Carers allowance, I work, am I entitled?

zzzLazyDaisy

marliepanda wrote: »

Can you really account for 35 hours of actual care?

That's irrelevant anyway, since she works full-time and earns too much.

But I don't get why he can't afford to have her living in his house and not paying rent? The mortgage will be the same regardless, and since they spend so much time together, the bills wouldn't be much higher if she moved in - and they have to eat wherever they are.

OP perhaps the quality of life for both of you would be better if you moved in as you would be there to look after him when he needed it, which is surely worth more than a bit of rent money.

Either way, you are both working full time, so you don't qualify for carers allowance, or any other benefits.

Welcome to the real world.

bloolagoon

Mojisola wrote: »

Does he buy things for her? It sounds as if she's buying the bandages because he can't afford them.

I_Love_Shoes wrote: »

He doesn't need care 24/7 like some people with a disability need. He is fairly independent and is trying to hold down a job and have a mortgage etc, but he does struggle because of his disability.
He suffers a lot of back pain, which is when I get woken up in the night to try and ease him of his pain, some days he is too tired to drive or cook for himself so I will do that (I also live the other side of the city from him). If he has an operation, he needs to be driven around as he is not able to walk for 3 months at a time, plus changing dressings (not all, I'm not a nurse).
He has sacrificed his disability benefit in order to get the motability car, so its not like he has just been given a free car. I am under 25 so I cant get insured on his car (if i could be insured on his car it would make things so much easier!)
Look, I am not trying to suck as much money out of the government as I can (I have never been on any kind of benefit), I am an honest hard working person, as is he, and I am just trying to see if there is any help I can get from them because I am spending more money due to his disability.

You can always ask them to reasses his award if you think he has greater care needs as you say he doesn't get any care award. The danger is that he could be worse off.

MissMoneypenny

I_Love_Shoes wrote: »

He doesn't need care 24/7 like some people with a disability need. He is fairly independent and is trying to hold down a job and have a mortgage etc, but he does struggle because of his disability.
He suffers a lot of back pain, which is when I get woken up in the night to try and ease him of his pain, some days he is too tired to drive or cook for himself so I will do that (I also live the other side of the city from him). If he has an operation, he needs to be driven around as he is not able to walk for 3 months at a time, plus changing dressings (not all, I'm not a nurse).
He has sacrificed his disability benefit in order to get the motability car, so its not like he has just been given a free car. I am under 25 so I cant get insured on his car (if i could be insured on his car it would make things so much easier!)
Look, I am not trying to suck as much money out of the government as I can (I have never been on any kind of benefit), I am an honest hard working person, as is he, and I am just trying to see if there is any help I can get from them because I am spending more money due to his disability.

You should not be paying for his disability as the state does that (gives him DLA). If he preferred to have a mobility car instead, then you should not be funding his choices.

If he made a bad choice in getting the car instead of taking the DLA money, then he might need to ask if there is a way out of his contract with Mobility.

Poppie68

Right so your boyfriend does'nt get any DLA for care just mobility? He would have to be in reciept of either middle or high rate care for anyone to claim CA allowance for him anyway, if he did you still would'nt be able to claim as you earn over £100 per week.

If you are moving in with him and you are sometimes driving him to work and back etc why does'nt he surrender his car and he can help you pay for your insurance and tax and put fuel in your car that way you are only paying for one car so will have a saving each month.

Also you say he has a car that you can't drive as you can't be insured on as you are under 25, i would check that if i was you on the motobility site by looking his car up, as some can be insured from the age of 21 and to be honest if a boyfriend of mine was letting me pay for his bandages and extra fuel to take him to work i would be scepitical to say the least.

