Really in need of a wee bit encouragement :(

Newyorkdreams

thedogsmum wrote: »

Hello NYD,
Firstly, I send you belated Birthday wishes, with a hug, and secondly, I hope you're feeling more on the up, today?
A hug for today, too.

Hi thedogsmum - thank you so much for your message and your hug! I am feeling a lot better today thank you. All the messages of support really did help and I didn't splurge which is thanks to everyone who was kind enough to post. I woke up this morning feeling like a weight had been lifted - maybe the pressure and expectation of a birthday was too difficult for me to deal with yesterday. I still feel a little raw about the missed birthday but who knows, anything could be going on in their lives too (when I get depressed I do tend to forget about the bigger picture).

I actually decided to update my signature one day earlier this month ( I normally do it on payday) and it felt so good to post £14, 001 paid!!! Someone is looking out for me, eh?

I notice the last 2 posts to me are references to dogs and I love dogs so that made me smile especially the offer of a dog biscuit!!!! What kind of dog do you have?

Thanks again

NYD xxxx

Newyorkdreams

ChesterDog wrote: »

Well, you know, I really have no idea who you are...

I was just browsing around the forums and happened to come across your post.

My thoughts count for nothing really, but...

You sound like a really nice person who is having a tough time, while trying your best to sort things out. Someone once said to me that nice things happen to nice people but, sadly, the reverse is often true, as your tale shows.

Still, that's life, isn't it? !!!!!!-all to be done about it.

So chin up, pat yourself on the back for what you've achieved and consider that the fact that others forgot your birthday when you would not just shows that you are a person much nicer than the average.

Don't spend to cheer yourself up. That is a dangerous siren call and will make you feel worse.

I would share a dog biscuit with you if I could... :-)

Hi Chesterdog - I have some tears in my eyes reading your post (yes, I'm still emotional!) because it always amazes me how a complete stranger can make you feel so supported, understood and encouraged by an act of kindness. Thank you so much for taking the time to write that - you didn't have to but it has helped. No-one had to respond to my post but I am so thankful that you all did.

Life has been good to me and I cannot grumble, I have my health, job, husband etc, but sometimes it's just....tough and I cannot sometimes see the light.

So...thank you....and I smile to myself because I imagine you really are a dog responding to my post .

I would love a dog biscuit if you have one spare please???



NYD xx

AnnieBox

When I saw this thread back on the first page I just had to come and read it!

I'm so glad to see you are having a better day today, this forum really is such a great place for encouragement and support. I hope things keep on being better for you.

thedogsmum

Hi, again, NYD,
You sounded so much brighter in your posts to me and ChesterDog, yesterday evening. Amazing what an impact strangers' remote positive vibes can have, isn't it? Also, the opposite, of course, where family/friends lack of thought makes us feel like throwing in the towel, so to speak. You could have gone either way and you chose the positive, rather than negative path, which wasn't the easier route, of course. My (rescue) dogs are sending you a (remote) piece of dried tripe as a reward, to go along with ChesterDog's biscuit. I have to say, they don't give up their tripe easily, only for deserving cases, so please hold your nose as you enjoy it!
I am fortunate in that I don't have any debt nowadays but did, in the remote past, when credit wasn't so easily come by. I dread to think how much worse my situation would have been had I had access to credit/store cards, loans, etc., I am what my mother used to say, penny wise, pound foolish! I don't think you ever change if you are that way inclined; if you're lucky/sensible(?!), you learn to control it.
I now live within my means - I mainly learnt to do this by living frugally so I could pay off my mortgage early. I had it fixed in my head that, if I could do this, I would always be 'safe'. I am retired, so have to live on a fixed income: I go on the hunt for reduced items in the supermarkets and join in the bun fight with others doing the same. Sometimes lucky, sometimes not, to get nice treats that I couldn't buy full price. Got two posh cup cakes for 10p last night, so well chuffed with that.......
I hope you can stay focused through the next couple of months and ignore the call of the shops to (over)spend on items for Christmas. I'll keep popping in to see how you're doing, if that's ok?

ChesterDog

Newyorkdreams wrote: »

Hi Chesterdog - I have some tears in my eyes reading your post (yes, I'm still emotional!) because it always amazes me how a complete stranger can make you feel so supported, understood and encouraged by an act of kindness. Thank you so much for taking the time to write that - you didn't have to but it has helped. No-one had to respond to my post but I am so thankful that you all did.

Life has been good to me and I cannot grumble, I have my health, job, husband etc, but sometimes it's just....tough and I cannot sometimes see the light.

So...thank you....and I smile to myself because I imagine you really are a dog responding to my post .

I would love a dog biscuit if you have one spare please???


