OS Daily Thread Saturday 12th October 2013

hilstep2000

Hi Guys,
I am back again:T I had an MS fall. My knees folded up backwards and down I went on the quarry tilles in the kitchen. Resulting in a dislocated and broken ankle:oi

I spent ten days in hospital again, and now have a plate and screws in the ankle, and a cast from toe to knee:mad:

No weight bearing for 8 weeks either. I'm sure someone doesn't like me:rotfl:

I hope everyone else is okay. On a positive note the wound from my cancer op is nearly healed, so only the chemo to go now.

Got a new MS nurse who is fab too, so that's a help.

Anyway I will be updating you all soon!:T

Julie67

tru wrote: »

I made my last debt payment in december last year (not an IVA). The agreement ran out in november (paying by DD), so I rang and made the last payment over the phone. After november's payment went out, I wound myself up for the next month I couldn't wait to make that phone call. I was on the phone at 8am on payment day, sooooo excited. They put me on hold and that was the longest two minutes of my life :rotfl: When I put the phone down, I thought "ooooh I'm DEBT FREE!!!! I have NO DEBT!!!!" I had to keep repeating it, it took days for it to sink in The day after the phone call, the world looked different - sounds cheesy, but I don't know how to explain it, lol.

Well done both of you. It will be years before we come to the end of our DMP but I think of it constantly.

BUS I'm jealous I love walking when the weather is wet and blowy, will my letter for my knee never come:mad:

I've already made a trifle this morning and I'm half way through boning chicken thighs for my Thai Curry. Also had a chat to my SIL in Australia and my son. No baby girl yet she is 5 days over due and booked for induction on Monday:D
I'm hoping to get the cleaning and cooking done early this morning. I want to nip to TK Maxx and get a birthday present, I can usually get a real bargain there.
We have our best friends for dinner tonight and a good catch up.
It's blowing a gale here so will have to put the dryer on:( hubby is finishing DGS oscars bedroom.
Busy day as usual. Hopefully tomorrow will be a touch quieter as my middle boy is taking us out for lunch as a thank you.
Youngest is at his hotel job, wonder which celeb he will meet today.
TTFTM tell him it cost me £52 :eek: to send our Christmas presents and baby gifts to Australia and that was by ship. It took eight
weeks:eek:
Anyway need to get back to my thighs, enjoy your day x

hillstep we cross posted, so sorry to hear you've been in the wars, get well soon, your in my thoughts
redruby thinking of you and your family

redruby

Morning all,

Thank you so much for all the good wishes, hugs amd Pm's it does mean such a lot. I dont feel like I thought I would do, I am devestated that he's gone but apart from the day he died I have not cried much, I am obviously deeply upset but not weeping and wailing its as if i am in some kind of parallel life, sorry that probably sounds really weird, but I am struggling to understand it myself, I keep thinking perhaps it will hit me at some point.

Having said that we have been grieving for a long time so I am wondering if that has anything to do with it ? anyone had any experience of losing some one to dementia ? Is what i am feeling normal ?

xx

Gers

redruby wrote: »

Morning all,

Thank you so much for all the good wishes, hugs amd Pm's it does mean such a lot. I dont feel like I thought I would do, I am devestated that he's gone but apart from the day he died I have not cried much, I am obviously deeply upset but not weeping and wailing its as if i am in some kind of parallel life, sorry that probably sounds really weird, but I am struggling to understand it myself, I keep thinking perhaps it will hit me at some point.

Having said that we have been grieving for a long time so I am wondering if that has anything to do with it ? anyone had any experience of losing some one to dementia ? Is what i am feeling normal ?

xx

So sorry to hear about the death of your dear Dad - even when it's expected and even longed for it can be extremely difficult. My dear Dad died in 1997 and I still miss him every single day.

Whilst I have no experience of dementia so can't help there you can take comfort from the good memories and that you were there for him all the way to the end.

sistercas

redruby wrote: »

Morning all,

Thank you so much for all the good wishes, hugs amd Pm's it does mean such a lot. I dont feel like I thought I would do, I am devestated that he's gone but apart from the day he died I have not cried much, I am obviously deeply upset but not weeping and wailing its as if i am in some kind of parallel life, sorry that probably sounds really weird, but I am struggling to understand it myself, I keep thinking perhaps it will hit me at some point.

Having said that we have been grieving for a long time so I am wondering if that has anything to do with it ? anyone had any experience of losing some one to dementia ? Is what i am feeling normal ?


xx

I was talking to a chap at work this morning and he was telling me his wife had just died . He said ' although you know I lost her a long time ago '. She had dementia . I imagine you may have been grieving ever since your dad was diagnosed . Xx

bargainbird

Morning,

RR - Just a massive cuddle from me xx

cant remember anything else

WM/TD will be going full pelt today, need to nip to clothing warehouse to get DD1 some togs. My crochet mag came today too so i'll sit with a cuppa and enjoy that later.

Tea tongiht Sausages

Have lovely days xx

jools27_2

Morning all!
Redruby, huge hugs. Many people go through a grieving process with a loved one who suffers dementia, I know we all have with FIL, it's almost like a shell of him is there, but the man he was has been slowly taken away IYSWIM. When I lost my dad it took over a year for it to really hit me, I think I spent the first year making sure mum and the kids were ok, plus felt such a huge relief that his suffering was over as he had been in agony for such a long time and they never got on top of his pain. I totally understand the parallel life thing, after OH died I felt for such a long time that I was looking at the world through the wrong end of a telescope, if that makes any sense. I also felt a bit in limbo until the funeral was over, that sort of made it more real. There is no timeframe for grief, whatever you are feeling is normal. Look after you and the family, you know where I am if you need to talk!:grouphug:

LameWolf

Hilstep massive barrow-load of healing vibes for you mate.:o

redruby wrote: »

Is what i am feeling normal ?

I can't answer that; I don't have any family, so don't have experience to draw on. But I suspect, as others have said, that you've been grieving a little each day over a long period of time. Just allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come, is probably best, and don't worry about "normal". Everyone grieves in their own way, there's no "right or wrong" about it. Have a Wolfy (((HUG))).:o

sistercas

hill step forgot to say. Hope you are recovering , sounds nasty xx


Just popped a cake in the oven , bread rolls are proving need to think of something for tea.
got a meat box from a groupon offer , so will have a look in there for inspiration maybe pork chops and veg

System

Morning all,

Hillstep so sorry to hear you've been in hospital again. Metal pins this time..... Oh dear. :-(

Hubby had a sleepless night last night. The winds were terrible round here and all you can see here for miles is fields. Hubby was worried the awning would take off so first thing this morning he has taken the awning down and packed the stuff in it, either in the car or in the caravan storage. He's not happy.

I was woken this morning by drum and bass booming in my ears.... seems like we have new neighbours but did they really have to play it so loud at 7 oclock this morning? I usually shower daily in our caravan but as everything was upside down I used the shower on the caravan site. The woman in the noisy van had got there before me and there was water and shower gel everywhere. I wasn't happy at having to clean someone elses mess before I could use the shower myself.

Come out of the shower to find hubby packing. I think we will be going home tomorrow. He wanted to stay for longer but I think he's had enough now. Actually, I think he's had enough of the caravan full stop but we'll see.

Anyway, don't know what we have planned for today. Its too cold and windy for the beach for me and hubby is not keen on the beach.

Right, less of my waffling. I'd better get dressed. I'm sitting here in my wrap with my coat over the top as hubby is in and out and despite the heater being on full blast. Its cold.

Have a great Saturday all,