I_Love_Shoes

I have spoken to the motability insurance company myself, we went to alton towers in the summer, took his diesel economical car, called up via bluetooth on the journey and they put me on his insurance, so we switched seats, i drove half the way there and all the way back.
Then we had to go to london a few weeks ago and called up the same as we did before, they werent very helpful and told us that under no circumstances whatsoever will i be able to drive the car due to my age and the power (2.0L diesel, 185bhp) so we had to turn around and take my uneconomical car instead!
We both live and work at opposite sides of the city, so even if we lived together and shared a car, it just wouldnt work.
Anyway, looking to the future. He will have his 2 friends as lodgers and they will pay him rent, so I might just say if I am doing most of the cooking, cleaning and caring for him, I ought to get a girlfriends allowance of low rent!
He is at the doctors at the moment, so I have just asked him if he can find out about getting dressings, bandages etc on the nhs, we didnt know you could do this.
Thanks for some of the helpful advice on here.

Shas21

Disability Living Allowance (DLA) is a tax-free benefit for disabled children and adults to help with extra costs they may have because they are disabled.

Why are you buying bandages for him? Surely this is what his DLA money is for . To help him with additional extra costs incurred due to his disability. That's my understanding of the benefit.

So not only does he get his DLA money but he also gets wages from his full time employment which accumulated, and I'm no mathemagician, I would say that he probably gets more money than what you earn. Yet you are the one out of pocket.

So while you are out spending all your hard earned cash on him/his medical needs, he is sitting cosy, financially well of !!
Sorry, something doesnt sound right there.
You need to stand back and think about it - surely you're not that stupid !!

You should make him pay for his own bandages etc,. It is not as if he can't afford it ! He gets DLA for such expenses.

And you will notice a hugh difference in your pocket too !!!

As for Carers Allowance, you may not be elegible if you earn more than £100 per week after tax.

(Sorry if seems a bit harsh, but my view is from the outside looking in)

Mojisola

Shas21 wrote: »

Why are you buying bandages for him? Surely this is what his DLA money is for . To help him with additional extra costs incurred due to his disability. That's my understanding of the benefit.

So not only does he get his DLA money but he also gets wages from his full time employment which accumulated, and I'm no mathemagician, I would say that he probably gets more money than what you earn. Yet you are the one out of pocket.

So while you are out spending all your hard earned cash on him/his medical needs, he is sitting cosy, financially well of !!

I_Love_Shoes wrote: »

He will have his 2 friends as lodgers and they will pay him rent, so I might just say if I am doing most of the cooking, cleaning and caring for him, I ought to get a girlfriends allowance of low rent!

He's got his wages, DLA and will have the income from two lodgers plus a girlfriend who does the cooking, cleaning and other caring stuff as well as buying his medical supplies!

I_Love_Shoes - I hope this guy has some really good qualities - from what you've posted, he's using you!

MissMoneypenny

I_Love_Shoes wrote: »

He will have his 2 friends as lodgers and they will pay him rent, so I might just say if I am doing most of the cooking, cleaning and caring for him, I ought to get a girlfriends allowance of low rent!

If you are going to be doing all that plus whatever care needs he has - you should be paying NO rent. Or ask him to pay you the Carers Allowance rate as he said you should have it for doing all that caring for him.;)

And don't pay for the fuel either! If he uses you as driver to take him places, then he pays your fuel and a share towards your car's maintanence.

Morglin

marliepanda wrote: »

You are getting taxpayer help though. Your boyfriend has a car which he had to pay nothing for. You are getting what anyone who works full time has, plus extra due to his disability. I'm not sure why you think you deserve more than that? He has just bought a house. You cannot be scraping by.

Motability cars are leased for over £50 per week, and often attract a deposit, which is non refundable, after the lease.


It's a great charity, but it's not, and never has been "free".


It was bought in to save the government funding the old blue carriages.


Lin

NYM

Morglin wrote: »

Motability cars are leased for over £50 per week, and often attract a deposit, which is non refundable, after the lease.


It's a great charity, but it's not, and never has been "free".


It was bought in to save the government funding the old blue carriages.


Lin

:huh: Don't Motability cars also have blue badges ??