Relationship breakdown

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I would text him, saying that given the situation you think its better to make a clean break and send a friend round to collect your stuff. Ask when is convenient. No mention of anything emotional.

Hopefully that will get you your things back without any unpleasantness.

Then, given the mixed messages he is giving (showing a lot of confusion that he is 'punishing' you for.., and actually indicates you've had a lucky break here even if it doesn't feel like it ) block his number and concentrate on making a new life for yourself. What he is doing/saying is nothing to do with you nor is it a reflection on yourself.., its all about him. Hand it back to him (in your head) and get on with your life.

It sounds to me like your ex is a bit self centred as well.

Best of luck and sending lots of hugs.

Remember that the unpleasant bits of life are but a passageway to the better bits.

I've just had a bit of a do with an ex.., who's tried to ruin a long planned evening out with the children (just me and them) because he got steamed up about something quite small. He didn't manage it.., but oh dear, I wish I'd split up with him a long time before I did lol.

Its sounds like your ex is a bit self centred as well (think insensitive, not aware of the effect of what he says on others, thinking only of his own perspective).