Christmas present disaster - HELP (Lego Creationary Needed)

Person_one

easy wrote: »

Well I could, but it's a bit disappointing to get something you don't want/need as a christmas pressie isn't it? And actually, I would have felt a bit dishonest, not to tell sis, once I knew.



Well, we are trying not to give DS cash at the moment, as he ends up just buying more flipping computer games with it ... we're trying to encourage less computer time




Heck, that's HARSH. Of course she is an adult, but asked us what he would really like as we know him best.
Similarly, I asked her what her child would like - is that so unusual ??

We do live 200 miles apart, don't see each others children often enough to know every detail of their lives you see!!

Sorry, didn't mean it to sound too harsh, but is 'the spirit of Christmas' really about micromanaging other people's presents to your children? You've given her a suggestion, and that's fine and perfectly normal, but why are you searching around for the actual item? I'd be a bit confused if my siblings did that to me!

I know its disappointing to get duplicates and stuff you don't really want, but isn't it also a really essential part of growing up and learning to smile and say thank you and be appreciative of the thought?

jetplane

Why does your son need a replacement gift? Why do you have to buy it off him? I don't think a 14 year old should be disappointed with a gift he doesn't want or need because he already has it! I would not have told my sister, my son would have thanked her for the present, she would have been none the wiser that her voucher was being used by me.

There would be no panic buying for something else, he is 14 old enough to grasp the situation. If you really needed to repay him for the voucher then the £30 could be banked by you for something he needs later.

easy

jetplane wrote: »

Why does your son need a replacement gift? Why do you have to buy it off him? I don't think a 14 year old should be disappointed with a gift he doesn't want or need because he already has it! I would not have told my sister, my son would have thanked her for the present, she would have been none the wiser that her voucher was being used by me.

There would be no panic buying for something else, he is 14 old enough to grasp the situation. If you really needed to repay him for the voucher then the £30 could be banked by you for something he needs later.

Blimey, tidings of comfort and joy !!!!

DS doesn't NEED a replacement gift, but my sister would like him to have a gift he would particularly like from his aunt. It is one of the many ways we express affection for each other in our family.

I hadn't realised that going out of ones way to make someone happy, be they child, teenager or adult, could offend folk so much.

I'm sorry jetplane, but my first reaction to reading your post was to think "the spirit of Scrooge is still alive "

jetplane

easy wrote: »

Blimey, tidings of comfort and joy !!!!

DS doesn't NEED a replacement gift, but my sister would like him to have a gift he would particularly like from his aunt. It is one of the many ways we express affection for each other in our family.

I hadn't realised that going out of ones way to make someone happy, be they child, teenager or adult, could offend folk so much.

I'm sorry jetplane, but my first reaction to reading your post was to think "the spirit of Scrooge is still alive "

:rotfl:

I'm not offended my first thought was he's not a baby he's got a duplicate present so what. I hope you get your Lego and you all have a very merry Xmas :xmastree:

julie03

http://www.thetoyshop.com/Games-and-jigsaws/Family-games/Lego-Games---Creationary/p/489930

sorry just checked seems unavailable in most stores

easy

Thanks for the link Julie.

However when I put it in my basket and tried to check out, it seems its not available for home delivery, nor from any store for click and collect

Thanks for trying tho

Tiddlywinks

When I first saw the 'headline' I assumed this was for a small child - you know, one where a 'disaster' meant they would be really disappointed and not able to understand the concept of 'sold out'.

But, no, the son is 14 years old - high time to start learning life's lessons - you get what you get and sometimes it's unexpected (and possibly less welcome!).

A 'disaster' is children dying in the Philippines because they can't access clean water - what your 14 year old son has is mildly inconvenient.

http://www.pennyappeal.org/appeal/philippines-emergency?src=google-grants

balletshoes

OP will your sister have to get another idea if the Lego set costs more than £30 to buy now? If her budget is £30, and the Lego can't be bought for less than £50, is there another idea for a present you could give her for your son? Or, how about telling your son (as he's 14) that your sister will give him £30 towards the Lego, and he can put the rest towards it from his christmas money, and buy it himself in the sales?

I agree with you by the way, as you know now, before xmas, that there was a duplicate gift, its best to avoid that and get him something else he'd like.
We all do that regularly among my siblings and I - we swap our kids' wish lists around between us, so for example this year I have passed out a couple of different ideas each from my daughter's wish list to both my sisters, I've bought a couple of things from it to pass on to my mum and brother from them (they'll give me the money for them) and my sisters have both suggested things from their kids' wishlists to me.

Its far easier when the kids are younger, but teenagers often have specific interests, so wish lists can work well .

xxdeebeexx

Available at the Entertainer, click and collect £25

hth

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