Getting your paws on your OHs pension/retirement plan after divorce

grey_gym_sock

dshart wrote: »

be thankful its only 50% they take as those words could be construed as a verbal contract and they could take you for everything.

well, if both parties promise that, surely they should swap worldly good, i.e. each take what the other started with.

dshart

grey_gym_sock wrote: »

well, if both parties promise that, surely they should swap worldly good, i.e. each take what the other started with.

I believe in the Anglican service it is only the man who says this!!!

JustAnotherSaver

dshart wrote: »

For anyone who said these words during their wedding ceremony

"With this Ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship, and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen."

and then get divorced, be thankful its only 50% they take as those words could be construed as a verbal contract and they could take you for everything.

So if someone says they're going to loan me £10 for the weekend & they then decide to jib on me & not pay up, should i sue them?As they did say they'd give me the £10.

atush

No, because if you have children or give up a career (or even a country to marry- I did) then you cannot go back to the way you were prior to marriage.

margaretclare

dshart wrote: »

I believe in the Anglican service it is only the man who says this!!!

The original 17th century service said that. Modernised, the 1920s I think, it was 'all my worldly goods with thee I share'.
Still more modernised, the words we said in 2002 were identical and we said them to each other i.e. I share my worldly goods with you, you share your worldly goods with me. Symbolised by exchanging wedding rings, not just man to woman.

duchy

If you enter into a contract it's wise to know what your obligations are before going ahead. Marriage is a contract just like any other.

dshart

Mind you it makes me think how many women said "obey" in their marriage vows, and whether them disobeying their husband could be classed as a breach of contract.

seven-day-weekend

When Paul McCartney was getting divorced from Heather Mills, I didn't see why she should have half the assets he had built up over all the years he had been married to Linda.

Neither did the judge, I'm glad to say.

However, I do think that everything you have built up together (whether one has worked and one has stayed at home to enable them to work, or whether both have worked), should be shared out fairly (not necessarily equally).

seven-day-weekend

doughnutmachine wrote: »

ehhhhmmm if being a stay at home parent is such hard work why do au pairs etc work for a pittance?

like it or not most full time jobs are harder work than sending the kids off to school, then doing a bit of housework then having a coffee morning with all the other full time mums.

I have been, at different times, a full-time working partner of the marriage, the main breadwinner, a working mum and a SAHM,.

When my son was young being a SAHM was hard, but once he went to school I got bored so did a degree and then got a part-time job. I actually do not think being a 'housewife' is hard work and never have done.

ognum

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I have been, at different times, a full-time working partner of the marriage, the main breadwinner, a working mum and a SAHM,.

When my son was young being a SAHM was hard, but once he went to school I got bored so did a degree and then got a part-time job. I actually do not think being a 'housewife' is hard work and never have done.

Like all jobs I guess it depends how hard you work at it!!!!!