problem neighbour

debsue

I dont know if this is the right place to post but I feel I will get some sound advice. long story but will try to be brief.

Many years ago I met and married my husband, he was a divorcee with two shildren who I have brought up as my own. My husband became ill and retired, but I have a good job and we managed coomfortably on my salary, paid off the mortgage and managed to save quite a bit of money. saved. four years ago I left him, mainly because of problems which had been going on some years and had progressivly gotten worse.

The children had grown up and I continued to have a good relationship with them although the eldest boy had returned to live with his father following the breakdown of his relationship, and had caused a serious amount of stress to his father due to debt problems and constant lying. I supported my husband as the split was amicable and we remained friends, I never considered divorce as we did not feel it was necessary.

Sadly my husband died in January and as hte will remained the same and my name is on the deeds the marital home became my sole property. The children had moved on so I returned to live in the house. I have done a considerable of work to the property.

My biggest problem is my neighbour. she has made it plain that she does not like me and although we "got along" previously, she has become the neighbour from hell. From the day I moved back in she has said vile things about me loudly so I overhear. She woke me one sunday morning screaming abuse from her garden aimed at me bacause she thought my cat had poo'd in her garden, even though I do not have a cat! The police became involved and she is no longer able to talk to me.

However the snide comments continue and she has been overheard talking about me to anyone who will listen calling me a thief and a !!!!!. she tells everyone I have stolen the house and money from my dead husband and his children.

This is really getting me down and feel it is akin to harrassment, she makes sure that it is overheard by people who know me. I was recently in the local supermarket and I overheard her say to her young son that if she had a gun she would shoot me!

I do not feel that she would do anything like that as she is all mouth, so to speak!, but I have really had enough.
Sorry its so long but any ideas?

Thank you

paddy's_mum

Sell up and move.

Life's too short to put up with the shenanigans of a spiteful, envious, bitter neighbour who probably only heard the other side of things from your stepson.

Alternatively? Make it known on that same grapevine that if you can't sell, you will be renting the house out to a bunch of local - name the nationality - immigrants.

tea_lover

Move house!

Cottage_Economy

My first instinct is to say that either your late husband or his children have been talking to her across the fence. Whoever has been talking to her is not happy with the situation.

My money is on the children, as Paddy said probably the stepson.

And yes, i agree with others about moving. If it gets nasty, you don't want it to get to the point where you are making formal complaints about her, as you will have to disclose that when selling at a later date.

These things can escalate with thanks to ignorant people like her.

susieanne

Life is to short .... so next time you see her or every time you walk out through your front door hold your head up high and put a massive big smile on your face


A big no no don't ever let her think she's getting to you

cazpumpkin

I agree with Susie....with problem neighbours you musnt communicate with them for a minimum of at least 6 weeks, you don't have to ever be friends with her just ignore her. Keep smiling at the other neighbours and if they raise her comments state you have no clue what she is talking about, don't even discuss your ex or kids with them either

atrixblue.-MFR-.

OP sounds like she's been fed a bunch of lies.

theres no need to run like other have said to sell up, that's just a cowards way of retreating to confrontation of friction to something.

everytime she directs verbal abuse at you just smile and act like she don't exist and carry on mowing the lawn or taking shopping in and don't take her attacks personal train yourself to not even acknowledge her presence.

hazyjo

Could your late ex have had a relationship with this woman?

Jx

debsue

No he didnt have a relationship with her LOL, he disliked her too. Thank you for your replies. I have to see a solicitor today on another matter, I will ask him to write her a letter. Thanks again x

tea_lover

debsue wrote: »

I have to see a solicitor today on another matter, I will ask him to write her a letter. Thanks again x

If you are planning on selling at some point be careful about taking any action against her, as a lot of this will need to be disclosed to potential buyers.

pearl123

It is possible the your neighbour has mental health problems. Is she over the top with her abuse? Or is she just plain rough!