Shut the door!

Teg-Rem

I've been banging away on those for years, do they happen?? never! and don't even get me started on anything else tho' I might come back later. oh well rant over for now.

meritaten

currently, my pet peeve with OH is 'why the he!! do you walk past the recycling bin with your lager cans and leave them by the sink? do you really think I am going to wash them up?' grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

Mojisola

moments_of_sanity wrote: »

We were really just having a rant and comparing note. I know they could be better but I didn't think this thread was about parenting skills.

I think there are things within a family that annoy us but aren't the end of the world so we put up with them - we all have different things that we can cope with or can't and so need to change.

As you just want a rant, it sounds as you don't really want to change what's happening.

I expect there are things that happen in my home that I can shrug off but others would find very difficult to live with.

bluebag

Oh thank the gods for this thread, it's not only me losing my mind with all this stuff.

There are days when I just give up, can't face the nagging and just do it myself ... then I beat myself up for being too soft.

merlot123

moments_of_sanity wrote: »

Yes it's annoying having to constantly repeat myself and reminding them to turn lights off, out their washing in the bin if it's dirty, shut doors etc but they could be a lot worse. They could be drinking, doing drugs, out all night but they aren't, they are exceptional girls with beautiful manners (when out and about and at school, which everyone comments on), they are helpful to elderly people that look like they need some assistance and I always know where they are and they both have school grades that you could only ever be proud of.

I think I will have it the way it is thanks

Your girls sound just lovely, you should be very proud of them.

Always one who says they would not have got away with it....it's a light or a door for goodness sake , not the end of the world, children are at home for a short time before they leave home or go onto university, I'm not going to be remembered by my two for being so strict about a light or shutting a door, I just get OH to shut it or turn it off:D

sonastin

OH and I just spent a couple of days staying with his mother. He spent a good portion of the journey home complaining about how his mother didn't put things away in the fridge. I couldn't quite find the words to point out that the apple hasn't fallen far from the tree.

Add to that, his insistence on a laundry basket with a lid... that he never lifts off and puts things on top of (so I've hidden the lid now!)

And making me buy a recycling bin so that he can put empty bottles on the floor next to it.

I've long since gotten used to following him around the house switching lights off and the dirty dishes being put on the worktop above the dishwasher. But I've still not forgiven him for the time I had the dishwasher open just finishing off reloading it... and he left his dirty plate on the side I'd just cleared instead of putting it into the open dishwasher rack 6 inches away!

I don't think I dare raise children with him if these traits run in his family!

lisakay_2

I spend all winter telling them to shut the door, by the time it sinks in it's summer and I spend the next few weeks saying can you please leave the doors open!

homesteadchick

lisakay wrote: »

I spend all winter telling them to shut the door, by the time it sinks in it's summer and I spend the next few weeks saying can you please leave the doors open!

:rotfl::rotfl:Yes that sounds familliar!!

It is so funny to hear other people about those little things that kids and husbands do. Mine do that too!!

OH will put his empty beer can on the kitchen counter, while the recycling bin is underneath!!
Teenagers will put rubbish ON TOP of the bin, rather than lifting the lid and chucking it in!..

:rotfl:

At times I get really miffed about it. But I try to remember that to them it's very different. They don't see it the way I do. Their thoughts are not occupied by "keep the house clean" . I can be nagging about the house looking like a pig sty and they will shrug and say, "really?"

I remember when I was a teenager, that my mum complained about the same stuff. WHen I got home from school or something, I'd pour myself a drink and not even have an inkling of a thought crossing my mind to wash my glass or even do the dishes. It would just NOT occur to me!

So I am trying to think of that when it comes to my own teens. When I ask them: Will you please .....? they will do as I ask most of the time quite happily. But it's just not on the forefront of their thoughtprocess.

Same with OH. Cleaning up is just not on his mind!
Frustrating as that might be sometimes.

Just the other week a young mum complained to me. Saying that all she did was clean up after the kids, wipe bums and noses, make meals and clean up some more... "Is this what being a mum is all about?" she asked me.

I told her: "Yes! But you also get lots of cuddles, giggles, play-time, reading, crafting, chatting and magical moments."

As someone else also said, they are only with us for a short time. Before you know it, they will be off on their own and you'll sigh and wish for the times that you could nag them to shut the door.

;-)

That doesn't mean you can't have a good rant on occasion! :rotfl::rotfl:

ash28

cutestkids wrote: »

Yep along with opening a pack of biscuits and sitting them next to the biscuit barrel to go soft.
Putting the bread on top of the bread bin rather than in it.
Piling the cardboard inners of toilet roll on the window legge in the bathroom when they finish a roll when there is a bin right next to the toilet.

Unfortunately "soft" and "biscuits" are two words that have never gone together in our house.......

Clean washing in the laundry bin was one of my gripes and when they were working going to work in the mornings for me to find bedroom lights and tvs were left on.....and one of them had a portable oil heater - I would walk into her room and almost be knocked out by the heat.

The cardboard inners of toilet rolls never made it to the window ledge they were left on the toilet roll holder and the new roll put on the cistern or the floor.

In our new house we still haven't got a toilet roll holder in the main bathroom - when the kids visit and ask why I tell them it's because it would be a waste of time as they have never used them.....the real reason is that the tiles are lovely and I don't want to drill into them and plan to buy a floor standing holder.

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As I sadly now live on my own I would give my eye teeth to have my late OH around as messy as he was at times .
I am fairly tidy as I know if I'm not, no one will pick up after me.
I do spend a lot of time at DDs as I am carer for 4 of my DGS when their parent are at work.I have trained them that plates/cups etc go to the kitchen when finished with and not on the floor,table or armrests.They are pretty good as I guilt-tripped them into learning.
Me " I am an old woman and far too old to bend down to move your bits, as my back and legs are older than you lot put together " :):)

Works very well,the one thing that drives me nuts in their house is they will 'ball' their socks up and chuck them in the laundry basket.Why ?, as I have to undo them for putting into the washing machine,also the boys take their shirts off over their heads and leave them buttoned,again why ?, I have to stand and unbutton them.I usually yell out from the kitchen when I am loading the machine 'Buttons' and one of them (usually Jack as he's the worst offender :)) will come into the kitchen and undo them all :)
My DD has bought them all onsies from Primark which means they stay warm and the heating stays off for a bit longer after school.I put it on for an hour at 3.00 and then the house is warm for when they come in at least.
These onsies are quite good value and it means there is no moaning about being cold.Lights too are a bugbear of mine, and in her sitting room apart from the mainlight there is a light on the tropical fish tank and a standard floor light ,so the big middle one gets switched off.As they live in a three storey town house I am always yelling 'Lights' when they come home from school.DD is always amazed at how well the boys tidy up now after themselves,but I have got them into the habit early :):)
The other day i over heard Jack telling M ikey 'Don't leave that there Granny's not here to pick up after you ':)

Even Ben the 17 year old has got into the habit of bringing down his clothes for washing as I told him 'my joints don't do stairs in this house' (its like a bloomimg lighthouse :))
But all in all they aren't bad lads just a bit thoughtless and I love looking afterthem.Ben will take the rubbish out and mow the lawn and Jack will hoover Henry and Mikey will try to outdo each other to see who can run the books etc upstairs the fastest.They will all make super husbands hopefully when they are grown up:):):)