who would?

iammumtoone

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

antw23uk wrote: »

I don't think the insults were necessary in this post, but I agree the poster does not appear to know much about cats.

Thanks hopefully some could see I didn't actually mean it literally. I do know about cats I have always had them (only part of my post was quoted), at one point I had three. I do know that cats are not pack animals and tolerate each other rather than get on. I also appreciate that some people like to have a multi cat household and there are ways to allow this to happen other than getting rid of one of the cats!

seven-day-weekend

iammumtoone wrote: »

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Thanks hopefully some could see I didn't actually mean it literally. I do know about cats I have always had them (only part of my post was quoted), at one point I had three. I do know that cats are not pack animals and tolerate each other rather than get on. I also appreciate that some people like to have a multi cat household and there are ways to allow this to happen other than getting rid of one of the cats!

I too have had a multi-cat household (have two now). I have owned cats for over forty years. On the whole they would prefer to be solitary or at the most with a litter-mate. One way to minimise stress in a multi-cat household is to ensure that each can have its own space if it wants, like separate feeding stations and litter trays.

I personally see nothing wrong with re-homing a cat if the 'balance' is upset and the cats are stressed out, providing of course it goes to a good home. Some cats just want to be solitary and will be unhappy living with another cat.

iammumtoone

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I personally see nothing wrong with re-homing a cat if the 'balance' is upset and the cats are stressed out, providing of course it goes to a good home. Some cats just want to be solitary and will be unhappy living with another cat.

I agree with that but the OP has only just starting having issues so I think it is too early to consider at this point. First thing is to neuter then some of the other things you suggest like own space, separate everything, feliway etc. If OP is still having problems after all that then yes it might need to be considered but hopefully it won't come to that.

seven-day-weekend

iammumtoone wrote: »

I agree with that but the OP has only just starting having issues so I think it is too early to consider at this point. First thing is to neuter then some of the other things you suggest like own space, separate everything, feliway etc. If OP is still having problems after all that then yes it might need to be considered but hopefully it won't come to that.

I agree that the tom needs to be neutered and then he might not be giving off the 'aura' of entire mature male to the mother and she might accept him. The OP should see what they are like when this is done, whilst also ensuring they have their own space, etc.

WOACats

Don't be afraid of early neutering. It's very common. If your vet won't do it, find a vet that will. Many pedigree breeders have their pet kittens neutered early before leaving to their new homes. This prevents contract breeches (People buying kittens as pets ((usually not breeding quality)) on a contract to spay/neuter and then failing to do so in order to breed un-registered kittens for profit.)

Male kittens can breed usually as soon as 4 months. If the testicles have descended then the parts are working and it can happen. They are producing testosterone and changing his scent.
Momma cat does not like this. She is now seeing him as an intact male that she does not want to breed with. She is showing him some aggression because of that.
Getting him neutered should do the trick, though it can take a while for the boy scent to go away as the testosterone leaves his system.

I have three cats, one is a spayed female and the other two are intact (male and female) as I am planning on breeding and showing.
They all get along great, though when I am not there to watch the intact female is separated from the male. I keep the two girls together when I am away as one of the girls if left alone with no buddies likes to get into oodles of mischief.

A great way to re-introduce them to each other after he has been neutered is to get them to start playing in the same room, but away from one another and then slowly over a few days getting them to play closer to one another. Always allow an escape route though in case someone feels the need to flee if they are uncomfortable.

I hope they start to get along soon.

Feel free to PM me any time as I am always happy to help.