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A Singularly Lonely Christmas

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  • calicocat wrote: »
    LB...........there's a barnevelder cockerel going for free on Freecycle...dont know how quick you are planning your brood....seaton sluice.

    I'd love a cockerel but no can do...strictly forbidden in lottie land here as can be aggressive and noisy...

    Anyway, I'd have had to keep him in my bathroom :eek: as my chicken run won't be up and running until April, I think....maybe March if I can keep going on the frugals.

    But thanks for thinking about him for me :T
  • LavenderBees
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    spirit wrote: »
    You often see cockerels free to good home around. Lots of us can't keep them due to possible neighbour complaints. The place my girls have gone too has a cockerel and he is just the most handsome boy ever. He is a Welsummer just like from the cornflakes box.

    If you are interested in joining, there is a faceache group called Down the Lane which is invaluable for help, advice and n'er a day goes by without someone shares a cake with us :rotfl:

    Hmmmm.....I've resisted faceache and the other twittering one....am a bit of a renegade in that respect. Some of it is down to just being wary... don't want to be contacted by people from 30 odd years ago so they can rub in how fantastic their lives are :mad:, but mostly I just don't want to be on the internet much more than I am now....it's so easy to lose years on the internet...all I ever log on for is a recipe and 6 hrs later....

    :rotfl:
  • LavenderBees
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    BookWorm wrote: »
    Good Morning All

    I was up early today and got a head start on my chores and errands that I wanted to run so can have the bulk of the day to chill.

    Very cold here and we had big old frost overnight. I did a double take when I looked out the window as just for a second thought we had snow!

    Think I've just given the neighbours a good laugh. :o Was outside trying to read my water meter and the cover is in the middle of the pavement. The meter itself is quite a way down too so there I am kneeling on the pavement - bum in the air trying to read the blasted thing! :rotfl:

    Have now retreated back inside for a consolatory cup of coffee lol

    BW

    :rotfl:

    Were you dressed though? :rotfl:

    My neighbours are well used to seeing me doing outside chores in my PJs and dressing gown. As is the postie..I haven't subjected the builder to that sight yet. Need him to complete the porch before I give him any reason to run away :rotfl:
  • BookWorm
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    Hmmmm.....I've resisted faceache and the other twittering one....am a bit of a renegade in that respect. Some of it is down to just being wary... don't want to be contacted by people from 30 odd years ago so they can rub in how fantastic their lives are :mad:, but mostly I just don't want to be on the internet much more than I am now....it's so easy to lose years on the internet...all I ever log on for is a recipe and 6 hrs later....

    :rotfl:


    I don't do FB for very similar reasons. I don't understand why people who barely gave you the time of day in the past suddenly want to be your 'friend'.
    I do confess to using the one starting with T though. One of my loves is motorcycling and it's an easy way to keep up with the racers and race goings on in real time. I don't use my real name though and I'm also mindful about what I post.

    I agree that the internet is definitely a time thief
    :p
  • BookWorm
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    :rotfl:

    Were you dressed though? :rotfl:

    My neighbours are well used to seeing me doing outside chores in my PJs and dressing gown. As is the postie..I haven't subjected the builder to that sight yet. Need him to complete the porch before I give him any reason to run away :rotfl:

    Yes I was dressed LOL :rotfl:

    I just felt a bit of a dafty ... no quips about that being normal please :D
  • LavenderBees
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    Well, as you can see, I've finally surfaced and caught up with you all. Welcome to the newbies. :j

    I haven't been resting though, oh no...as glamorous and chilled as everyone knows the singly life to be, today hasn't quite been like that Sunday supplement portrayal of our singly life...not quite....

    Got up, still mostly dark, staggered downstairs, put bare foot in something awfully slimy....snapped on light....old-boy-cat had been sick EVERYWHERE in the living room...tempted to snap off light and go back to bed and ignore it...but no, there's only me to deal with it...sick had just missed the long curtains, so reached over to pull them aside and lift onto the windowsill...curtain pole came down and klonked me on the head. Just managed to stop curtain landing in pile of sick. So...standing on one foot, sore head, masses of curtain material held just above sick pile....and that's before 8am...I only came down to get a cuppa to go back to bed...

    :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

    Peace and harmony is now restored, as long as I ignore the patches of inexplicable (to others) stains.

    Ah yes....the good life, indeedy :)

    Thinking of going for a walk...freeeezing out.....and will luckily be able to wear a fleecy hat to cover my horrendous bed hair. There isn't one direction that it isn't sticking out in...

    Yep, glamorous life, indeedy

    :rotfl:

    Have a good'un everyone!

    LB xx
  • BookWorm
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    Well, as you can see, I've finally surfaced and caught up with you all. Welcome to the newbies. :j

    I haven't been resting though, oh no...as glamorous and chilled as everyone knows the singly life to be, today hasn't quite been like that Sunday supplement portrayal of our singly life...not quite....

