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Sunshinemummy

Savvybuyer wrote: »

Within reason.

I don't think it's necessarily "sad" - even though it is the truth:D - but certainly the 'tell the truth' mantra cannot literally apply in every every circumstance, sometimes 'common' (whatever that is) decency or decorum, or things such as not wanting to upset the other person (I suppose that relates to decency the same thing) dictate no.

This is part of the unwritten unlearned thing (unlearned as appears instinctive to most people) but it's not what we are taught in schools and, therefore, woefully (esp. as an Asperger person) I wasn't taught it. And, yes, we do need to be taught! (It isn't obvious or self-explanatory to (almost all of) us.) I suppose I learned it through experience - well, I definitely learned it through experience; there's no 'suppose' about it at all.

I think really we (most of us) hope people aspire to tell the truth within reason. (And then that qualifier - "within reason" arguably allows all sorts of get-out!) Would it be that society were, or could be, consistent.

Of course, this detailed "exception to the rule", then exception to that, etc., isn't how most people "operate". Indeed, people don't operate (they're not machines) and it's not a mechanical thing in that sense as that would imply - most people, nearly all people, just get on with things and on with life without concerning themselves with it - they know really want is expected or is right or wrong or such. (Although if you ask them specifically and exactly what they "know", they then doubtless can't tell you, as they don't really know at all.) It's those people with Asperger's (zzzz....:rotfl:) that operate (whose brains operate) in this way, and constantly think about it too (if it's a current special interest of theirs) - which is no problem as their brains are the ones constantly capable of thinking and dealing with thought.

Those Asperger's people eh? It's them you've got to worry about - always coming up with invidious and pernicious challenges to the way things are done.:):D

Just to mention at the end, I don't claim to speak for anyone other than myself. I've no idea how others with the condition may or may not see things, any more than I don't know how any person without it does or doesn't.

I do think it is sad when some people do not consider what the truth is before speaking, but there is a balance to be had between being truthful and offending someone. I still aspire to tell the truth, but I also aspire to not offend... I don't get it right all the time. I can only gain an impression of how hard it is for you from your posts. :A

Savvybuyer

Sunshinemummy wrote: »

I often get myself in trouble by telling the truth or asking a question that is deemed politically incorrect. But I do accept that it must be hard when there is absolute truth. I have many stories I could repeat, but usually it is when I am being rude and if I post I will offend. I once had a interview for a job, when they asked me if I had questions I reply 'do you swear in the office, 'cus I ain't working where I can't swear!'. Scarily I got the job!

Now. That, yet another obsession (or former obsession). Would prompt me to ask "what do you mean by 'swear'?". And ask it - and you'll find people all have different opinions and views as to what that means. There's former research by the Broadcasting Standards Commission that does not show 100% of people saying every word in their list is a "swearword". So, clearly, the whole concept is completely vague. Well, perhaps not completely (not literally "completely").

Imagine though if I had got that question - and asked for them to clarify (because, folks, yes, according to research, none of you in total i.e. society, actually tells me precisely what that term "swearing" means and are so inconsistent (?:rotfl::rotfl:) and unclear in your approach as to make it impossible to tell what it means or whose definition, or why, might be applied or being used).

I wonder if that question, and my hypothetical response, would have seen me get the job or not.:):)

(I bet you're not supposed to ask for clarification there, even if you honestly don't fully and completely in every respect understand it. (And how could you answer a question you didn't fully understand?) So, I expect it's expected that you'd pretend (a form of 'lying' in its widest definition) and answer as if you knew.)

Oh...:doh::doh:, it was you that asked the question (as you tell me so and I have no reason to doubt that). I'd never even have been confident enough to ask it!

Which, if it had been a question asked by an interviewer of me - or anybody - would have been totally pointless and given no reliable answer anyway, if (as it highly likely) the interviewer and interviewee both had different views of the meaning of "to swear" anyway and each was using their own terms of reference. (They'd be, and are, talking about different things to each other!:D (Interviewer's view of what constitutes "swearing" and interviewee's view, which are most unlikely, judging from the research, to be the same.))

Thrifty_Sister

Heaven help me ....................






















For I have succumbed :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Savvybuyer

So... where does my last post leave us??!?;):D:rotfl::rotfl:

I think it leaves us posting some shopping comparisons...:D:D:D:D (and perhaps if not wanting to move off-topic... or on-topic depending on your view!).

emerald21

tweets wrote: »

I bought 3 cakes in Sainsbobs yesterday 3 for 2 got a meringue which got eaten last night. A coffee choux bun and a Christmas themed Éclair will have to eat these 2 tonight don't want them going off

I saw strawberry tarts they looked nice. I don't like mince pies or mice pies :rotfl:. Sorry you didn't like them

No of course not

fairclaire

queen_of_cheap wrote: »

I wish. He's got the verbal squits again :mad:

You've got a greenhouse haven't you?

In days long gone my OH on occasion ( thankfully it wasn't that regularly) would go out with his army mates and get rather drunk. He was a total PIA when he was and prone to being sick :mad:

I put a bivvy bag in the shed for him and locked the door. He was warm and dry, no one had to listen to drunken ramblings and my carpets stayed clean

aau1

Savvybuyer wrote: »

So... where does my last post leave us??!?;):D:rotfl::rotfl:.

Truthfully?

Dizzy_Ditzy

fairclaire wrote: »

You've got a greenhouse haven't you?

In days long gone my OH on occasion ( thankfully it wasn't that regularly) would go out with his army mates and get rather drunk. He was a total PIA when he was and prone to being sick :mad:

I put a bivvy bag in the shed for him and locked the door. He was warm and dry, no one had to listen to drunken ramblings and my carpets stayed clean

If I thought I could get say with it, I would do :cool:

xxlouisexx56

Can anyone help me with the tesco coupons please?

davemorton

So whats the difference between a sleeping bag and a bivvy bag please FC??