Going into hospital

Mojisola

The Red Cross do have a service which would be worth asking about - https://www.redcross.org.uk/What-we-do/Health-and-social-care/Independent-living/Support-at-home

Other than that, there's lots of good advice above. Do a couple of trial runs before you go into hospital - you'll soon see what you need to have within arm's reach to keep you going through the day.

SandraScarlett

sunnyone wrote: »

I hope he is OK?

It will be a very frightening experiance for him, did he understand what was happening?

I too take what ever small piece of happiness that I can, it amazing what can make you smile isnt it ?

How kind of you to enquire. No, he didn't know what was happening, he was at his club, and they phoned to say he'd complained of a chest pain, and they'd called an ambulance. He was in hospital for a few days and then at the London Chest Hospital for an angiogram, where it was found all 3 arteries were badly damaged.

Combined with his other problems, it's been decided not to operate, so he has 19 tablets a day to take. I'm keeping him home for a couple of weeks, as he is so disorientated, so it's pretty hard, without a break. But at least my kitchen sink drains superbly now!!

xx

skintmacflint

sunnyone wrote: »

Im in next week for another OP and then again next month, than January and Im starting to feel like a fixture because I seem to be their more often than some of the staff!

Sorry to hear you're needing so many things in such a short time. Hope things go well for you.:)

Parva

SandraScarlett wrote: »

How kind of you to enquire. No, he didn't know what was happening, he was at his club, and they phoned to say he'd complained of a chest pain, and they'd called an ambulance. He was in hospital for a few days and then at the London Chest Hospital for an angiogram, where it was found all 3 arteries were badly damaged.

Combined with his other problems, it's been decided not to operate, so he has 19 tablets a day to take. I'm keeping him home for a couple of weeks, as he is so disorientated, so it's pretty hard, without a break. But at least my kitchen sink drains superbly now!!

xx

You could look at this in several ways. Firstly he has a partner that cares, that is a big bonus for many and something that many more don't have.

Secondly he has problems with his arteries, fair enough, make him take his medication.

Thirdly, whip his !!!, make him clear those arteries! I'm guessing they decided not to operate because it wasn't needed and you don't want to see him dead?

mazza111

The office chair is a great idea. When the dd was non weight bearing she had to move back home with me, cos she had a dislocated left knee along with the non weight bearing fractured right ankle. Wasn't the easiest of times, and she spent her time in her brother's bedroom, apart from coming downstairs when she needed to for hospital appointments. Then it was downstairs on her behind.

Organisaton is the key to this working for you, preparation of meals etc.

Good luck with ur surgery

Mojisola

And if you have any family or friends who offer to help - take them up on it!

sian123

do you have any friends that can help you?

sunnyone

SandraScarlett wrote: »

How kind of you to enquire. No, he didn't know what was happening, he was at his club, and they phoned to say he'd complained of a chest pain, and they'd called an ambulance. He was in hospital for a few days and then at the London Chest Hospital for an angiogram, where it was found all 3 arteries were badly damaged.

Combined with his other problems, it's been decided not to operate, so he has 19 tablets a day to take. I'm keeping him home for a couple of weeks, as he is so disorientated, so it's pretty hard, without a break. But at least my kitchen sink drains superbly now!!

xx

Its a nightmare when they are in hospital isnt it?

Hospitals are just not set up for dementia patients and they cant look after them, its not their fault really but its just so stressfull for both the patient and their famillies.

My MIL is physically fit and its a nightmare for us, it must be even worse for you and him because of his physical disabilities too.

I hope the tablets are controlling his condition and that he settles down soon, can you get some respite care (at his normal place so he knows where he is) once hes grounded again?

Hes is lucky that he has a wife that took her vows seriously, so many people get married and then run at the first sigh of trouble now a days.

I hope things settle down soon for you both xx

SandraScarlett

Parva wrote: »

You could look at this in several ways. Firstly he has a partner that cares, that is a big bonus for many and something that many more don't have.

Secondly he has problems with his arteries, fair enough, make him take his medication.

Thirdly, whip his !!!, make him clear those arteries! I'm guessing they decided not to operate because it wasn't needed and you don't want to see him dead?

Sorry, but I don't understand this comment? They decided not to operate because he's nearly 75, has COPD, possible asbestosis, is physically disabled, has stage 6 (of 7) of Alzheimers, and it was considered a big risk.

He doesn't smoke, drink, has no processed food at all, so I don't know what I can "whip" in order to clear his arteries - what would you suggest?

xx

SandraScarlett

sunnyone wrote: »

Its a nightmare when they are in hospital isnt it?

Hospitals are just not set up for dementia patients and they cant look after them, its not their fault really but its just so stressfull for both the patient and their famillies.

My MIL is physically fit and its a nightmare for us, it must be even worse for you and him because of his physical disabilities too.

I hope the tablets are controlling his condition and that he settles down soon, can you get some respite care (at his normal place so he knows where he is) once hes grounded again?

Hes is lucky that he has a wife that took her vows seriously, so many people get married and then run at the first sigh of trouble now a days.

I hope things settle down soon for you both xx

Yes, hopefully I'll get some respite soon. After nearly 50 years together, I'm not likely to trade him in, just because he's failed his MOT!!

But I do worry for all the poor souls who have nobody to look after them, especially if they are old, frightened, and have dementia as well as other illnesses.

xx