NYD xx

I am a smooth fox terrier. A rather overweight one, I must admit, so sharing one of my biscuits might do us both good. :-)

I have had the odd dark time myself, so I understand the black moments only too well. The moments when you just need a sign that someone really cares about you, but that sign doesn't come. The moment where you just need one little nice thing to happen, but it doesn't happen. You mentally lower your needs for these little things to lower and lower levels, until even the tiniest little positive thing will do. And it still doesn't come... Sniff! We fox terriers can be quite soppy really. :-)

The way I see it, those of us who have these dark clouds roll in with (seemingly) no one to help us blow them away are the nice people, the sensitive, caring ones.

We ought to be the ones to whom the good stuff happens!! :-D

So it makes me feel good to know that my little gesture of empathy and concern made you feel good. Being nice to people is a win-win, isn't it? What a pity that so many people don't grasp that.

Anyway, enough canine rambling.

I hope you have a really nice day today. Plenty of people (ahem, and dogs) care about you. And quite right too - you deserve it.

I am not sure if there is Private Messaging on this site (only just joined), and I absolutely understand if you did not want to tell me your address, but I will send you half a dog biscuit at once if poss! :-)

My owner ('owner'?! Who's he kidding?!) says there's one here with your name on it. That must mean your name is Gravy Bone, then... :-)

thedogsmum

Hey ChesterDog, if you're giving gravy bones away, well............GSD and the Undefined noses go up, Bisto style..............mmmmmmm
Hope you have a good day, too - good walks, lots of sniffs and cosy bed when you're home. Goes for your 'owner', too!
NYD, let us know how your day's going, please.
TDM

ChesterDog

Hang on a minute...

Half a dog biscuit was the offer.

First it becomes 'a dog biscuit' and then unquantified 'dog biscuits'!

Give 'em an inch...

:-)

Newyorkdreams

AnnieBox wrote: »

When I saw this thread back on the first page I just had to come and read it!

I'm so glad to see you are having a better day today, this forum really is such a great place for encouragement and support. I hope things keep on being better for you.

Thank you AnnieBox, it's very much appreciated x

Newyorkdreams

ChesterDog wrote: »

I am a smooth fox terrier. A rather overweight one, I must admit, so sharing one of my biscuits might do us both good. :-)

I have had the odd dark time myself, so I understand the black moments only too well. The moments when you just need a sign that someone really cares about you, but that sign doesn't come. The moment where you just need one little nice thing to happen, but it doesn't happen. You mentally lower your needs for these little things to lower and lower levels, until even the tiniest little positive thing will do. And it still doesn't come... Sniff! We fox terriers can be quite soppy really. :-)

The way I see it, those of us who have these dark clouds roll in with (seemingly) no one to help us blow them away are the nice people, the sensitive, caring ones.

We ought to be the ones to whom the good stuff happens!! :-D

So it makes me feel good to know that my little gesture of empathy and concern made you feel good. Being nice to people is a win-win, isn't it? What a pity that so many people don't grasp that.

Anyway, enough canine rambling.

I hope you have a really nice day today. Plenty of people (ahem, and dogs) care about you. And quite right too - you deserve it.

I am not sure if there is Private Messaging on this site (only just joined), and I absolutely understand if you did not want to tell me your address, but I will send you half a dog biscuit at once if poss! :-)

My owner ('owner'?! Who's he kidding?!) says there's one here with your name on it. That must mean your name is Gravy Bone, then... :-)

Hey Mr Smooth Fox Terrier - your canine ramblings are just the ticket and cheered me up no end today :rotfl: I couldn't reply because I was at work but I had a quick read of your woofs and was smiling to myself (and having a LOL). Your offer of half a biscuit is so kind....may I ask what flavour? Oh yes,you told me it was gravy bone Mmmmmmm. My favourite.

I know I've already said it already but thank you for being such a wonderful, empathetic friend.

I've had a better day today. Not great- because my boss decided to rip apart some of my work and being a tad sensitive, it was a little tough! However, that is work and business and it's not personal so I can deal with that. I get paid to do a job and I therefore have to take the rough with the smooth (like you) and in my new focus of trying to see the bigger picture, it really is normally smooth with a little rough to keep me on my paws (oh dear, I'm now talking dog) - see how you are making me feel better.

And in my 'Im feeling a little better' mood, I even went to the gym tonight which helped - maybe we need to get you a doggie treadmill if you feel the old winter coat is pinching you.

I love the fact my thread has been turned around!

Woof woof

NYD x

Newyorkdreams

ChesterDog wrote: »

Hang on a minute...

Half a dog biscuit was the offer.

First it becomes 'a dog biscuit' and then unquantified 'dog biscuits'!

Give 'em an inch...

:-)

:rotfl:

I'll eat anything....