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Going into hospital
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SandraScarlett wrote: »Sorry, but I don't understand this comment? They decided not to operate because he's nearly 75, has COPD, possible asbestosis, is physically disabled, has stage 6 (of 7) of Alzheimers, and it was considered a big risk.
He doesn't smoke, drink, has no processed food at all, so I don't know what I can "whip" in order to clear his arteries - what would you suggest?
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I took Parva's comment to be a compliment as to your strength and ability to cope, not realising how serious your husband's condition is. I think their comment was light hearted, not meant in a negative way?
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What will you do when he gets a job?0
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Sorry Sandra, I wasn't fully aware of how poorly he was. I'm taking my size 10's offline for now.SandraScarlett wrote: »Sorry, but I don't understand this comment? They decided not to operate because he's nearly 75, has COPD, possible asbestosis, is physically disabled, has stage 6 (of 7) of Alzheimers, and it was considered a big risk.
He doesn't smoke, drink, has no processed food at all, so I don't know what I can "whip" in order to clear his arteries - what would you suggest?
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SandraScarlett wrote: »How kind of you to enquire.
No, he didn't know what was happening, he was at his club, and they phoned to say he'd complained of a chest pain, and they'd called an ambulance. He was in hospital for a few days and then at the London Chest Hospital for an angiogram, where it was found all 3 arteries were badly damaged.
Combined with his other problems, it's been decided not to operate, so he has 19 tablets a day to take. I'm keeping him home for a couple of weeks, as he is so disorientated, so it's pretty hard, without a break. But at least my kitchen sink drains superbly now!!
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Look after yourself too, along with the wonderful caring you do for your husband, SandraScarlett.
I hope it is not considered ill mannered that I pray for the medication to help your husband's heart mend enough so that it does not cause more problems on top of his other health issues.Dear Lord, I am calling upon you today for your divine guidance and help. I am in crisis and need a supporting hand to keep me on the right and just path. My mind is troubled but I will strive to keep it set on you, as your infinite wisdom will show me the way to a just and right resolution. Amen.0 -
Naturally you will be worried about how you will cope, kazz3105, but when the alternative is not coping, you do find a way to manage.
As others have said, forward planning, making things easier for you whilst your partner is doing his course, hiring a commode, making sure something is left for you to eat whilst he is not there, easy reach of things you need, will make it easier to manage.
Unfortunately, your partner is claiming job seekers allowance and part of that is meeting the conditions laid down by the job centre. I imagine it will be even harder managing on a reduced income due to sanctions than it is with getting around.
Have a think about what you will need and plan for those so that you do not need someone with you for the few hours a day your partner will be on his course.
Good luck with the surgery and I wish you a speedy recovery.Dear Lord, I am calling upon you today for your divine guidance and help. I am in crisis and need a supporting hand to keep me on the right and just path. My mind is troubled but I will strive to keep it set on you, as your infinite wisdom will show me the way to a just and right resolution. Amen.0 -
Look after yourself too, along with the wonderful caring you do for your husband, SandraScarlett.
I hope it is not considered ill mannered that I pray for the medication to help your husband's heart mend enough so that it does not cause more problems on top of his other health issues.
What a lovely thing to say - thank you. Alas he is still so weak that he cannot attend any clubs, as his sleep is so unpredictable, 18 hours yesterday in about 6 bouts, so he is home all the time.
When he's awake, he's so confused, and has no energy at all, which is a worry. He has yet another GP appointment next week, when we get the results of the scan and aspiration tests.
I cannot leave him, even for a few minutes, but DD has insisted that she Daddy-sits for a few hours next week, so that I can have lunch out with a friend, which will be wonderful. :T
Thank you for your concern.
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What a lucky man to have such a devoted wife.....0
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Best bet is get an assessment by social care whilst in hospital. They can often put 6 weeks care in place as part of discharge package. Just don't leave it until your home as that then has delays,
Yes, in a lot of areas you can ask for an assessment for either Continuing Healthcare or Social Care Reablement, depending on your level of need and how your recovery rate will be. It is vital you ask for this prior to discharge - again, in our area there is a financial assessment for scr if you apply in the community but this is not the case from hospital. Make it very clear that although you 'have someone' they won't be in a position to help as much as they'd like. Good luck.0 -
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