Don't know if I can continue anymore

Bennifred

This obviously feels like the end of the world to you, but it really isn't unless you do something silly. If you truly love your fiancee then you want the best for her and your baby, don't you? Think about how she would feel if you killed yourself - it would not be the best for her or your baby, would it? If you are dead you can't do anything to fix the situation. Please don't even think about that.

Do you really not have anyone to speak to about this? If you have a parent, relative or friend in the world they will want to help you and would be devastated that you are going through this alone. If you truly have no-one then as previous posters have said - contact the Samaritans, that's what they are there for. They are totally non-judgemental.

meritaten

McKneff wrote: »

Her parents would not have bound and gagged her and carried her out of the door.


Killing yourself would leave such devastation, don't even think about it. You maybe wouldn't feel anything but think of the pain you will leave the child. your child, with for the rest of its life.


Now eat something, drink something and get professional help by ringing the Samaritans

I wouldn't be too sure about this McKneff. I know a lad who went to call on a girls (Chinese) parents to ask permission to take her out, and got chased out by her mum brandishing a cleaver!

thorsoak

ForeverBroken wrote: »

I don't know

I really don't know
They don't like the fact they live in Ireland and she choose to move to England, that's all I know

I'm breaking my heart, I have no contact number for her and she's deleted her twitter

Does she work? You know where? Go there. If not, do you know where her parents live? Then go there.

To break your heart without trying to find where she is is, frankly, pretty pathetic!

As others have said, stop playing the drama llama - eat something, drink something, and make a firm plan!

Corelli

Like PaulineB said, we can go through horrible emotional pain and come out the other side.

ForeverBroken, if you still want to kill yourself, P L E A S E phone the Samaritans NOW. They will listen.

Or, there is emergency mental health suport at your nearest A&E (as was) and going that route is very very unlikely to get you detained, but you will get some support.

I hope you have gone home, had something to eat and drink and gone to bed. Of course this is devastating, and you need to acknowledge that and look after yourself. Wishing you strength and courage and eventual peace.

bluebeary

are you both quite young ? where are your parents ?

call the samaritans as others have said and make an emergency appointment with your gp tomorrow and ask for an appointment with a cpn please

a county psychiatric nurse is not as scary as it sounds, he or she is just a friendly person who you can sit down and chat things through with, they will have much more time than a gp and in my experience make you answer your own questions and helps you work it out for yourself, good luck

Bublin1

Are there cultural differences? I ask this because you mentioned a friend and his Chinese girlfriend.

Jobseeeker

Did something happen to prompt this? a fight/disagreement? Have you texted to ask her to let you know what's going on.

Wait for a few days, she might calm down and get in contact with you

ERICS_MUM

please don't sacrifice your life because of two other individuals who sound rather extreme - your life is as valuable as theirs, no valid reason why you should feel not worthy of living.

Have something to eat and drink, have a warm shower and go to bed. Doesn't matter if you don't sleep, listen to the radio instead.

Unless your fiancee is being physically restrained, the situation will unravel itself sooner rather than later. Give it a few days, or maybe over Christmas and New Year. If it's her choice then there's not much you can do, but you will always be the baby's dad and you should agree with her how much you would be involved in the baby's life.

Your world has been turned upside down, you might feel that the rest of your life as you planned it has been destroyed but you've got no time to wallow and think about suicide. What legacy would that leave for your baby ?

Please keep talking to us via this thread.

Linda xx

gwynlas

Yes you can, you are of no use to anyone if you die. , Your girlfriend might ,feel she needs a break, it is tough being pregnant and away from family support.
She might want to come back to you when she's had some time to remember why she left home in the first place. You created a child together and both ,of you have to be there to support this child even if you fall out of love with each other and you don't know that this is the case yet. Even if you lose her your child should be your reason ,to keep going, even if you think you'll be denied access you can fight for this for your child sake. They were conceived in love and have a right to know both parents. If you feel you can phone the Samaritans tonight, if not resolve to seek help tomorrow. I am firnly of the opinion that we have the right to determine our own end if life becomes inpossible thgrough terminal illness or whatevere but not when people give in without a fight particularly when there are others concerned whose opinion hasn't been sought your unborn child being the most important of them. By the time your child is really old enough to know and appreciate you, you will be glad you are still there for them.

whitewing

Did you have an unhappy time growing up?

It doesn't seem to me to be a 'usual' situation that a gf goes with her parents and then is reported missing without even a weekend having passed? Suicidal thoughts so quickly also seem a more extreme than usual reaction. I am not saying this to make you feel worse, I just want to say that, in my opinion, people would usually feel terrible in such a situation but not as pained as you feel. (I have suicidal thoughts sometimes, so I am sympathetic and I know the distress you are feeling is very real. I also know that it is very difficult for others to support people who feel so bad, so I am wondering if your gf simply needs a break from the intensity).

I take it as a good sign that the police said 'at present' & they came back to you with an update.

In your situation, I would go to the GP and tell him/her about the suicidal thoughts and the situation and get assessed properly. Then support can be put in place to help you, your gf and the little one on an ongoing basis.