Married forumites: How long were you engaged before you got married?

bryanb

20 - 25 years

Thanks for putting the 20 yr plus option, it was basically for financial reasons that we finally married. It was when I reached pension age (2nd marriage)

Icey77

0 - 6 months

We didn't hang about, met, moved in and married inside 11 months

thorsoak

2 - 3 years

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Weddings do not need to be tens of thousands of pounds... people do not need to be engaged for years to save for the wedding.

It's a self imposed delay.

We didn't save for a wedding, we saved for a house! Add to that, OH was on a trainee's wage.

pink_princess

0 - 6 months

We got engaged in October, married at the end of February.

Tiddlywinks

0 - 6 months

bryanb wrote: »

Thanks for putting the 20 yr plus option, it was basically for financial reasons that we finally married. It was when I reached pension age (2nd marriage)

But... living together is not being engaged is it?

I struggle to understand why anyone would have a long engagement - surely, once a decision to get married is reached then what on earth would take so long?

sweetcheekz

6 weeks from engagement to wedding.

DigForVictory

6 - 12 months

We got engaged around October one year & married at cherry blossom time (April) the next - we had a place together, jobs - and just needed to give the parents time to agree the formalities they wanted.
Times they have a-changed - a couple in our position now might not bother with marriage until after children, but we are both old fashioned that way. 15 years & 3 sons later, we're still married & happy with it.

tessie_bear

6 - 12 months

we got engaged at christmas and got married the next christmas...tiny wedding as we had just bought a house and were skint

daisiegg

1 - 2 years

Just over a year. Didn't wait because of financial considerations. There were a few reasons to do with getting the venue we wanted but a big reason was wanting relatives and friends to be able to come from afar. My cousin and his wife used air miles to come over from the USA and simply couldn't have afforded to come if they didn't have a year's notice to book the flights. Same with other relatives who worked shifts so needed loads of notice to make sure they had the time off, and friends and relatives who needed to travel and book flights and accommodation. So I suppose we were considering finances when deciding to wait a year....it's just they were our guests' finances, not ours!

Peccary

6 - 12 months

Got engaged in june 2011 and married in april 2012, didn't feel the need to wait too long. My beloved nan died a few months later so i was so glad we didn't!