When everything happens at once

sassyblue

I think l just need a huge rant to offload. :mad:

Without wanting to go into too much detail l work with my dad, we co-run a company which we are currently in the process of selling as it's too busy these days, he wishes to retire and l want to scale down my hours of work. Now the best bit..... my mum has just left my dad and they are going to get divorced. He totally deserves it l'm afraid for the way he's treated my mum all their married life but l am having to work with him in the meantime and as much as l love him he keeps badmouthing mum and can't see any wrong in himself, it's infuriating. (I've told him l don't want to discuss this at work which is ignored).

The new buyer is annoying me too. He takes a week or more to come back to us about anything to do with the sale, then emails me demanding l respond within 24 hours. :mad: I have to work three months when the sale has gone through for transition but l just want to walk away from everyone - how can l be professional when l don't like the way this man works - for instance he's emailed me alot about things which are none of my business - helping him to find a place to live nearby as he's moving here aswell, l think he's too demanding and l've had enough of it already.

To top it off, hubby has an aunt with learning difficulties - we're next of kin - her companion has rung me to tell me she's 'ill'. Now this has been ongoing for two years, she's had all sorts of tests and nothing has shown up, so what can l do, well not much l'm afraid! (The doctor says irritable bowels and l can't see it being wrong).

Why, does it all have to happen at once? I think I've done my best with all these situations but mt patience is being sorely tested.

DigForVictory

Life is a b*gger so start Expectation Management, stat!

Tell your Dad that if he mouths off about Mum again, you'll leave the room. Deliver on this. You may be his business associate but you are also his daughter.

Check the sale conditions and (so long as you have not agreed to sort accomodation) point out to the buyer that he's buying a business & not a concierge service. (If you wish to offer this, be advised that the average cost for the pig-awkward client is £50 an hour (minimum!), with an upfront retainer of £1000. And that you do not source female 'companionship'.)

Explain to Aunt's companion that of course you need to know how AuntInLaw is, and that you will call each day at 6 for a half hour chat & update (agree a time that works for you both) but that Emergency Calls Only 9-5.

Breathe!

Now.
Plan a Christmas Break.

Here you can run to the hills, switch the mobile off, rest up & allow yourself a couple of days off. Make sure Everyone knows When You Will Not Be In. Website, answerphone, poster on loo door, poster on kitchen door - be thorough.

If Christmas feels like far too long in the future, take one day a month out as a "long weekend", same radio silence & check your passport is up to date so you can seize last minute city breaks.

Light, hope, a will to survive beginning to dawn?
All the very best!

sassyblue

Thanks digforvictory, one thing l can usually do is keep a sense of humour I wanted to cry at work today but l held it off. small mercy's eh?

I never even mentioned my demanding 7yo - oh, beam me up now scotty :rotfl:

DigForVictory

7 yo simplest - bribery & negotiation usually much cheaper & simpler. Put it to her(?) that you're having a rotten time at work, (but it will be better after Christmas) and that while (s)he helps you at home at least one family evening meal a week is (his/)her pick - pizza or takeaway. Hardly MS, but works wonders for domestic compliance.

If husband looks a bit left out, same offer for him, but same penalties for being an awkward scout.

tesuhoha

sassyblue wrote: »

Thanks digforvictory, one thing l can usually do is keep a sense of humour I wanted to cry at work today but l held it off. small mercy's eh?

I never even mentioned my demanding 7yo - oh, beam me up now scotty :rotfl:

If you have a 7 year old girl take her off on a shopping day, (with lunch, Starbucks and cinema thrown in). This will soon become a habit and a very nice one for the future

Or a boy you can take off for a ramble in the woods.

sassyblue

tesuhoha wrote: »

If you have a 7 year old girl take her off on a shopping day, (with lunch, Starbucks and cinema thrown in). This will soon become a habit and a very nice one for the future

Or a boy you can take off for a ramble in the woods.

Thanks Tesuhoha, it's a boy and he loves his cycling so we do plenty of that, and hubby is taking him swimming this weekend while l help settle mum in her new place. I have tried training him to like shopping with no luck.

pukkamum

tesuhoha wrote: »

If you have a 7 year old girl take her off on a shopping day, (with lunch, Starbucks and cinema thrown in). This will soon become a habit and a very nice one for the future

Or a boy you can take off for a ramble in the woods.

Hmmm slightly sexist my girl would love the ramble as my boy would love the shopping cinema!

tesuhoha

pukkamum wrote: »

Hmmm slightly sexist my girl would love the ramble as my boy would love the shopping cinema!

I suppose it is a bit and it does depend on the child. To be honest I have gone shopping with my 24 year old son when I gave him money for his birthday and he wanted clothes. (He asked me to go with him). It was quite an enjoyable couple of hours and we even managed the Pizza Hut! However, he couldn't wait to get out of the best shopping centre (Bluewater) and go home. He was even worse when he was young although he did love the cinema. Whereas to my daughter that kind of day out is pure joy.

However, I suppose my point was, if you need to escape, you can do it with the kids in tow.

aileth

Ah you poor thing! I always find that everything comes in threes, although unfortunately it always seems to be bad things and never good things!

loveabargain13

Sassyblue I feel for you... Have recently finished working for my Dad ended up in an awful situation. I just wanted to leave immediately but had to train someone to take over my position.

sassyblue

Thanks loveabargain xx My dad is overbearing and wants everything his own way, he cannot see any wrong in himself - the affairs, domestic violence in the past.... this time next year this will be just a memory though.

Good luck in your new found freedom!