problem neighbour

Mojisola

cazpumpkin wrote: »

I agree with Susie....with problem neighbours you musnt communicate with them for a minimum of at least 6 weeks, you don't have to ever be friends with her just ignore her. Keep smiling at the other neighbours and if they raise her comments state you have no clue what she is talking about, don't even discuss your ex or kids with them either

Cottage_Economy wrote: »

My first instinct is to say that either your late husband or his children have been talking to her across the fence. Whoever has been talking to her is not happy with the situation.

My money is on the children, as Paddy said probably the stepson.

And yes, i agree with others about moving. If it gets nasty, you don't want it to get to the point where you are making formal complaints about her, as you will have to disclose that when selling at a later date.

These things can escalate with thanks to ignorant people like her.

I would try cazpumpkin's way first. All the people she's telling lies to are probably well aware of what she's like and are not taking her seriously. Someone like that has probably had other victims in the past and they will have heard similar things said before.

If it doesn't settle down, I would seriously consider Cottage Economy's way. Once you have a neighbour dispute going, a lot of buyers will just walk away. You could put up with misery for years and then find that you can't sell your house.

Have you made a will? Are his children likely to challenge it if it doesn't give them what they think they're entitled to? If so, your executors could have a nightmare of an estate to sort out.

debsue

Thanks. Thats why i am going to make a will today. I wouldnt think this is a neighbour dispute as its a personal thing, she gets on fine with her other neighbours. She just needs to get a life lol

Mojisola

debsue wrote: »

I wouldnt think this is a neighbour dispute as its a personal thing, she gets on fine with her other neighbours. She just needs to get a life lol

If you get a solicitor to send her a letter, that will be a neighbour dispute which will have to be disclosed during a house sale.

debsue

wont do it then, thanks for the advice

paddy's_mum

debsue wrote: »

The police became involved

the snide comments continue

I'd missed this bit about the police on the first reading. Since the police have already been involved, you may already be in a situation where you will have to declare it to a potential purchaser. I would ask your solicitor for his advice about the best way to handle all this. Who called the police, as a matter of interest?

If he says that there is now a 'declareable' scenario, then I feel you have nothing to lose by asking the police for their advice on how you can stop the nastiness which, incidentally, I agree with you is harassment. The matter of your ownership of the house is not even any of her business nor does it affect her in any way so presumably envy and spite is at the root of all this. She didn't have something going on with your stepson, did she?

Having endured several years of something very similar from a batty neighbour over a boundary dispute, I understand so well how very wearing and upsetting something like this can be. We got so stressed that I used to crawl along the ditch to another neighbour's back garden so that I could leave the house without Mr Dementia spotting me and knowing that the house was empty.

It will sort itself out over time I'm sure but come back here if ever you feel wobbly and stressed. I still recommend that you sell up and move. Memories and/or attachment aren't good enough reasons to put yourself into this old witch's firing line. Good luck.

Mojisola

paddy's_mum wrote: »

I'd missed this bit about the police on the first reading.

Oops! So did I.

Since the police have already been involved, you may already be in a situation where you will have to declare it to a potential purchaser. I would ask your solicitor for his advice about the best way to handle all this.

Agree with this.

Desperado99

I'd move personally.

I know it's slightly different but after my mum died, my dad got comments from a few people over how he was 'spending all her money'. Mum and dad were happily married, when she died the life insurance paid the small mortgage and as Dad was now living alone as opposed to raising 3 kids he had extra cash and had the kitchen/garden done. Nobodies business but his.

it's just sour grapes from sour people.

debsue

Thanks, I have been to solicitor and his advice is to ignore or it could become expensive and may then affect a house sale. I called the police because she was screaming obscenities and calling me a F*****g wh***! Nothing official was written down and it was the community support team who attended, it has stopped her snide comments at me but not the maliscious gossip. I will rise above and ignore her. Thank you for your advice.
PS there has never been anything between her or my husband or step children, they didnt like her either

duchy

Quite honestly unless you are emotionally attached to the house or it is your dream house I wouldn't discount selling it and having a lovely fresh start in something more manageable size wise and some money in the bank...... You could send neighbour from hell a postcard from your lovely cruise for example !

nettles77

Hi, we recently have had lots of probs with a nasty neighbour, we had housing, council, councillors and police envolved. This went on for 1.5 years with police visiting nearly everyday, anyway they issued her with a harassment order, then she lied and said I did things I didn't. She broke her harassment order and was issued a 2nd, broke it and was issued a 3rd. When she received her 3rd and final order police told her they were getting all the details ready to take her to court, she didn't want this as was guilty and we had lots of proof so she did a moonlit flight, police are still taking her to court tho. I would ask to speak to neighbour hood policing team and ask about harassment order. Sorry was so long. Hope you get sorted as it's nasty and horrible in the place where you live. Good luck. X x