A Singularly Lonely Christmas

whitewing

Sorry that you're feeling down LB, but glad you posted honestly.


Two horse riders are trotting past my house at the moment. That is a sight that always brightens my day. I hope you can find little moments of joy today.

grandmasam

Hi LB,
I have spent christmas day on my own for a number of years now,and have and do what I want i.e... brandy butter and christmas pud for breakfast, after walking the hound, then brandy butter ,pud and brandy butter for lunch, along with a glass of wine [one of my 5 a day being as its fruit :rotfl: ] walking hound again then , like you spent afternoon taking stock. What do I want to achieve next year? Every year I give myself a challenge, this year it was learning to knit socks on 5:j needles.. have made 5 1/2 prs. Finished the day with pud and bb, plus some more wine
Be kind to yourself sweetie, you're doing well
Caz

luxor4t

I don't suppose it's screamingly funny, but DS2 came back with a cold and has given it to me. I spent yesterday with a nose like Rudolph.

it has, of course, disappeared today when I don't need to look "glamorous".

The only answer I have ever found to your big question is not really an answer at all - just that you have to take it one day at a time and adjust to the new normal.
DH had cancer last year, and although now clear, has heart problems. Our lives are so limited compared to 18 months ago, and there has been a lot of, well, I suppose I'd call it grieving as he can't go back to what he was physically and now there is always that hesitation when he makes plans. We took so much for granted - now, 'normal' is nothing like it used to be.

I hope I am making sense here. Anyway, enjoy your day resting.

LavenderBees

I take it you like Christmas pud and Brandy Butter :rotfl:

Your day made me laugh out loud, so thank you.

And yes, Whitewing, there is always something to brighten the mood. I've just been upstairs and cleaned my glasses as the world seemed a bit cloudy...but no, it's actually the smoking oven has followed me upstairs. That made me chuckle. It's minus whatever outside and I now have every window open...

:rotfl:

karren

Come to wish you all a v v merry Christmas xxxx

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LB the Lurcher finally discovered the joy of presents this year (he's almost 10!) and after santa had given him a squeaky squirrel, a tennis ball rudolph and some tasty biscuits he insisted on 'helping' with every other present that was opened, just in case it was for him,in fact he enjoyed the whole thing so much we spent a considerable part of the afternoon wrapping individual biscuits in paper for him to undo!!! Besotted pooch owners or what??? Lyn xxx.

LavenderBees

luxor4t wrote: »

I don't suppose it's screamingly funny, but DS2 came back with a cold and has given it to me. I spent yesterday with a nose like Rudolph.

it has, of course, disappeared today when I don't need to look "glamorous".

The only answer I have ever found to your big question is not really an answer at all - just that you have to take it one day at a time and adjust to the new normal.
DH had cancer last year, and although now clear, has heart problems. Our lives are so limited compared to 18 months ago, and there has been a lot of, well, I suppose I'd call it grieving as he can't go back to what he was physically and now there is always that hesitation when he makes plans. We took so much for granted - now, 'normal' is nothing like it used to be.

I hope I am making sense here. Anyway, enjoy your day resting.

You're making a lot of sense. Thank you. One day, one hour, one minute at a time is all we can take at a time. I need to remember that. Get through today as happily and intact as possible, and then worry about tomorrow tomorrow. You're right, thank you.

Big hug.

LB x

LavenderBees

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

LB the Lurcher finally discovered the joy of presents this year (he's almost 10!) and after santa had given him a squeaky squirrel, a tennis ball rudolph and some tasty biscuits he insisted on 'helping' with every other present that was opened, just in case it was for him,in fact he enjoyed the whole thing so much we spent a considerable part of the afternoon wrapping individual biscuits in paper for him to undo!!! Besotted pooch owners or what??? Lyn xxx.

Yes, i can imagine that :rotfl:. Bless him!

My cats will help me unwrap pressies later...I have to keep saying "wots this" in a high pitched squeaky voice to keep them interested, but they do seem to enjoy it. Couldn't imagine life without pets.

jools27_2

LB I know exactly what you mean about coming home to an empty house! I lost my OH very suddenly last Christmas, and even though I have my 2 adult kids living with me and family nearby coming home is very hard most days! I had dinner with my mum and brother yesterday, DD was at her boyfriends, DS went to his friends as he didn't want to eat. I came home just after 7 to the cat asleep and thought is this it???? I am lucky to have my family and some fantastic friends, and before I would have paid for an empty house some days, but never really appreciated before just how lonely you can feel at times, mind you this can also overcome me in a crowd some days. I just keep telling myself that the feelings will fade some day, and when it hits me I look around at the photos surrounding me and remember the years of happiness and memories which went before!
Enjoy your pj day, I would be doing the same but have DD, BF and my brother coming for Christmas dinner number 2 later, so am off to give myself a makeover before I start peeling the veg!

Dozey_crow

I am so sorry for all of the grief that people are suffering. Christmas is always such a difficult time we have lost a lot of relatives around Christmas. I understand what Luxor is saying about struggling to make plans when someone is I'll as my DH is also unwell and it does make things harder. We are learning to take a one day at a time approach to everything and to have a contingency plan for everything. For instance we are going to the sales today and our contingency is that we are not ever far from a coffee shop so he can rest if needed.

Funny things to happen... Well my grandma was there with us yesterday she is a very well dressed Victorian esk lady in her late 80s, tall and thin. We also had with us a distant relative who is renowned (to the rest of us! :rotfl:) for bad taste in presents. Anyway there was a large squishy parcel for Grandma from said relative. She opened it to reveal an enormous fuschia pink garish top with matching mini skirt!!! Well her face was a picture :rotfl::rotfl: credit to her though she covered it well and thanked said relative very sincerely.

We are considering offering her money to wear it!!! Goodness only knows what she will do with it!!!:rotfl:

Just to be clear though it was all in good humour and no one was miffed at all. We almost look forward to presents from this person.

Lavenderbees, well done for managing Christmas day so very well. I hope that you do find something to help with the next few difficult days.