Really in need of a wee bit encouragement :(

Newyorkdreams · 31 October 2013 at 7:25PM

thedogsmum wrote: »

Hi, again, NYD,
You sounded so much brighter in your posts to me and ChesterDog, yesterday evening. Amazing what an impact strangers' remote positive vibes can have, isn't it? Also, the opposite, of course, where family/friends lack of thought makes us feel like throwing in the towel, so to speak. You could have gone either way and you chose the positive, rather than negative path, which wasn't the easier route, of course. My (rescue) dogs are sending you a (remote) piece of dried tripe as a reward, to go along with ChesterDog's biscuit. I have to say, they don't give up their tripe easily, only for deserving cases, so please hold your nose as you enjoy it!
I am fortunate in that I don't have any debt nowadays but did, in the remote past, when credit wasn't so easily come by. I dread to think how much worse my situation would have been had I had access to credit/store cards, loans, etc., I am what my mother used to say, penny wise, pound foolish! I don't think you ever change if you are that way inclined; if you're lucky/sensible(?!), you learn to control it.
I now live within my means - I mainly learnt to do this by living frugally so I could pay off my mortgage early. I had it fixed in my head that, if I could do this, I would always be 'safe'. I am retired, so have to live on a fixed income: I go on the hunt for reduced items in the supermarkets and join in the bun fight with others doing the same. Sometimes lucky, sometimes not, to get nice treats that I couldn't buy full price. Got two posh cup cakes for 10p last night, so well chuffed with that.......
I hope you can stay focused through the next couple of months and ignore the call of the shops to (over)spend on items for Christmas. I'll keep popping in to see how you're doing, if that's ok?

Hi TDM - thank you so much for your kindness and empathy, I feel very much supported and encouraged. I soooo wish I was debt free like you but I'm working very hard to get there...and one day I will be able to say 'I'm debt free' and help others who are struggling!

I mentioned in my post to my new terrier friend that I had a better day today but not great - I find it takes a while to bounce back (well it does for me). I'm still too sensitive and need to just get a grip but it will come eventually, I know this. I am actually quite a strong person, just life gets in the way sometimes.The thing is, I know the signs of the black dog (oh dear, dog references again) and I felt I was getting them (sensitivity, wanting to splurge, overeating, hiding away, tearful) but I also know what I need to do to minimise the risk. I am feeling 100% better than I did on Tuesday when I posted my plea for help and my emotions have actually moved onto anger rather than hurt now because I am angry that I allowed people to dictate how I felt on my own birthday. A lovely poster said that in so many words, don't let others dictate how you feel and I allowed that to happen and underplayed all the wonderful gifts, cards and kind words by people that did remember and did take the time to care. I feel truly blessed to have this support around me and I thank you for that.

Mmmm and as for the tripe, please let your rescue dogs know that I very much appreciate their offer because I know how much they love and value their tripe and that makes me feel very special.

Thanks again

NYD xxx