Wee Wee Leaks !!!

Tenyearstogo

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

That's exactly what I did with mine anyway!! Does lifting mean not waking them up then?

Lifting is when people actually lift them, carry them, sit them on the loo and wait until they go.

notanewuser

Tenyearstogo wrote: »

Lifting is when people actually lift them, carry them, sit them on the loo and wait until they go.

While asleep.

Kaz2904

Ah see, what Tenyearstogo described is what I did with mine. I thought that was lifting them! Mine were too floppy to physically carry when asleep unless they'd fallen asleep on me.

Tenyearstogo

notanewuser wrote: »

While asleep.

Yes! Missed the important bit!

fluffnutter

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

Not recommended by whom?

Sod that, so it takes junior a little longer to become dry at night, what's that balanced against having a soggy, upset toddler and to strip beds and remake every night and wash quilts, sheets and pyjamas every day. Too much parenting by the manual these days!

Hope you've got a plastic sheet on the mattress OP

It's nothing to do with parenting manuals. If you training a child to be dry at night, they need to learn to wake when they feel the stimulus from their bladder that tells them it's full. Lifting and placing a half asleep child on the loo might empty the bladder temporarily but it won't help them to learn to wake when needed.

It's not about the amount of fluids a child drinks either, and limiting drinks when a child is thirsty is cruel. The central nervous system needs to become mature enough to recognise and respond to the signals from the bladder and there's not much you can do about that (in most cases) other than simply wait.

In the meantime, get some decent mattress protection and nappies. OP, does he actually need a bath every morning? Could a wipe with a flannel not do the trick? What nappies are you using? Have you tried different brands? Aldi's and Pampers are the best IMO.

ciderwithrosie_2

I have succeeded in coaching 3 children to have full bladder control you know (plus many other necessary skills!), so you don't have to be so condescending.

Like Kaz, I thought 'lifting' just meant the getting them out of bed part, not carrying them to the toilet still asleep. I woke mine and made them walk so they knew what they were doing.

When I said there was too much parenting by the manual these days I meant that there are many parents that try to follow all the current given guidance to the letter and sometimes forget to trust their own instincts. Those of us who are older, can recall how many times guidance on things like breastfeeding, weaning and sleeping positions have done complete U turns.

notanewuser

ciderwithrosie wrote: »

When I said there was too much parenting by the manual these days I meant that there are many parents that try to follow all the current given guidance to the letter and sometimes forget to trust their own instincts. Those of us who are older, can recall how many times guidance on things like breastfeeding, weaning and sleeping positions have done complete U turns.

Not all of us are unaware of that, you know.

I have ignored much "advice" and followed my instincts, and continue to do so. That doesn't mean that I don't research issues before deciding what to do/following my instincts anyway.

pinkladyof66

my son is 5 and we used size 5 plus pampers active fit. he is quite slim though he soaks his nappy every night all others leaked and pull ups were worst the bedding was soaked every day and now i use a bet mat under the sheet and it is good. Yes my sons nappies are snug fit as bigger ones were too big and leaked how big is your child around the waist can you get away with smaller nappies have you tired active fit. my sons nappie is so heavy some mornings you can hardly lift it but it is all concealed plus we just wipe him over all round the willy and bum area with either wipes or flannel to get him fresh we dont bother with another bath as my son wouldnt want one either in morning. Hope you sort it op

aj9648

Thanks for all the replies.

i am using pampers 6+ - I will try smaller ones to see if that helps, but he is thankfully a big boy and growing quickly !!!

sassyblue

mwa wrote: »

Blimey I didn't realise lifting wasn't recommended, I have always lifted my kids! My 7 yo DD has problems with wetting on occasion so we started lifting her to stop it when she was 3, didn't realise it could be making it worse!! You learn something new every day...

If it worked for you that's great, why worry?