people calling your partner your husband/ wife

jm2926

bluebeary wrote: »

sometimes i think i would have too much too lose and ive seen other people get married and divorced in a shorter space of time

What do you think you have to lose?

System

Personally i'd be happier if people called my husband my boyfriend.

I'll be honest, hubby very often says i'm his bit on the side.:D If my son is with us he just cringes but I find it funny.

Hubby wonders why our son doesn't go out with us anymore.:(

In a nutshell, it doesn't bother me what people refer to us as.

SavingPennies_2

bluebeary wrote: »

it is something that his family and his ex girlfriend keep bringing up so maybe if were still together in our 50s i will

Reading between the lines....(risky I know)...sound like you want to get married, his family and friend (ex) think you should get married, bu maybe he doesnt or you think he doesnt?

Why wait till your 50s?! youve been together 10 years what are you waiting for?!

Im not married myself, and see no problem with not being married but it seems to me you are keen, so why not talk about it? (to him I mean not to us - though do come back and tell us if you get engaged )

bluebeary

tayforth wrote: »

:eek::eek::eek:

hey shes lovely, they dont get on but we get on riotously

bluebeary

jm2926 wrote: »

What do you think you have to lose?

my assetts

bugslet

Mojisola wrote: »

Doing the legal bit so that you're married shouldn't affect your relationship but it does give you some legal and financial protection that unmarried couples don't get.

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But can do if they choose to. I sorted my affairs out so that I wouldn't suffer when I lived long-term with someone.

Bit of a faff, but no more than getting married.

bluebeary

SavingPennies wrote: »

Reading between the lines....(risky I know)...sound like you want to get married, his family and friend (ex) think you should get married, bu maybe he doesnt or you think he doesnt?

Why wait till your 50s?! youve been together 10 years what are you waiting for?!

Im not married myself, and see no problem with not being married but it seems to me you are keen, so why not talk about it? (to him I mean not to us - though do come back and tell us if you get engaged )

i think he thinks i dont want to so he doesnt broach the subject, his sisters arent married and theyll all in long term relationships too, longer than ours

i dont see the point in it if were ok as we are, i was more asking if other people in relationships and arent married felt the same way when your partner is referred to as your spouse

its a lot of money to spend on one day which would be better put to use buying property, other things

Tiddlywinks

bluebeary wrote: »

its a lot of money to spend on one day which would be better put to use buying property, other things

People can spend as much or as little as they wish - getting married doesn't have to be expensive.

To some of us, getting married wasn't about the party or the day but based on a belief system which is part of our lives.

Shame too many people focus on the day, the dress, the party, the honeymoon etc and not on the rest of their lives together.

SavingPennies_2

bluebeary wrote: »

i think he thinks i dont want to so he doesnt broach the subject, his sisters arent married and theyll all in long term relationships too, longer than ours

i dont see the point in it if were ok as we are, i was more asking if other people in relationships and arent married felt the same way when your partner is referred to as your spouse

its a lot of money to spend on one day which would be better put to use buying property, other things

well i suspect you do otherwise youd have wrote "he knows I dont want to" plus youre asking the questions on here :rotfl:. If you want to get married go for it! It doesnt have to cost a lot of money.

In answer to your question, no one has ever said that to me no, i think people think i look to young to be married, although im not!

Goldiegirl

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I thought this was going to be a thread about people calling your partner or your wife/husband.

It was the "It's quite nice" comment that prompted me to re-read the title.

Yeah, I was a bit confused too.

I thought it was something about the partner/husband getting phone calls :rotfl: