Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 10

AquamarineMonkey

Welcome menollyke.

Hugs for CD1 clevernamehere. Now you have been trying a year are you going to see a doctor to have tests to see if there's anything preventing you from getting pregnant?

Gelly hugs for the sad news about your Dad. I don't think any of us could tell you whether or not it's best to carry on TTC or not as it's such a personal decision. I do agree with clevernamehere though and if it were me I wouldn't give up completely but NTNP. Given your age if you stopped for a while it might be too late when you started to try again. I'm the sane age as you and already worrying that I should have started TTC#2 sooner. Once you've been trying at least a year I think you can get fertility tests done, and once you turn 35 you can have them at 6 months I think. I wouldn't give up until I'd exhausted all options. Once I turn 35 and we've been trying 6 months I'm going straight to the doctors. Although we won't qualify for IVF I'll want all the tests and help that is available up to that point. In all honesty if everyone waited until the time is right we'd never even try. I wouldn't let the health of my family stop me though as I'm sure they wouldn't want me to give up my dreams for them. We lost a very close relative whilst I was pregnant with DS1 and then another 4 weeks after his birth and some other family members said having the new addition to the family really helped with their grief. If you will be caring for your parents I suppose you will have to consider if you could cope with being pregnant/ having a newborn too. It's not going to be an easy decision for you but I wish you the best of luck whatever you decide.

AFM, fell asleep again last night settling DS1 in bed on 1DPO as well, silly mare! Luckily my lectures to OH about the importance of BDing on specific days have sunk in and he had the sense to wake me up so we could BD.

bigzippy

Gelly my MIL died 18 months ago, after a number of complications from diabetes and a stroke 6 months before. We chose to carry on ttc/ntnp. We would have loved to tell her good news, had something positive to focus on, and it really upset us that it didn't happen like that. Having said all that, I was also very aware that life would've been more difficult in a lot of ways if I'd gotten pregnant before or during that time, or even much before when we did (I'm now 6 months pregnant) because of all the to and fro to the hospital, staying there for days, stress, and then the grieving process too. For all the months it didn't happen I broke my heart, but I'm also a woman with faith and I do believe that as crap as the years of ttc were, this baby is coming at the right time for us.

If I had my time over, I'd still have continued trying to conceive , even with hindsight... I think once you've decided to try, there's not an awful lot worth stopping /taking a break for. After all the timing is never really up to us (in my opinion) :cool:

Let's face it, this year and the time thereafter are going to be bloody hard regardless of this decision I feel for you...

*relurk*

Lara44

(((((Hugs))))) Gelly, I'm so sorry to hear that

Clevername, I'm glad to had you had a good trip to the Drs. Hope you don't need those tests

Gelly123

Massive thanks all for your hugs & replies - it's not an easy subject and clearly hubby & I see it from our perspective but we do wonder what other people might think should we actually get our BFP. Only a couple of our friends actually know we are TTC #1 and how long we have been trying - haven't told either sets of parents as clearly there is enough stress around already.

When we started our TTC journey back in November 2012, we knew it wasn't the "perfect time" but it was as good as it was going to get considering our family position but sadly that has changed considerably this year.

Hubby and I have spoken about it and agreed that for now, we should continue to TTC and see what happens. I've already got sucked far too deep into the charting, temping, tracking on FF, etc to be able to step out now but will probably go and see the doctor in the next couple of weeks to see what our options are.

We agreed that if we did stop, our ages are against us if we waited then tried again and were not succesful, we would probably be past the age where there may be any help so for now we shall continue our journey.

Thanks all for your help - it's a difficult journey at the best of times....
Gelly
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tinkwings

cd1 please

Gelly123

Oh Tinks....hugs for you xxx

I'm also due to have a visit in the next day or so - pretty sure this isn't the one

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Clevernamehere

Thanks Aquamarine, we've actually been trying for longer than a year but yes, we went to the Dr last month and I've just phoned to arrange 21 day blood tests. I never wanted this but it's long past time.

Credit Crunch. No I don't know how you take your mind off the whole thing. If you find out will you let me know?! I've just booked a facial I can't afford, maybe that's the answer?

Gelly Glad to hear you've made your decision. I'm sure you've made the right one. I think it's a bit like when you're told "try not to think about it", It's all you can think about! I hope it goes well for you and you take some time for yourself in all this.

Disney_Pluto

Gelly, I think you have made the right decision. I'm really sorry about your sad news. As a group we are here for you.

Tinks sorry for CD1 big hug and lots of chocolate

Menollyke welcome and I hope your stay is short in the nicest possible way.

Hugs to anyone who needs one.

Update on my situation I'm now a few days late and taken another test but BFN so don't know what's going on with my body. Is it possible I may still be pg? I'm starting to lose hope but no sign of AF either. So confused

tea_lover

disney_pluto - certainly possible. Some pg's can take ages to show up on a test. Are you sure about when you ovulated or could it have been later than you think? Really hope it's good news x.

gelly - just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you and your family, sounds like a tough time. Take care x.

tink - hugs for CD1. Don't think I'm far behind. Will be having the most enormous tantrum when AF shows her face.... really did think this was it this time.

Disney_Pluto

Thanks tea. Ovulation was strange this cycle. Cheapie opk got what looked like positive normal time but clear blue didn't get positive until 5 days later so I'm not really sure. Since I came off the pill 7 months ago I've been bang on 34 days so just feel strange to be late.

Hope your wrong about your AF it hasn't arrived yet so never give up!

Doesn't help I've got a cold at the mo too!