im the only one who didnt know.

DKLS

I operate on a need to know basis, and often don't tell my family what is going in my life. I carefully select what I will and wont tell them as I value my privacy.

BitterAndTwisted

My mother was horribly indiscrete and couldn't be trusted not to blab every secret known to man to all and sundry. Consequently I never told her anything I didn't want freely broadcasted and never repeated anything she told me about mutual friends or family-members. I waited to be told by them in their own good time, or not as they chose. It was the only way to ensure peace reigned. I think the OP should operate on the same premise.

scooby088

Well OP in all fairness it's none of your business who knows, I am not close to my family at all and wouldn't tell them anything personal like that at all.

onlyroz

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

My mother was horribly indiscrete and couldn't be trusted not to blab every secret known to man to all and sundry. Consequently I never told her anything I didn't want freely broadcasted and never repeated anything she told me about mutual friends or family-members. I waited to be told by them in their own good time, or not as they chose. It was the only way to ensure peace reigned. I think the OP should operate on the same premise.

My mum's like this - she tells me in minute detail all of the various medical problems that my brother and his family are dealing with, and all the "gossip" that she's rounded up about everybody else - as a result there are certain things that I've not told her about my own life. I'd be happy enough for *her* to know them but I don't want to be on the phone to my aunt up-north and have my own private details relayed back to me.

Hermia

onlyroz wrote: »

My mum's like this - she tells me in minute detail all of the various medical problems that my brother and his family are dealing with, and all the "gossip" that she's rounded up about everybody else - as a result there are certain things that I've not told her about my own life. I'd be happy enough for *her* to know them but I don't want to be on the phone to my aunt up-north and have my own private details relayed back to me.

I've got an aunt who is just like this. It's very unnerving to discover that she has told lots of people you barely know everything about your private life. She also reads too much into everything. A relative went to a careers fair once because his company was going through a sticky patch and he thought he ought to see what was out there. The aunt ended up telling everyone he was losing his job and was depressed etc!

TeamLowe

When I was a little girl, my Uncle and Auntie separated and told absolutely no one in the family, they used to take it in turns to be at the house when family would visit and pretend the other was out somewhere to keep up the pretence that they were still married. I don't know exactly how everyone found out but it had been going on a significant amount of time like this, at least a year I'd say as I can remember the visits.

We've hardly seen my Uncle and his new wife since, he didn't go to my cousin's wedding but came to mine, only late on in the evening and left without saying goodbye.

Yeah, families can be very strange.