what to write on a christmas card

WantToBeSE

Dunroamin wrote: »

The SIL has lost a nephew, not her own child, surely?

Yes, you are correct, i misread.

Dunroamin

WantToBeSE wrote: »

Yes, you are correct, i misread.

I think many people did.

Unless the OP has worded it really badly and it is her own child, I'd think a normal card and message to be perfectly acceptable.

poet123

I misread too. I thought it read SIL has lost my nephew.

Goldiegirl

I'd send a card , but not a jokey, jolly one, and say something like 'thinking of you'

moremore

Thanks everyone for kind replies, found appropriate one that fits perfectly for them. Have spoken to them on phone and feel that I should send them a card.

BlueSky1

I never knew what to say to people when they had a bereavement - so I'd keep quiet. Then my grandma died and I realised that you want people to say something and think they don't care if they don't.

Now, I make sure that I say something that I mean - and my embarrassment doesn't matter because it's how they feel that matters.

So send them a card of whatever type you think and express your sympathy at how bad they must feel at this time of year. Otherwise, they'll think you don't care.

John_Pierpoint

As an executor, one of the most difficult jobs I has was getting to grips with a dozen or more cards that arrived from people who obviously had not heard about the death.

My initial reaction was to try to phone them but that is fraught with getting the wrong person answering the phone.

In the end I made up a card from a couple of pictures from 70 years ago that we had used for the order of service and put a personal message inside it, and sent it off immediately after the festive season.

chesky

John_Pierpoint wrote: »

As an executor, one of the most difficult jobs I has was getting to grips with a dozen or more cards that arrived from people who obviously had not heard about the death.

My initial reaction was to try to phone them but that is fraught with getting the wrong person answering the phone.

In the end I made up a card from a couple of pictures from 70 years ago that we had used for the order of service and put a personal message inside it, and sent it off immediately after the festive season.

Yes, I understand that, but it might mean that if everyone did that, they might not get ANY Christmas cards.