How much rent to pay to Mum?

monty-doggy

I gave my mum £50 a week.

Gosh what I'd give to be back at home with all my mum did for me

BitterAndTwisted

If fifty quid a month is a third of your take-home pay you should get yourself back into education so you have half a chance of finding a decently-paying job!

If it isn't pay her what she's asking you for. It's pretty much guaranteed to be substantially less than living away from home would cost you. When I first moved away from home my costs trebled. And I had to pay for the launderette.

littlerat

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

If fifty quid a month is a third of your take-home pay you should get yourself back into education so you have half a chance of finding a decently-paying job!

If it isn't pay her what she's asking you for. It's pretty much guaranteed to be substantially less than living away from home would cost you. When I first moved away from home my costs trebled. And I had to pay for the launderette.

She may still *be* in education.

If you're in education, haven't got much money, it may be fair. If you'r unemployed and on JSA and your Mum can cope with that, it's fair.

If you're earning £1000 a month in a full time job, it may not be fair. But even then, to me it'd depend if a) your Mum only wants and needs that, and b) if you're spending the rest on non-necessities, or saving for a deposit or such.


I must admit though, I don't do all my own food, or cooking. Generally, loads of washing are done for whatever needs washing, meals are cooked for everyone, food is bought for everyone as part of the household budget (comprised partially of what I pay, of course) only personal treats are separate.

Doing it all separately, when it's your own parents (as opposed to being a lodger in a stranger's house, although even then..) it seems weird.

notanewuser

The OP runs a business from the house making over £100k profit a year. (From memory).

£50 a month is a !!!!!!! insult and you should be utterly ashamed at the suggestion.

Mrs.W_2

When I was living at home I happily gave my Mother two thirds of my income.

kingfisherblue

berbastrike wrote: »

If I buy all my own food, do my own washing and cooking.

Is £50 per month fair

Doing your own washing and cooking might actually cost your mum more in terms of bills. For example, you are less likely to have a full machine load of washing, and so is your mum (assuming only the two of you in the house), and it is cheaper to put on one larger load than two smaller loads - as well as electricity used, water may be on a meter and you will be using twice as much. You will also be using double the amount of powder - do you use your mum's, or are there two boxes sat neatly next to each other in the cupboard labelled with your names?

When cooking, again it is cheaper to make two meals at the same time. Why put on the gas or electric to make a meal for yourself, then have your mum do the same later? It's cheaper to make two meals together.

If you buy your own food, is there any wastage? How about for your mum? Do you end up throwing out half a tin of tomatoes because you haven't used them up? Where do you store cold foods and opened tins? I'm assuming in the fridge - which your mum has to pay the electricity for. I know she would be paying it anyway, but it is still worth considering.

Now, just an example from our house. My daughter is still living at home, but saving for a deposit with her fianc! so that they can buy next year. She pays £40 a week. Her wage isn't great, but we worked this out based on what she could afford, what I could afford, and what she actually gets for that. She has full use of the bathroom, including hot water, showers, and family toiletries. She uses toilet paper - you might not have thought of this, but it is still an expense! She does buy some stuff of her own, but if she wants anything different to the brands I buy, it is her responsibility to pay.

My daughter has full use of the internet, TV, dishwasher (which she is expected to fill and empty as required, just like my two younger kids), electricity to charge her phone, etc. She buys some food, but also has food from the cupboards, fridge and freezer. Luckily for me, she enjoys cooking, so she usually spends one morning or afternoon a week batch cooking. I usually help by preparing the veg that we steam, portion and freeze. As the oven is on, we usually bake a full bag of potatoes at the same time - these are used that night, with any excess going in the fridge for lunch over the next couple of days.

My daughter also uses things that you don't think about, such as bin bags, the Hoover (I am assuming you do Hoover your bedroom occasionally), foil, etc. These things still have to be paid for.

In addition, as a part of our family, she is expected to put on the washer and dryer, tidy up, Hoover, mop, empty bin, recycle, clean the bathroom, and do any other jobs that need doing. She doesn't do them all, all of the time, but she helps out around the house and does her fair share. After all, she lives here and contributes to doing the things that make living in our home more comfortable for everyone.

£50 a month, unless you are on the lower amount of JSA for people under 21, is an insult to your mum. You wouldn't be able to live anywhere else for that amount per week, never mind per month! It wouldn't cover the cost of a room with no food or bills included in some areas.

Maz

Too many unknown factors for people on here to give you a definitive answer to your question.

But here's a suggestion.

Move out, get your own place, live there for a year. That will give you a much more realistic idea of how much it actually costs to run a household and I can promise you it won't be as little as £50 a month.

Skinto_7

notanewuser wrote: »

The OP runs a business from the house making over £100k profit a year. (From memory).

£50 a month is a !!!!!!! insult and you should be utterly ashamed at the suggestion.

Dont generally agree with people posting if they only have negative things to say, however on this occassion i totally agree with the above, some of your posts are going on about how you dont know what to do with the £100k you have laying about in your bank, and your on asking if you think paying your mum £50 a month is ok!! Its unbelievable, Id suggest you show your mum a little more respect, and unless your 12 years of age, why would someone who earns as much as you have said you do and has that sort of cash sitting about want to stay with their mum anyway, when you could clearly afford somewhere of your own!!!

19lottie82

berbastrike wrote: »

If I buy all my own food, do my own washing and cooking.

Is £50 per month fair

I thought you were buying a £150k house (mortgage free)?

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Troll alert..........

jbainbridge

berbastrike wrote: »

I am ready to buy my first home.

I have £145k in the bank.


If you were me, would you buy a nice house at £110k or a very nice house at £135k.

£50 a month!?