Finding a partner was easier 'back in the day' - discuss

Richard53

Rather puzzled by this thread until I realised I had read the title wrong. I though it was about discovering that your partner had been promiscuous at an earlier stage of life.

This reveals more about me than it does about the topic, so I will shut up.

duchy

It rather got me thinking ....Is the question more about it is harder to KEEP the one . Back in the fifties a married cheater was frowned upon and a girl who went out with a married man looked down on ..... the social pressure to conform isn't nearly as high now days mostly . I know of a middle class woman who had an affair with the her boss and told all and sundry breaking up his marriage was "Just one of those things" Now married with young children herself (not to the same man -he settled with a woman who believed in fidelity) I do wonder if she'd say the same if her husband strayed though....or if she'd wish for the older values.

Pollyp

I think the problem is that we are too overloaded with information these days. You meet someone and you can know almost everything about them in just a couple of minutes with the help of the internet. And when there is nothing more to find out, why would you be interested in that person at all?

I guess I'm not answering properly as you are asking about meeting people, but my point is that even when you do meet them, keeping things interesting is becoming increasingly difficult.

Morglin

CC-Warrior wrote: »

Would you say that finding a partner was easier 'back in the day'?

'The day' could be the 50's, 60's, 70's 80's or whatever. If so, what do you think makes it difficult to meet people these days? Is it the pace of life, career pressures, a more dangerous society? Were people nicer in the day and had less problems? Is social networking playing a part by reducing actual social interaction and introducing more problems?

I'm also interested in hearing your opinions on whether it is easier to meet someone whilst you are younger, i.e. it may be easier to meet someone whilst in your twenties as there seems to be more single people available in that age group.

Also, are people using online dating actually trying to hard? If you look you'll never find it, and all that. I was always told to relax and not put pressure on myself to meet someone. Those sites seem very competitive, almost a battleground. Just to meet up with a total stranger, urgh.

To the parents with offspring in their late teens/early twenties - what advice do you give?

What are your thoughts?

The difficulty isn't finding someone, and it never was a difficulty.

The problem now, as then, is finding the right someone.

Lin