Confused, depression and maybe a kick up the rear.

dandelionclock30

JadedAngel88 wrote: »

Thanks for your replies.

To answer mildredalien, yes I do believe that he wants me to get better.

He said he doesnt cope well in relationships but he managed one for 6 years, and if thats the case, why did he get back in contact with me. I do honestly believe that Im better off just not contacting him. It will hurt but I got through it last time and I will this time.

SomebodyToldMe o answer the question 'did he tell me why he wanted out' he said it was so I could get well again.

Thanks for your imput I greatly appreciate it.

He probably got back in touch with you for sex/company because he knows you liked him. I'm afraid to say.
Delete this user from your life for good and seek out decent men who wont use you. He most certainly is thinking about himself and not you. Tell him straight not to contact you again. Your wasting you time having anything to do with him.

Cottage_Economy

He's a waste of time - he's told you that by telling you that he's not very good with relationships. He wasn't joking. He was telling you so when he let you down again you couldn't turn round and claim he led you on. "But I said I wasn't good at relationships..." would be his cry.

Men who want to be with you BE with you. If he wanted you to get better and really cared for you he would be by your side helping you.

He's not.

So. Delete. Ignore.

Oh and telling you it's for your benefit so you can get better? That's really scummy and low. He's trying to evade responsibility for ending the relationship by indirectly blaming your health problems.

Sounds like a 47 year old child.

FBaby

he said it was so I could get well again.

Really? So he is implying that:
1- he is not good for you and preventing you from getting well
2- if the above is the case, he is not prepared to make changes so that he could become a positive influence for you to change rather than a hindrance or be there to support you during the difficult time of trying to get better
3- He is so unselfish that although he would wish more than anything to be with you, he is prepared to step down just so that you can get better, even if it hurts him.

mmm, or of course he is saying this because it is the easiest thing to say so not make him sound like a selfish a**. His not being good at relationship most likely translates as 'I don't mind being in a relationship when everything is simple and easy and doesn't demand too much work. When it suddenly requires that I make a bit of an effort to be understanding and supportive, I can't be bothered and walk out, just making sure to keep the door open in case it could indeed become simple and effortless again'. It does sound like you are better off without him.

Errata

Sorry love, he's talking bollox.

paulineb_2

I think you are being spun a line. No matter how much you like this man take the rose tinted specs off and get on with your life without him.

Upsidedown_Bear

Arose wrote: »

Most men are crap, he is one of them

Some people are crap, maybe he is one of them.

Morglin

If he's the sort of guy that can only cope if there are no ripples in life, then he's not much use really. And, he's selfish to keep wanting the door left open for another try at a relationship.

Find a decent bloke that deals with problems together, and who is neither a user or a wuss that cannot cope with problems.

Lin:)

jenhug

You don't walk away from the love of your life when they are going through a hard time. You take their hand and guide them through it.

Leave well alone.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Good men - and women - are there for their partners whether they are well or whether they are unwell. They don't beggar off when the going gets tough and then try and come back when the dust is settled and you've had to cope alone. Being bad at relationships seems to frequently present itself as having to be the person it's all about - and heading for the hills as soon as the other party needs support.


He's basically saying 'Not my problem, love - sort yourself out and I'll be back when you're more able to support/shag/pay more attention to me'.

You're worth more than that.

nickj_2

if you were the best girlfriend he's ever had why did he leave first time ? he's just keeping his options open in case nothing better turns up ,
you desrve better , say hello , wave goodbye