    Got up, still mostly dark, staggered downstairs, put bare foot in something awfully slimy....snapped on light....old-boy-cat had been sick EVERYWHERE in the living room...tempted to snap off light and go back to bed and ignore it...but no, there's only me to deal with it...sick had just missed the long curtains, so reached over to pull them aside and lift onto the windowsill...curtain pole came down and klonked me on the head. Just managed to stop curtain landing in pile of sick. So...standing on one foot, sore head, masses of curtain material held just above sick pile....and that's before 8am...I only came down to get a cuppa to go back to bed...

    :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

    Peace and harmony is now restored, as long as I ignore the patches of inexplicable (to others) stains.

    Ah yes....the good life, indeedy :)

    Thinking of going for a walk...freeeezing out.....and will luckily be able to wear a fleecy hat to cover my horrendous bed hair. There isn't one direction that it isn't sticking out in...

    Yep, glamorous life, indeedy

    :rotfl:

    Have a good'un everyone!

    LB xx

    Oh LB I was like :eek: and then :rotfl: reading your post. That is so not what you need on a Sunday morning!

    Def not laughing at you but with you. You managed to keep your sense of humour about things - which is fab. I def need to work on that :think:

    So glad that you managed to sort it all
    Hope the rest of the day is far less eventful for you!

    :)
  • trifles
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    I read with interest the Guardian article that Sophieschoice highlighted-plenty of food for thought:)-thank you. I have lived on my own for well over 20 years,have no children, pets (yet) and very little close family.All of my close friends are married with their own families,and have very little time to meet up. I am retired (early, please note:D) from an increasingly stressful job and on a much reduced income.So far,so depressing-BUT-while my life may not have gone down the more traditional route,and at times,like every other human being I can be profoundly lonely,I have the belief that I should cultivate an "attitude of gratitude" for the very many positives I do have.
    I have CHOICE in doing what I want to do.I see so many people stuck in marriages they don't want to be in often because they don't want 'to be on my own'-in my opinion they are on their own and in a very negative way because it is surely much lonelier to stay just so they have somebody to go to events,family gatherings,holidays etc.so they don't look 'out of place' or fear of solitude living alone. That's true loneliness,to me.I have been there-the relief when I left a disastrous marriage was huge.I was grateful actually not to feel lonely.
    Maybe the looks some 'smug marrieds 'give us' singlies' are really envy:D Lack of invites from 'couple' type scenarios are their loss. But it can be hard to walk into a social event on your own-I'm similar to the 'Miranda' sitcom character in height and general clumsiness!:rotfl:A sense of humour conquers most things!
    I think I've learned to 'be comfortable in my own skin'-I think I realised that in this life we really have to like ourselves,be our own best friend by being as kind and tolerant to ourself as we would to a close friend -too easy to slip into negativity by beating ourselves up over what we see as our shortcomings and failure to reach self-imposed targets:)
    We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.Oscar Wilde xxx:A
  • Thanks very much for the link to the Guardian article by Sara Maitland - it was so interesting and beautifully written. There was a link given to a TED talk on introversion, which didn't work, so I googled and found it. It's worth a listen

    http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts.html

    This weekend I haven't felt 100%, but I did go out to see if the "Do Something" booklet was being given away with the Observer. It wasn't, but I struck gold and found yesterday's Guardian.

    So I'm just going to do some gentle yoga (breathing mainly), have a bath, then go to bed and read. I almost never go to bed during the day, even when not well, but today I'm going to be kind to myself and my weary bones.

    Lunch was a chicken stir fry with pre-cooked chicken, and we'll see what I feel like later on after a sleep - porridge, maybe? (upside down eating is one of the joys of solo living!)
    If you have a talent, use it in every which way possible. Don't hoard it. Don't dole it out like a miser. Spend it lavishly like a millionaire intent on going broke.

    -- Brendan Francis

  • LavenderBees
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    edited 12 January 2014 at 5:35PM
    Thanks very much for the link to the Guardian article by Sara Maitland - it was so interesting and beautifully written. There was a link given to a TED talk on introversion, which didn't work, so I googled and found it. It's worth a listen

    http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts.html

    This weekend I haven't felt 100%, but I did go out to see if the "Do Something" booklet was being given away with the Observer. It wasn't, but I struck gold and found yesterday's Guardian.

    So I'm just going to do some gentle yoga (breathing mainly), have a bath, then go to bed and read. I almost never go to bed during the day, even when not well, but today I'm going to be kind to myself and my weary bones.

    Lunch was a chicken stir fry with pre-cooked chicken, and we'll see what I feel like later on after a sleep - porridge, maybe? (upside down eating is one of the joys of solo living!)

    Hope you feel better soon GQ.

    I've watched the talk you recommended on introverts and now understand myself a little better. No wonder I'm exhausted after every meeting/every day at work. All the bloomin talking I do....it is so contrary to what I need/possibly should be doing. Shame I need to pay the bills.

    ETA - this maybe also helps explain the "had enough now" button that gets flicked for me when I've had enough...

    This also led me onto watching an interesting talk about synthetic happiness -

    http://www.ted.com/playlists/4/what_makes_us_happy.html

    There are some clever and humorous people out there trying to understand what makes us human beings tick. I'm going to try to be mindful of creating situations where synthetic happiness can help me....
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