Can't help but feel upset!

Claire212

My beautiful 22 month old daughter tripped and fell the other day at Nursery.


She ended up with a 2 inch (deep) cut on her face underneath her eye stretching to her nose, that ultimately needed stitches.


I am now so upset that she will more than likely have a scar. I'm devastated.


I know it sounds ridiculous because we are lucky it wasn't more serious. She is happy and healthy was so brave and is running around now as though nothing has happened.


I was born with a Cleft lip and Palate and was overjoyed when at our 20 week scan she was unaffected, now I am deeply upset that this has happened.


I know many people say that children this young do not scar, but the doctors have said otherwise, and that it's likely.


I guess I'm looking for reassurance that it won't be as bad as I'm imagining.

lostinrates

Have you looked in to products that minimise scarring once its healing? Some are anecdotally remarkably effective.

pearl123

Scars fade, as you say luckily it was not worse.

sacha28

Hi Claire.

I have the most accident prone 20 month old son, well more fearless than accident prone I guess!!!! They had an accident form audit at the nursery a few weeks back and my boy had the most :j lol

Anyway, my LO had just learned to jump, about 11 months ago, and he fell flat on his face on a concrete path. He smacked his forehead really hard and had a really nasty cut. We thought he would be scarred too. Now, though, you can't even see where he hit his head

I understand why you are so sensitive about this but try not to worry. You have so many years left and thousands more accidents to cope with.

Artytarty

I can Sympathise, our world I'd horribly appearance focused.
My daughter was born with a large birthmark and endured some bullying .
I cried when my twenty YEAR old son chipped a tooth in rugby! It was awful to see perfection spoiled and I'm sure you are feeling a bit of that.
However, it's never as bad as you imagine in the long term, but I know how it hurts. Take comfort, many many scars , unless burns , are scarcely noticeable after a while. *hug* I think it's natural to be upset.

Soleil_lune

She'll be fine. She is very young and scars on little babies and toddlers heal very fast. These things happen: you will be laughing about it in about a year - trust me It will hardly show at ALL by the time she is about 4.

You sound like a lovely, caring mommy BTW

Soleil_lune

Claire212 wrote: »

My beautiful 22 month old daughter tripped and fell the other day at Nursery.


She ended up with a 2 inch (deep) cut on her face underneath her eye stretching to her nose, that ultimately needed stitches.


I am now so upset that she will more than likely have a scar. I'm devastated.


I know it sounds ridiculous because we are lucky it wasn't more serious. She is happy and healthy was so brave and is running around now as though nothing has happened.


I was born with a Cleft lip and Palate and was overjoyed when at our 20 week scan she was unaffected, now I am deeply upset that this has happened.


I know many people say that children this young do not scar, but the doctors have said otherwise, and that it's likely.


I guess I'm looking for reassurance that it won't be as bad as I'm imagining.

By the way, you DO mean 2" in length and not DEPTH right? :eek:

LEJC

its always upsetting when an accident happens...but your daughter is fine,the stitches will heal and she wont probably be able to recall the incident in years to come.

I'm also going to say it probably wont be the only scar she picks up along lifes journey...ive a particularly good one on my leg that I managed to inflict on myself many years ago as a child falling up some stairs....and despite my best intentions when my son got chicken pox as a toddler he managed to obtain a pox mark on his forehead...at the time I felt bad but thats life and our individual scars are our journey through it!

carolan78

I wouldn't worrytoo much about scarring, when my 7 yo dd cracked her forehead open at 18 months old I worried about the scar too. Fast forward 6 years and unless you know it's there it isn't noticeable. Equally when I had a mole removed from under my nose I worried about the scar. You can't see that either unless you look for it

marisco_2

Sorry to hear that your little girl hurt herself and needed stitches. That must have come as a shock for you. It does sound as if it could have been much worse, but naturally you are concerned about scarring occurring. I would recommend chatting to your gp or a nurse at the practice and taking their advice on minimising this. As others have said though she is very young and her skin will hopefully heal well.

Brace yourself a bit as children and mishaps go hand in hand. All part of growing up and learning to do things carefully so as not to hurt themselves.

Faith177

I split my lip open when I was two after jumping on my mum and dads bed.

It was a diamond shape cut that had to be stitched by a cosmetic surgeon because of the position. They spent an hour stitching it too get it just right.

Next morning I pulled all the stitches out while announcing "look Mummy all better".

The scar is hardly noticeable now and has healed perfectly. It is a little more pronounced when I'm very very cold but people hardly ver notice it.

Also in 2010 I fell while holding a wine glass it smashed and slashed my chin up very deeply. I was so upset as I was getting married in April this year and was worried what a mess it would make to my face.

That has too healed great and again hardly noticeable.

All the best for your daughter xx