Saving money by becoming a house wife

wondercollie

Nursing is JUST a job! I'm tired of people thinking otherwise. It's a job that we train for. Yes, I'm interested in the disease process, recovery of my patients and enjoy caring for most of them.

But like any other job, we do it because we are paid to do it. Burnout is a huge issue as is injury to the staff. It's not a "calling" or a "vocation" it's job that is dirty, manual, and at times literally backbreaking.

I know nurses who work in coffee shops, dress shops, anything but healthcare because they are exhausted and plain fed up with being expected to suffer physical and verbal abuse in silence.

Yes, I've had a very long month with extremely demanding patients and families "who know their rights". No, if they did, they wouldn't be asking the questions they are and bullying the staff.

Tenyearstogo

I think I probably am burnt out. I've been doing it over twenty years.

If I left nursing I would never return to the NHS, probably not to another public sector position at all.

babyboysmommy

Well put Wondercollie

franklally

Fantastic thread!
I gave up full time work a couple of years ago and it's the best thing I ever did.
I feel that I have my life and sanity back now - I only wish I'd done it sooner.:T

tiredwithtwins

Tenyearstogo wrote: »

WTS - I'm quite happy to give up work, more than happy. Nursing isn't the job I career I started 20 years ago, I'm not particularly career driven, my home life is far more important. I work to pay the bills but my husbands income has stepped up a lot in the past five years meaning that second income isn't vital.

Suki - that's the way we have thought. Quality of life. We spent years struggling to make end meets, not buying anything but essentials and still ending up in debt. We are fortunately past that now but I worry that we will have to go without nice things.

A career change might be nice but I don't have any skills really. I did well with a party plan company and enjoyed the sales side but I don't fancy the whole team building and promotional side again.

fen - I do claim tax relief on uniform. I wear clean uniform everyday as I have lots of patient contact but I save it to wash on my days off and do a load.

Im a nurse too, and completely agree with what you say about nursing not being the job it was 20 years ago ...
a colleague of mine recently did what you are planning to do - she changed to nhs professionals and now works one night shift a fortnight - she is much better off financially for all the reasons discussed, but as she earns under £10k a year so doesn't pay any income tax, her one night shift a fortnight still allows her to have some extra money for holidays and stuff ... as long as you make sure you stay under that £10k, its a win win situation. it helps that her partner earns a decent salary, and her teenagers are now in 6th form and university, but shes convinced it would have worked even if she had done this when they were smaller.
good luck with it!!
sue x

Tenyearstogo

meritaten wrote: »

I find it sad that you consider nursing to be a 'job' to pay for 'extras'. as you can afford it and OH is eager for you to do this - why not use the 'stay at home' period to explore future career options? Re-train or go for qualifications to a 'preferred' career?

It could still be within the NHS, just a different 'role'?

Why do you find it sad?

Dumyat

I can't tell you how many of my colleagues are reaching burn out in the NHS too. After 30 years I am making plans to leave as soon as it is financially viable for my family too. There is just no way I could consider working like this until I am 67.

Rummer

I would love to be a SAHM however I am the main breadwinner in our house. My OH works in an unstable industry and has previously been made redundant so if I had not been working we would have been in bother.

Before you stop work I would advise you to have a good savings buffer behind you so that if the unforeseen happens you have something to fall back on.

zippychick

as this has dropped down the OS board, I've moved it to the families board so you can get some different input over here

Zip


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Person_one

wondercollie wrote: »

Nursing is JUST a job!

Maybe it is for you.

I have to say, I'm finding it a bit odd on this thread that so many people are using the term 'SAHW' as if 'wife' is a job title rather than just someone's marital status.

OP, I don't believe for a second that you 'have no skills' after 20 years of nursing, and all the CPD you'll have done in that time. Maybe you're feeling worn out and disillusioned and undervaluing yourself a bit. Would you not be happier and more fulfilled if you could find something (whether in healthcare or in any other field) that gave you a new enthusiasm and new goals?

I know I sound idealistic, but I just can't imagine being happy unemployed.