Dog and Christmas

whitewing

Will there be other children as well as your own? Perhaps the inlaws simply don't want to feel the responsibility of another dog in the house, especially in the light of so many dog tragedies this year, and even that sweet little girl yesterday.

GwylimT

I don't take my dog to other peoples homes and I would never expect others to welcome him, just as I wouldn't take our guinea pigs. You say why are they fussed as it is only a few hours, but in that case why are you fussed about leaving the dog at home?

Soleil_lune

lostinrates wrote: »

You might want to edit the header at the top of this post, which is not in my quote.

Thanks Lostinrates .. not sure how that got there! I have got rid of it now!

supersaver2

Soleil_lune wrote: »

I totally agree. Like I said, I HATE it when I go to a friend or relative's house and their bloomin' dog is jumping up me and rawling me and licking and sniffing and drooling, and even worse: grizzling or growling. Some dog owners (not all, but some,) seem oblivious to their dog's behaviour and how it's making their house guests feel.

One of my OH's relatives used to have this cocker spaniel that LITERALLY used to dive-bomb at us and claw us and rip stockings and clothes etc, and he didn't settle at all, and continued barking loudly and yapping at us when we were speaking. He was a nightmare! His relative got proper offended when we asked politely if the dog could be put away when we visit, like we were personally attacking his family. Apparently, he classed this appalling behaviour from his dog as 'acceptable.'

If you can't keep your dog under control, then people should not have to tolerate it. And I certainly would not stand for someone bringing a dog like this to my home.

Surely though in your friends/relatives case it's their house, their rules the same as the OP's relatives have their own rules?

krlyr

supersaver2 wrote: »

Surely though in your friends/relatives case it's their house, their rules the same as the OP's relatives have their own rules?

I think there's rules (e.g. no dogs at family gatherings) and then manners (no letting your dog rip the guest's clothing up) though.

As a dog owner, when guests come round they have to accept the fact that I have dogs, so there will be dogs in the house, they may end up with dog hair on them and so on. However, I would be embarrassed if my dogs were to jump on guests and rip their clothes, make them feel uncomfortable, etc.

If I've invited someone over, I want them to be comfortable, and if that means making sure my dogs are well behaved then that's what I do. So, again, I use Kongs to keep them occupied, pop them behind the babygate to stop them hovering around when we eat (doesn't bother me, but I'm sure guests dont want my two giving them puppy dog eyes and sat drooling near them!)

supersaver2

krlyr wrote: »

I think there's rules (e.g. no dogs at family gatherings) and then manners (no letting your dog rip the guest's clothing up) though.

As a dog owner, when guests come round they have to accept the fact that I have dogs, so there will be dogs in the house, they may end up with dog hair on them and so on. However, I would be embarrassed if my dogs were to jump on guests and rip their clothes, make them feel uncomfortable, etc.

If I've invited someone over, I want them to be comfortable, and if that means making sure my dogs are well behaved then that's what I do. So, again, I use Kongs to keep them occupied, pop them behind the babygate to stop them hovering around when we eat (doesn't bother me, but I'm sure guests dont want my two giving them puppy dog eyes and sat drooling near them!)

I agree entirely, I own 4 very bouncy boxer dogs but they are well behaved with visitors. I just feel some people won't like being told what to do in their own homes. I simply wouldn't visit a house if I was made to feel uncomfortable.

Bella73

I'm sorry but I just don't get it. He will left for what four hours tops? How do you manage to go to work?

Friends I work with leave their dogs all day whilst they are at work so just because it is Christmas I really don't understand why that makes any difference.

Sorry but you do sound a little bit like the parents that spout oh my darling child never does anything wrong (whilst said brat is pulling the pigtails of a little child next to him). Take off your blinkers regarding him and look properly at his behaviour. Does he need proper training? Would you honestly be happy if their dogs behaved the way yours does? Not suggesting you answer this just for you to think about it. People can get a bit blinded about their pets just as they can about children.

I rarely visit a friend since they got a dog purely because when I go there it's a flipping nightmare. I don't enjoy being pawed and slobbered on even when he's (according to them) just being loving and ooh he likes you! No he's just not been trained to leave people alone, plus he jumps all over their furniture. They now visit us and whilst I am happy to have their daughter come with them I will not let their dog in my home. Whereas I have another friend who regularly brings their dog who really is a darling and just lies at their feet.

pawsies

Can you crate him there?

clairec79

I'm assuming you are travelling from your parents straight to your partners parents house (from the talk of driving back to drop the dog off) - if your parents love the dog would they be prepared to dog sit for a few hours and you pick him up on the way home?

Soleil_lune

Bella73 wrote: »

I'm sorry but I just don't get it. He will left for what four hours tops? How do you manage to go to work?

Friends I work with leave their dogs all day whilst they are at work so just because it is Christmas I really don't understand why that makes any difference.

Sorry but you do sound a little bit like the parents that spout oh my darling child never does anything wrong (whilst said brat is pulling the pigtails of a little child next to him). Take off your blinkers regarding him and look properly at his behaviour. Does he need proper training? Would you honestly be happy if their dogs behaved the way yours does? Not suggesting you answer this just for you to think about it. People can get a bit blinded about their pets just as they can about children.

I rarely visit a friend since they got a dog purely because when I go there it's a flipping nightmare. I don't enjoy being pawed and slobbered on even when he's (according to them) just being loving and ooh he likes you! No he's just not been trained to leave people alone, plus he jumps all over their furniture. They now visit us and whilst I am happy to have their daughter come with them I will not let their dog in my home. Whereas I have another friend who regularly brings their dog who really is a darling and just lies at their feet.

Agree with this - particularly the bit bolded. I said this earlier. I have had a few friends AND relatives over the years, who have had dogs with quite bad behaviour, that 'they' seem to think is acceptable somehow ... :huh: And I certainly would not want a dog who behaves like this in MY home.

Have to say; I also cannot see the issue with leaving him at home for a few hours...