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edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Over 50s Money Saving
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edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Over 50s Money Saving
My SiL has just lost a nephew under in exceptional circumstances and very sudden, I am not sure what to put on her Christmas card. I do not normally send Christmas card to them but have spoken to her many times recently due to other illness in the family. Not even sure that I should send a Christmas card.

Any help please. :o
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  • margaretclaremargaretclare Forumite
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    Just write 'Thinking of you at this sad time'. No one can object to that. Choose your Christmas card carefully - maybe not the jolly red man jumping up and down, something like a Christmas scene in snow or a Nativity scene.
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  • KatiehoundKatiehound Forumite
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    Personally I wouldn't send a Christmas card- the season implies jollity etc which she will not be feeling. Why not a blank message card (which could have seasonal flowers picture) where you can write something like "Thinking of you", or a New Year card-" with all good wishes for the forthcoming year." Or write a few lines as a letter.
    I think a Christmas card is an unwise choice because we always associate this time of year with being with the family and she has just lost a member of her close family so it is emphasising her loss.
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  • whitesatinwhitesatin Forumite
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    I lost my best friend this time last year. I decided it to be inappropriate to send a Christmas card to her family so I didn't.

    This year I have decided only to send cards to people I don't see throughout the year anyway so won't have the dilema of whether or not to send one to her family.
  • scotsbobscotsbob Forumite
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    No idea what a SIL is but I would send a humorous card to cheer him/her up and help them get over their sadness.
  • lisyloolisyloo Forumite
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    SIL

    Probably sister-in-law.

    I wouldn't send a card, but would it be an appropriate time to consider a visit. If now isn't the right time, then maybe later?
    Just a thought.
  • WantToBeSEWantToBeSE Forumite
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    scotsbob wrote: »
    No idea what a SIL is but I would send a humorous card to cheer him/her up and help them get over their sadness.

    Just my opinion, but i'd say that this was hugely inappropriate.
    A card isnt going to 'cheep them up' after losing a child .
  • scotsbob wrote: »
    No idea what a SIL is but I would send a humorous card to cheer him/her up and help them get over their sadness.

    I am not sure that would be well received.

    I would go with a neutral xmas card such as a landscape scene, and an appropriate personal message, or even a blank generic card with room for your own message rather than the inappropriate under the circumstances jolly verses.
  • hornetgirlhornetgirl Forumite
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    I have friends who lost their son in terrible circumstances earlier this year. I'm sending them a traditional style card and will write something along the lines of "Hope you are able to find some peace this Christmas." I don't want to not send anything at all as I don't get to see them often (they live abroad) and want them to know we're thinking of them, but realise they are unlikely to be feeling very jolly.
  • Marmaduke123Marmaduke123 Forumite
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    I think I would send a Christmas card, but be careful about the design and the printed message. Both need to be neutral and not jolly or wishing happiness. I wouldn't want to miss her out or send a different type of card if I normally sent a Christmas one.

    I would just say something like "thinking of you" and whatever else seems appropriate, the same kind of thing that you would write on a sympathy card at another time of year.
  • WantToBeSE wrote: »
    Just my opinion, but i'd say that this was hugely inappropriate.
    A card isnt going to 'cheep them up' after losing a child .

    The SIL has lost a nephew, not her own child, surely?
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